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Old 02-14-2010, 03:31 PM
 
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That is what I was thinking, problem neither of our houses are really large enough to host a shower comfortably but neither of us can afford to pay for 30 lunches either.
Make some punch. Get a baby-themed cake from a grocery store and have them ice it with Congratulations on Your New Baby. You could get a six-foot long submarine sandwich made from some grocery stores or a sandwich shop which would help cut costs.

Scrumptious Baby Shower Food!

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Old 02-14-2010, 04:32 PM
 
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I am co-hosting a baby shower for a very close friend of mine. We are thinking of having it at a restaurant but my question is, should we the co-host's pay for it or is it acceptable to ask the attendees to pay for it and we supply dessert and drinks?
Hosting=paying.
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Old 02-14-2010, 04:46 PM
 
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We live in a township and they have a township hall that is available to rent for fairly cheap. Maybe your town offers something like that. Outdoors at a park with a pavilion area is nice also, weather permitting of course. There are many ideas that could be done for much cheaper than the restaurant.

I would talk to a bunch of people you know in town and get their suggestions on a hall or something similar, you might be surprised with all the ideas that you get and they will all be places right in your area.
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Old 02-14-2010, 08:15 PM
 
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Shower hosts are responsible for food whether eaten out or brought in.

If you are able to get a better price eating out over paying for decorations, room rental, appetizers/food, cake and drinks then it may be a good way to go. However, you'd have to make sure the place you are choosing will allow a large, loud party that will take up tables for longer than the average customers. They have to be able to make a profit equal to or better in order to agree to it. Some places have areas that they can set apart from the rest of the customers for private parties, and that may be a good price. I know that locally Fuddruckers and Golden Corral have separate party areas, just as a couple of examples.

If you do choose to do dinner out, be prepared for the inevitable extra guests that tend to show up, like the little daughter who refused to stay home, or the friend in from out of town they didn't want to leave alone at home....just a thought to consider when it comes to final cost.

Otherwise, I'd try to find an alternate place like mentioned. Church halls, city community rooms, apartment clubhouses, park facilities, library meeting rooms, to name a few.
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Old 02-15-2010, 04:23 PM
 
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Check out your Park District. Most have a room you can rent for pretty cheap. Bring a cake, drinks, maybe some chips & dips.
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Old 02-15-2010, 05:20 PM
 
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That is what I was thinking, problem neither of our houses are really large enough to host a shower comfortably but neither of us can afford to pay for 30 lunches either.
This is just bizarre. If people can't afford something, why do it? Am pretty sure the baby would just be fine without a public baby shower
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Old 02-15-2010, 05:22 PM
 
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This is just bizarre. If people can't afford something, why do it? Am pretty sure the baby would just be fine without a public baby shower
I don't think it is bizarre. I'm sure she offered to do something nice for a friend and it got bigger than she expected.
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Old 02-15-2010, 05:23 PM
 
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I am co-hosting a baby shower for a very close friend of mine. We are thinking of having it at a restaurant but my question is, should we the co-host's pay for it or is it acceptable to ask the attendees to pay for it and we supply dessert and drinks?
Anytime you invite people to a party YOU pay.

If you can't afford to pick up everyone's tab at a restaurant than you'd better find someone's home to host it at.
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Old 02-15-2010, 05:40 PM
 
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I don't think it is bizarre. I'm sure she offered to do something nice for a friend and it got bigger than she expected.
It always does. Treating even a little crowd of 50 in a shanty double tree hotel is like 5000 dollars

But I can tell where the OP comes from. Traditionally, baby showers are power shows, where people go in and suck up to the Dad or the Mom. They're still big in the East. When me and brother were born, there were festivities for several days. The whole parade of having a band, music, slaughtering animals and feeding a crowd. It's still the norm back in my home. And you're never short of freeloaders too.

Traditionally, relatives pour in with countless gifts and money cheques. But the world has changed. And I don't think friends in this part of the world will show up with generous gifts. They're gonna attend like attending a wedding. Pick a walmart item, swing by, kiss the kiddo and run for their cars. What comes later is a fat bill
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Old 02-15-2010, 05:47 PM
 
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AC - that's not where she's coming from though....Typically here, a baby shower is 10-20 close women friends who get together for lunch or tea, play some silly games and "shower" the mom to be with gifts. Typically the gifts are not extravagant unless they are from relatives or if several guests go together on one larger gift.
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