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Old 02-17-2010, 08:16 AM
 
Location: (WNY)
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Do you have a park with an enclosed shelter or community center? I have been to several at our local community center and it only cost the rental of the room- which I believe was $100 and everyone made/brought food.... they decorated the room nicely and it was big enough for everyone.... Just a thought on the cheap... it is what you make it- could be really cute and inexpensive!
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Old 02-17-2010, 02:52 PM
 
Location: Minnesota
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It is never OK to ask a guest to pay for anything.

Kristine
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Old 02-21-2010, 08:55 PM
 
Location: SC
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I agree...It is NEVER ok to ask a guest to pay and very tacky

Go to this site and look around for ideas:

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Old 05-06-2018, 07:19 AM
 
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I think the most controversial question about having baby showers is knowing who will handle the cost. I've read a few notes like this [url=http://myparentingjourney.com/who-pays-for-baby-shower]Who Pays For Baby Shower? 2018[/url] online before I pitch in my two cents. I think unless someone offered to do host or do if for the mom, it is accepted that the mom (or the couple having the baby) should pay for the expenses.
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Old 05-06-2018, 07:40 AM
 
Location: Indianapolis, East Side
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Yes, the host pays for all the expenses of a party. (Baby showers typically aren't potlucks.)

Maybe it's just the people I know, but people seem to hate baby showers. (The office manager where I work has been complaining about hosting "the baby shower from hell"). If it's gotten that expensive, and people hate them so much, why not entertain within your means, serve food your guests like, and play games people already have on hand and enjoy playing. Seems like it can only be an improvement.
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Old 05-06-2018, 09:45 AM
 
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I think the most controversial question about having baby showers is knowing who will handle the cost. I've read a few notes like this Who Pays For Baby Shower? 2018 online before I pitch in my two cents. I think unless someone offered to do host or do if for the mom, it is accepted that the mom (or the couple having the baby) should pay for the expenses.
I know this is an old zombie thread, but I have to chime in here.

The link you mentioned had no advice whatever for couples who don't have someone else host their baby shower.

I know it's done in some areas/communities where the mother hosts her own shower, but in most communities that is a REALLY serious etiquette breach. This seems to be happening mostly in cases where the mother is young, single, and truly needs help with expenses that their family is unwilling or unable to provide, so in desperation she hosts her own shower.

A baby shower should be hosted by a friend, or a group of friends, or family who are not in the direct "line" of the mother - that is, no grandmas or great grandmas should host.

Baby showers are often hosted by several hosts, making it a really fun thing all around and not too much burden on any one host.
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Old 05-06-2018, 09:49 AM
 
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Yes, the host pays for all the expenses of a party. (Baby showers typically aren't potlucks.)

Maybe it's just the people I know, but people seem to hate baby showers. (The office manager where I work has been complaining about hosting "the baby shower from hell"). If it's gotten that expensive, and people hate them so much, why not entertain within your means, serve food your guests like, and play games people already have on hand and enjoy playing. Seems like it can only be an improvement.
I completely agree. There is no call to rent out a hall or hotel reception room to host a baby shower - that just looks like a complete gift grab and a headache.

I've seen cases where a couple hostesses get together, and the one with the biggest home/most social space offers her home, and the others do the decorating and food.

But not, like, for hundreds of people.
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Old 05-06-2018, 07:53 PM
 
Location: here
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I think the most controversial question about having baby showers is knowing who will handle the cost. I've read a few notes like this Who Pays For Baby Shower? 2018 online before I pitch in my two cents. I think unless someone offered to do host or do if for the mom, it is accepted that the mom (or the couple having the baby) should pay for the expenses.
The person or people who offer to host should pay. No, the mom or the couple should never throw their own baby shower.
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Old 05-06-2018, 08:10 PM
 
Location: Indianapolis, East Side
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Re: the original post on not having the space for all 30 guests...don't invite 30 guests.
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Old 05-08-2018, 03:40 AM
 
Location: Dallas, Texas
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I know this is an old zombie thread, but I have to chime in here.

The link you mentioned had no advice whatever for couples who don't have someone else host their baby shower.

I know it's done in some areas/communities where the mother hosts her own shower, but in most communities that is a REALLY serious etiquette breach. This seems to be happening mostly in cases where the mother is young, single, and truly needs help with expenses that their family is unwilling or unable to provide, so in desperation she hosts her own shower.

A baby shower should be hosted by a friend, or a group of friends, or family who are not in the direct "line" of the mother - that is, no grandmas or great grandmas should host.

Baby showers are often hosted by several hosts, making it a really fun thing all around and not too much burden on any one host.
Yes, old thread. Love your info on the etiquette breach. When you think about it, even in the best of circumstances, the baby shower can be a bit of a gift grab. Let's not make it more of one. It should be hosted by loving girlfriends.
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