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Anyone else been bullied by other adults who will befriend anyone you talk to in an effort to isolate you? I have one sister who did this (at my mom's funeral-and afterward) and a sister in law. There strategy is simple. Watch who I hang out with and somehow find a way to get in contact with them and kiss their ass so they inevitably draw them into their circle, which I totally avoid. That leaves me alone, again. Over and over my sister in law does this..she sees who I talk to at a school event or who my daughter plays with. Then her daughter suddenly is friends with this persons child and BINGO! ass kissing pays off. My sister does this with my relatives, and gets really crafty with her ways. Is it just me or has this happened to anyone else?
So, you've got toxic relatives. Don't associate with them. There is no way to change their behavior. If you try, you just get sucked in to their drama.
Anyone else been bullied by other adults who will befriend anyone you talk to in an effort to isolate you? I have one sister who did this (at my mom's funeral-and afterward) and a sister in law. There strategy is simple. Watch who I hang out with and somehow find a way to get in contact with them and kiss their ass so they inevitably draw them into their circle, which I totally avoid. That leaves me alone, again. Over and over my sister in law does this..she sees who I talk to at a school event or who my daughter plays with. Then her daughter suddenly is friends with this persons child and BINGO! ass kissing pays off. My sister does this with my relatives, and gets really crafty with her ways. Is it just me or has this happened to anyone else?
Been there, done that. And you are not crazy or alone. oregonwoodsmoke is correct: the person will never change and your only defense is to separate yourself from them.
It's painful, I know, but that's the only option I can think of. Yes, it's bullying, but I suspect there is some underlying mental/psychological problem with them.
Anyone else been bullied by other adults who will befriend anyone you talk to in an effort to isolate you? I have one sister who did this (at my mom's funeral-and afterward) and a sister in law. There strategy is simple. Watch who I hang out with and somehow find a way to get in contact with them and kiss their ass so they inevitably draw them into their circle, which I totally avoid. That leaves me alone, again. Over and over my sister in law does this..she sees who I talk to at a school event or who my daughter plays with. Then her daughter suddenly is friends with this persons child and BINGO! ass kissing pays off. My sister does this with my relatives, and gets really crafty with her ways. Is it just me or has this happened to anyone else?
Why do you think they are doing this to you? What do you think motivates this behavior? Are they holding a grudge against you?
I don't understand. You can no longer be friends with the people your sister and sister and law become friends with? Why can't you just bring other people you like into your social circle without feeling competitive and paranoid about it?
Anyone else been bullied by other adults who will befriend anyone you talk to in an effort to isolate you? I have one sister who did this (at my mom's funeral-and afterward) and a sister in law. There strategy is simple. Watch who I hang out with and somehow find a way to get in contact with them and kiss their ass so they inevitably draw them into their circle, which I totally avoid. That leaves me alone, again. Over and over my sister in law does this..she sees who I talk to at a school event or who my daughter plays with. Then her daughter suddenly is friends with this persons child and BINGO! ass kissing pays off. My sister does this with my relatives, and gets really crafty with her ways. Is it just me or has this happened to anyone else?
Now I am even more confused.
Isn't your mother her mother?
Aren't your relatives her relatives?
Does she turn these people against you? Or is your issue solely that you don't want to associate with anyone who associates with her?
If it's the latter, I think you should continue your relationships with the mutual friends of your sister, especially if your relationship with the mutual friends is long-standing.. There are plenty of people in my social circle who are buddies with people I don't like, but that doesn't affect anything.
I do agree with Elhelmete, though, I don't think this qualifies as bullying and I think that term is getting way overused.
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