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Old 04-12-2011, 04:41 PM
 
Location: Salt Lake City
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Have you noticed how many people don't address you by your name at all?! I know my Mom was doing it deliberately with Grandma because she didn't want to call her Mom (which was the custom back home). I've always wondered about those people... I'm pretty sure I read about this as being a very subtle symptom of NPD. I don't know about that, but it's certainly a sign of disrespect.
I have to plead guilty. I could not bring myself to call my mother-in-law "mom" or "mother," since I was so super close to my own mother. I did occasionally call her Rachel, but I felt like I was supposed to be calling her "mom" or "mother," so no matter what I called her, it didn't feel right.

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Before somebody tells me I don't address them by their names on the forum (because I'd like to), pick a darn moniker you can be addressed by!
You mean you don't address awoe4iu34k by that name! How rude of you!
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Old 04-12-2011, 04:43 PM
 
Location: Salt Lake City
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If you introduce yourself that way, I cant imagine why anyone would call you something different????? I had a boyfriend named William. He told everyone his name was William and I called him William. I could not believe the people that called him Willy. He hated it and so did I, so I kinda feel your pain. :0)
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I can see someone asking you, do you go by Kathy.....but then once you say no, why would they continue to call you that?????? Good luck Kathryn!!!!!!
I'm fine with people asking me if I go by Kathy. When I tell them I don't, they usually call me Kathryn. That's the people who bother to ask. It's the ones who just figure they can call me by whatever name they prefer that bug me.
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Old 04-12-2011, 04:44 PM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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Chunky Phil!
Whoa - I forgot Chunky!
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Old 04-12-2011, 04:47 PM
 
Location: state of procrastination
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Oh, people make up names for me all the time - including names that sound nothing like my name. They also find weird ways of spelling it that are beyond anyone's imagination. Some people insist on calling me by my last name. Some people use shortened version without me telling them it is fine. After trying to correct people, I've pretty much given up. I don't like my name that much anyways, so I don't care... I should just assign myself a number / barcode and be referred to by that number / barcode.

The only time when I complain is when it is on a legal document. They mess up my first name, middle name, AND last name - mostly because all 3 names are fairly uncommon, but also because people have an inability to read carefully. It's such a freaking drag. I've had to use a lawyer and go to court to get my name cleared up before.
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Old 04-12-2011, 04:48 PM
 
Location: Salt Lake City
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I'd correct anyone who called you by Kathy - whether or not the interaction was expected to be brief or extended - and do it quickly. And if it takes repeated times, so be it. And just keep doing it, as long as it takes for them to get it.
I know. I probably should. I think I'm going to start doing that, at least with people I meet in the future. There are some people who have been calling me Kathy for years, and they'd probably wonder why I'd never mentioned it before now. All of my husband's extended family calls me Kathy, even though he always refers to me as Kathryn. Seriously, you'd think they'd pick up on that after all the years we've been married.

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You can't change the world, and most of the world thinks nicknames and shortened names are a sign of intimacy - so it's actually a nice impulse on their part, when they shorten your name.
Well, maybe they mean well, but my parents always called me Kathryn, my sister calls me Kathryn, and my husband calls me Kathryn. Based on that alone, it should be obvious that the people who know me the most intimately are calling me by what I want to be called.
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Old 04-12-2011, 04:50 PM
 
Location: Salt Lake City
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how about people that refuse to spell your name the right way? i've been fighting that battle my whole life
That's a whole 'nother problem!

Kathryn
Katheryn
Katherine
Cathryn
Catheryn
Catherine

Say it right and I'll worry about the spelling after you've nailed the pronunciation.
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Old 04-12-2011, 04:52 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Whoa - I forgot Chunky!
That's not Chunky. That's chunky Phil!
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Old 04-12-2011, 05:47 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I had some customer calling me carl at work about a month ago, I was going to correct him but thought hey, I don't even really like carl anyway, he didn't know I wasn't carl even though he was telling me about stuff we never talked about. I kinda figured both of these idiots needed a wake up call so I just said no I couldn't do that, I heard about it about a week later. I feel so dark inside
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Old 04-12-2011, 05:54 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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All I want to know is, is it just me? Am I overly-sensitive or what? My name is Kathryn. I always, always, always introduce myself as Kathryn. When I'm doing business with people and give them my name, I say it's Kathryn. When I call people on the phone and leave a message, I say that it's Kathryn calling. It doesn't seem to matter one single solitary bit to most people. At least half of them simply assume that I want to be called Kathy. I hate the name Kathy. Yes, I know I can always correct them. Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. It kind of depends upon whether I expect our interaction to be a brief one or an extended one. My beef with this is that I don't see why I should have to do that. If I tell people my name, it shouldn't be all that much to ask to expect them to call me by that name. Do other people have this problem?
Opposite problem. My name is Jessie. Just Jessie. Not short for Jessica. My ENTIRE LIFE, people have INSISTED that my name is Jessica. Nope. Trust me, I know my name, and it's NOT Jessica. I'm not being coy. It's just NOT MY NAME.

I should legally change my name to "Just Jessie." Because that's what I'm FOREVER having to explain to people.

Then there's spelling it, once they get it figured out that it's NOT Jessica. I'm not Jessi, nor am I Jesse.
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Old 04-12-2011, 06:00 PM
 
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I talked to SO many people every day in my line of work, sometimes it's hard to remember how a particular client introduced herself. Sometimes, I get a referral and the person who sent it to me ASSUMED they wanted to be called Kathy, so that's what I call her.

I work in a very male environment, so most of the time, I get called by my last name. It's kind of fun being one of the guys!
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