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Old 04-12-2011, 07:17 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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There are some people who have been calling me Kathy for years, and they'd probably wonder why I'd never mentioned it before now.
i think there are ways to word it, where it would be fine... If you told me you've never really liked Kathy, but that you've let it go for years because you didn't want to make a fuss over something fairly trivial - but that over time it's started to bother you more, and you'd really prefer to be called Kathryn? I would immediately make the effort to switch, even if I'd known you for decades as Kathy.


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All of my husband's extended family calls me Kathy, even though he always refers to me as Kathryn. Seriously, you'd think they'd pick up on that after all the years we've been married.
If they ALL call you Kathy, then they may feel that Kathryn is your husband's special name for you.

It really is amazing what a loaded subject this is! You can seriously turn someone on - or turn them off - just based on what you name you call them.
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Old 04-12-2011, 07:22 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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All I want to know is, is it just me? Am I overly-sensitive or what? My name is Kathryn. I always, always, always introduce myself as Kathryn. When I'm doing business with people and give them my name, I say it's Kathryn. When I call people on the phone and leave a message, I say that it's Kathryn calling. It doesn't seem to matter one single solitary bit to most people. At least half of them simply assume that I want to be called Kathy. I hate the name Kathy. Yes, I know I can always correct them. Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. It kind of depends upon whether I expect our interaction to be a brief one or an extended one. My beef with this is that I don't see why I should have to do that. If I tell people my name, it shouldn't be all that much to ask to expect them to call me by that name. Do other people have this problem?
It happens all the time whenever you have a name that can easily be shortened.

Peter becomes Pete, James becomes Jim, Zachary becomes Zach, Elizabeth becomes Beth, or Liz

I think when people shorten names they do it to be friendly and more personel, not because they didn't hear you say your name.

Don't let it get to you so much! Nobody is trying to offend or upset you. Just gently remind them of your preference and I'm sure they'll do better the next time you see or talk to them
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Old 04-12-2011, 07:55 PM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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That's not Chunky. That's chunky Phil!
Ah, OK - the stripper-food thing...
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Old 04-12-2011, 08:01 PM
 
Location: Bon Temps
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My name is Michelle... I have an "uncle in-law" that called me Rachel for years.
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Old 04-12-2011, 09:16 PM
 
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I can relate to that, shoot, before I changed departments my boss STILL couldn't get my name right; after seven months!
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Old 04-12-2011, 09:18 PM
 
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All I want to know is, is it just me? Am I overly-sensitive or what? My name is Kathryn....
Hello Kat.
-Mathew
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Old 04-12-2011, 09:22 PM
 
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No, I don't have that problem. I've never been called Kathy or Kathryn.
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Old 04-12-2011, 09:31 PM
 
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Default Why do you fight, Kathryn. Why do you fight?*

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All I want to know is, is it just me? Am I overly-sensitive or what? My name is Kathryn. I always, always, always introduce myself as Kathryn. When I'm doing business with people and give them my name, I say it's Kathryn. When I call people on the phone and leave a message, I say that it's Kathryn calling. It doesn't seem to matter one single solitary bit to most people. At least half of them simply assume that I want to be called Kathy. I hate the name Kathy. Yes, I know I can always correct them. Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. It kind of depends upon whether I expect our interaction to be a brief one or an extended one. My beef with this is that I don't see why I should have to do that. If I tell people my name, it shouldn't be all that much to ask to expect them to call me by that name. Do other people have this problem?
Would you rather they called you "honey" or "sweetie?"

I'm not trying to belittle your concern, but if it's someone you are only going to interact with once, being peevish about it is wasted energy. Otherwise, take it upon yourself to say, with a genuine smile, "Please, do call me Kathryn." And try to inject some wit into it so they don't see you as, well, peevish.

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*With apologies to [URL="http://youtu.be/X8f-sxds5zI"]k.d. lang[/URL].
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Old 04-12-2011, 10:13 PM
 
Location: My House
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People screw up my name all the time. I'm just used to it. I even let them keep calling me the wrong name until they sometimes realize they called me the wrong name and profusely apologize.

And don't get me started on the spelling issue. Let's just say my name is not hard to spell, and my very Christian grandma cannot spell it, yet it is found in the Bible, multiple times.

Good grief.
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Old 04-12-2011, 10:17 PM
 
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People screw up my name all the time. I'm just used to it. I even let them keep calling me the wrong name until they sometimes realize they called me the wrong name and profusely apologize.

And don't get me started on the spelling issue. Let's just say my name is not hard to spell, and my very Christian grandma cannot spell it, yet it is found in the Bible, multiple times.

Good grief.
I can relate, people are forever misspelling my name. My name has been spelled every way but the right way.
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