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Old 04-12-2011, 04:02 PM
 
Location: Salt Lake City
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All I want to know is, is it just me? Am I overly-sensitive or what? My name is Kathryn. I always, always, always introduce myself as Kathryn. When I'm doing business with people and give them my name, I say it's Kathryn. When I call people on the phone and leave a message, I say that it's Kathryn calling. It doesn't seem to matter one single solitary bit to most people. At least half of them simply assume that I want to be called Kathy. I hate the name Kathy. Yes, I know I can always correct them. Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. It kind of depends upon whether I expect our interaction to be a brief one or an extended one. My beef with this is that I don't see why I should have to do that. If I tell people my name, it shouldn't be all that much to ask to expect them to call me by that name. Do other people have this problem?
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Old 04-12-2011, 04:07 PM
 
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Joshua is my full name, I always introduce myself as Josh. My profile has my name as Josh. It doesn't bother me honestly.

Of all the names I've been called though, God is probably my favorite.
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Old 04-12-2011, 04:07 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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I've been called Tim, Tom, Jim, Terry, Mike...

I'd rather be addressed by my last name, but I'm sure people could get that wrong too. As a matter of fact, as long as the right name is on the check, that's all I care about.
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Old 04-12-2011, 04:07 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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All I want to know is, is it just me? Am I overly-sensitive or what? My name is Kathryn. I always, always, always introduce myself as Kathryn. When I'm doing business with people and give them my name, I say it's Kathryn. When I call people on the phone and leave a message, I say that it's Kathryn calling. It doesn't seem to matter one single solitary bit to most people. At least half of them simply assume that I want to be called Kathy. I hate the name Kathy. Yes, I know I can always correct them. Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. It kind of depends upon whether I expect our interaction to be a brief one or an extended one. My beef with this is that I don't see why I should have to do that. If I tell people my name, it shouldn't be all that much to ask to expect them to call me by that name. Do other people have this problem?
At least they call you by SOME name! I agree it's not acceptable, though.

Have you noticed how many people don't address you by your name at all?! I know my Mom was doing it deliberately with Grandma because she didn't want to call her Mom (which was the custom back home). I've always wondered about those people... I'm pretty sure I read about this as being a very subtle symptom of NPD. I don't know about that, but it's certainly a sign of disrespect.

Before somebody tells me I don't address them by their names on the forum (because I'd like to), pick a darn moniker you can be addressed by!
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Old 04-12-2011, 04:10 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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"hon" or "sweetie" works fine for me.

I seem to remember a commercial where the waitress had a nickname for a number of her customers, and it was a different one for each.
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Old 04-12-2011, 04:10 PM
 
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If you introduce yourself that way, I cant imagine why anyone would call you something different????? I had a boyfriend named William. He told everyone his name was William and I called him William. I could not believe the people that called him Willy. He hated it and so did I, so I kinda feel your pain. :0) I can see someone asking you, do you go by Kathy.....but then once you say no, why would they continue to call you that?????? Good luck Kathryn!!!!!!
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Old 04-12-2011, 04:14 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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All I want to know is, is it just me? Am I overly-sensitive or what? My name is Kathryn. I always, always, always introduce myself as Kathryn. When I'm doing business with people and give them my name, I say it's Kathryn. When I call people on the phone and leave a message, I say that it's Kathryn calling. It doesn't seem to matter one single solitary bit to most people. At least half of them simply assume that I want to be called Kathy. I hate the name Kathy. Yes, I know I can always correct them. Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. It kind of depends upon whether I expect our interaction to be a brief one or an extended one. My beef with this is that I don't see why I should have to do that. If I tell people my name, it shouldn't be all that much to ask to expect them to call me by that name. Do other people have this problem?
I'd correct anyone who called you by Kathy - whether or not the interaction was expected to be brief or extended - and do it quickly. And if it takes repeated times, so be it. And just keep doing it, as long as it takes for them to get it.

You can't change the world, and most of the world thinks nicknames and shortened names are a sign of intimacy - so it's actually a nice impulse on their part, when they shorten your name. All you can do is continue to correct people who call you be the wrong name...
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Old 04-12-2011, 04:27 PM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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I seem to remember a commercial where the waitress had a nickname for a number of her customers, and it was a different one for each.
That was a funny commercial!

I get called a multitude of names - Philip, Phil, Sifu, Sensei, Doctor Phil, Phillipe (one of my faves), Fubert, Philly Phil, Phillatio and Lord High Exalted Master - but I think it depends upon the intent of the speaker. If they're a friend or associate and I don't mind that name, no harm done. But if it grated on me then I would certainly tell them to knock it off.

It also depends upon the venue - if I worked as a bank manager, being called Philly Phil would probably not sit well with me nor would it be professional in that setting. But the same name used by a close friend while we're out drinking and busting chops, while perhaps a bit embarrassing, would be tolerable.
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Old 04-12-2011, 04:31 PM
 
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All I want to know is, is it just me? Am I overly-sensitive or what? My name is Kathryn. I always, always, always introduce myself as Kathryn. When I'm doing business with people and give them my name, I say it's Kathryn. When I call people on the phone and leave a message, I say that it's Kathryn calling. It doesn't seem to matter one single solitary bit to most people. At least half of them simply assume that I want to be called Kathy. I hate the name Kathy. Yes, I know I can always correct them. Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. It kind of depends upon whether I expect our interaction to be a brief one or an extended one. My beef with this is that I don't see why I should have to do that. If I tell people my name, it shouldn't be all that much to ask to expect them to call me by that name. Do other people have this problem?
how about people that refuse to spell your name the right way? i've been fighting that battle my whole life
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Old 04-12-2011, 04:39 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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That was a funny commercial!

I get called a multitude of names - Philip, Phil, Sifu, Sensei, Doctor Phil, Phillipe (one of my faves), Fubert, Philly Phil, Phillatio and Lord High Exalted Master - but I think it depends upon the intent of the speaker. If they're a friend or associate and I don't mind that name, no harm done. But if it grated on me then I would certainly tell them to knock it off.
Chunky Phil!
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