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Old 07-30-2009, 12:03 AM
 
Location: southern california
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you hit it on the nail good post. i am ok with a lil happy. i dont do happy happy too well, when i do happy happy very soon i wake up and find the house burning.
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Old 07-30-2009, 06:55 AM
 
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To me trusting happiness is just like hearing silence when 2 or more kids are playing together - something's up and run like hell!
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Old 07-30-2009, 02:49 PM
 
Location: Right Here
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The reason why I don't trust happiness is because as much as I know logically that "happiness comes from within, " I know what my body reacts differently when the sun is out than when it's raining. Or whether I have a fight with a friend or we hug. Whether I win the lottery or I am evicted. It's not just something mental, it's physiological.

The circumstances of my life DO have an impact on how I feel. I think I can choose to be contented. I can choose to accept what I can, change what I can and move on with the rest. But emotions just happen. That may be why I don't trust it.

That euphoria that I feel when I am dancing and the music is just amazing! That's happiness for me and I wish I could feel that all the time....
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Old 07-30-2009, 02:54 PM
 
Location: Omaha
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So do you all trust misery then? I don't get many of these responses.
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Old 07-30-2009, 04:22 PM
 
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Is it even possible to trust happiness?

It's one of the few things every human strives for in their life. Some give up sooner than others and some have it way more than others. There are so many factors in our life which determine how happy we are. One person will be dealt a better hand than another and some are just better suited "genetically" do deal with life’s trials and find happiness.

Nobody is ever truly happy ALL THE TIME. It's impossible. At every level of the universe there are positives and negatives. Being "Happy" all the time would create a great imbalance in your life. There is never a perfect balance which explains successful people vs. violent criminals.

We all want it, half of us will have it, half of those who do don't actually know how they got it. Those who are sad more than not will eventually understand why they aren't happy and the key for them is to realize why sooner than later.

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Old 07-30-2009, 05:05 PM
 
Location: Some place very cold
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I'm happier now than I've ever been in my life. I contribute it to getting out of a bad relationship (he was verbally abusive) and moving 3,000 miles away from my family.
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Old 07-31-2009, 07:05 AM
 
Location: Right Here
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So do you all trust misery then? I don't get many of these responses.
Great question, That Guy.
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Old 07-31-2009, 08:00 AM
 
Location: Back in the gym...Yo Adrian!
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For most adults, life is a grind. Happiness comes in short bursts, usually in the form of pleasure. Not too many people out there are walking around feeling happy all the time, if you are, I want some of those vitamins your taking. I would gamble to say most people aren't delighted their jobs, are bored with their marriages and are rarely content with what they have. They go through life complaining about what they "don't" have instead of seeing how much they do have. Just read through posts on C-D from every state...people are constantly looking to move somewhere else in hopes of finding happiness, not realizing they have to take themselves and all of their mental baggage with them, and the cycle starts all over again once the newness wears off.
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Old 07-31-2009, 11:23 AM
 
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For most adults, life is a grind. Happiness comes in short bursts, usually in the form of pleasure. Not too many people out there are walking around feeling happy all the time, if you are, I want some of those vitamins your taking. I would gamble to say most people aren't delighted their jobs, are bored with their marriages and are rarely content with what they have. They go through life complaining about what they "don't" have instead of seeing how much they do have. Just read through posts on C-D from every state...people are constantly looking to move somewhere else in hopes of finding happiness, not realizing they have to take themselves and all of their mental baggage with them, and the cycle starts all over again once the newness wears off.
You hit the nail on the head. Happiness = pleasure for most of us. It takes A LOT of mental energy to convince yourself otherwise.

Also, that is the appeal of travel for people, I think. To get away, physically and figuratively. If it's a vacation, that often works...but once you move somewhere else, you realize that you are still the same person and people are the same everywhere you go (once you get to know them well).
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