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Old 07-26-2011, 11:03 PM
 
Location: Middle of the ocean
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I guess that pretty much sums it up. I just wish they'd steal things like money which can be replaced instead of stealing my things which cannot be replaced.

Long time ago I was moving from one state to another. My car was broken into and, of course, they took all the things that cannot be replaced and important things and left the TV and stereo behind. Seems to work that way for me.
Despite my flippant answer, I'm sorry. When someone steals from you they take more than the mere object... they take trust, memories, innocence, security....
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Old 07-26-2011, 11:07 PM
 
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Despite my flippant answer, I'm sorry. When someone steals from you they take more than the mere object... they take trust, memories, innocence, security....
Bingo. Thanks. You hit the nail on the head. They really do take all those other things too and there is no dollar value on those things either and no way to get them back once they are gone.
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Old 07-26-2011, 11:11 PM
 
Location: Middle of the ocean
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Bingo. Thanks. You hit the nail on the head. They really do take all those other things too and there is no dollar value on those things either and no way to get them back once they are gone.
I don't allow those who have previously pilfered a second chance at a shopping spree. Your trust has too much value.
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Old 07-27-2011, 01:50 AM
 
Location: Holiday, FL
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Well, I was asking myself, self - have you ever stolen? Then I thought about pens from work and yes I've taken them. If asked I'd probably say no too. But we're talking pens from a corporation and a job. Not something of real value from a friend. This is why it is so hard for me to put myself in the mindset of a thief and why I don't understand why they steal #1 and why they deny #2. I try and rationalize and think of every conceivable reason such and such could have gone missing but it all comes down to a suspect in question yet they still deny.
Since I'm not a thief, I have to guess at this. The stealing would be either for the money value at a pawn shop, or because they simply wanted the items. The denial would be because they are going to try to avoid retribution for it.

I've had things turn up missing also. Thousands of dollars worth. And, I knew who was doing it as well. But, he denied it every time I brought it up. When my step-son got sent to prison on drug charges, the stealing stopped. Still, he denies it.
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Old 07-27-2011, 01:55 AM
 
Location: Southern California
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Well, I was asking myself, self - have you ever stolen? Then I thought about pens from work and yes I've taken them. If asked I'd probably say no too. But we're talking pens from a corporation and a job. Not something of real value from a friend. This is why it is so hard for me to put myself in the mindset of a thief and why I don't understand why they steal #1 and why they deny #2. I try and rationalize and think of every conceivable reason such and such could have gone missing but it all comes down to a suspect in question yet they still deny.
I would bet that if they're a real friend, and if they stay in your life, eventually they will probably confess. At some point the truth will come out.

But that's assuming you keep them in your life - and if they're stealing from you, do you really want them in your life? If it's just a friend, probably not, but if it's a close relative?

Just a hard situation, all the way around...
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Old 07-27-2011, 08:22 AM
 
Location: Earth
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Wouldn't it be easier to just admit the truth and say "yunno, I am really sorry. I don't know what came over me and it was a bad thing to do. I will return X and it won't happen again."

Instead, they deny even though you know they did it.

And, is there any way to get these people to admit to their thievery? Any sort of way to put it so that you get the situation (and your money or items back) under control?

Has anyone been successful in dealing with a thief and what did you do?
Is this related to the other thread you started on the same topic?
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Old 07-27-2011, 09:41 AM
 
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Why would a dishonest person be dishonest about their dishonestly?

Gee, I dunno.
Good one!!
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Old 07-27-2011, 11:19 AM
 
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Bingo. Thanks. You hit the nail on the head. They really do take all those other things too and there is no dollar value on those things either and no way to get them back once they are gone.
Is this someone you know or were you just randomly robbed?
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Old 07-27-2011, 05:24 PM
 
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Is this someone you know or were you just randomly robbed?
Both. I've been stolen from by "friends" and also randomly robbed (or my car was). The only thing that hasn't happened (knock on wood) is my house being robbed. Might be that sign I have out in front and my alarm system and my yappy dog and the fact I'm home a lot and I also have a safe. Oh, and a gun is on the radar too, even though I don't like them. I suppose I should get one.
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Old 04-16-2018, 05:13 AM
 
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Unless you've caught them in the act...denial is a thieves best friend.
And its human nature to lie and cheat........ Its wrong but thats how most are..... They couldnt be honest for anything I dont think.... (Catching them in the act is the only way of truely being able to confront them)
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