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Old 09-20-2011, 05:29 AM
 
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more or less credit than they deserve?

Do you find yourself more often disappointed or pleasantly surprised?

Do you adjust well?

Have you always been this way?

Except for the small kids to whom I teach piano lessons (I'm overly generous) I give each person the exact credit they deserve, no more, no less.

Disappointed and surprised by what? Human behavior itself? Mostly dismayed.

I have firm standards, but I have adjusted to the fact that most people by and large are very selfish and will destroy your life if it helps them get ahead by one inch, giving your destruction not so much as two seconds' thought.

No, I was very much an idealist until life kicked me in the teeth, now I am super-cautious on all fronts; You have to earn trust with me ten times before I will believe in you, I am expecting you to let me down (and prove who you REALLY are) on time number 4 or 5, everyone always has.

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Old 09-20-2011, 07:58 AM
 
Location: Washington, DC area
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I tend to assume that people are generally good until they show me otherwise. I try not to develop expectations of people until I get to know them, but that doesn't always work. I think I get disappointed by others just as much as I'm pleasantly surprised although the disappointments seem to stick out more for some reason.

I don't think I adjust well. After being disappointed by someone (boyfriend, friend or whoever), I feel heartbroken, I worry and I usually cry and am generally depressed for a while...but then I get back to feeling normal again. From what I gather from talking to my parents, I've always been this way.
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Old 09-21-2011, 01:37 AM
 
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I think most people are idiots until proven otherwise.
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Old 09-21-2011, 11:56 AM
 
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I think most people are idiots until proven otherwise.
Yeah but, does that include you?

Not a jab, a serious question...

If you look at the world like that, is it so unfair that the world looks at you like that?

Just been my experience that few are geniuses, few are idiots. The vast majority fall somewhere in between. What you see as idiocy could be cultural differences, the setting, the situation, misunderstandings, etc. When I've given people a chance, taken the time and extended the effort to get to know them, almost always there's been something worthwhile shared and learned, hopefully on both sides. Life can be rich, but when you prejudge like this you are missing a good bit of it.

The only characteristic that's always been a deal breaker for me is a sick heart.
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Old 09-21-2011, 03:10 PM
 
Location: Nantahala National Forest, NC
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Oh I so agree with you, Mr. H...very well said.


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Yeah but, does that include you?

Not a jab, a serious question...

If you look at the world like that, is it so unfair that the world looks at you like that?

Just been my experience that few are geniuses, few are idiots. The vast majority fall somewhere in between. What you see as idiocy could be cultural differences, the setting, the situation, misunderstandings, etc. When I've given people a chance, taken the time and extended the effort to get to know them, almost always there's been something worthwhile shared and learned, hopefully on both sides. Life can be rich, but when you prejudge like this you are missing a good bit of it.

The only characteristic that's always been a deal breaker for me is a sick heart.
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Old 09-21-2011, 03:25 PM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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The only characteristic that's always been a deal breaker for me is a sick heart.
For this relief much thanks; 'tis bitter cold
And I am sick at heart.
~ Hamlet (Act I, Scene I), Francisco to Barnardo
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Old 09-21-2011, 03:30 PM
 
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For this relief much thanks; 'tis bitter cold
And I am sick at heart.
~ Hamlet (Act I, Scene I), Francisco to Barnardo
Don't buy it for a minute, Philly. Those that are sick of heart don't even suspect that they are.
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Old 09-21-2011, 03:36 PM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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Don't buy it for a minute, Philly. Those that are sick of heart don't even suspect that they are.
Clinically speaking, true. But from personal experience I can say that I've long suspected it of myself.
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Old 09-21-2011, 03:42 PM
 
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Clinically speaking, true. But from personal experience I can say that I've long suspected it of myself.
Well, life is easy if you can't feel anything. Or as someone once said, "Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see."

Think the point, is to live, to have your eyes open and your senses keen as you do, and to somehow not let it sour you. Some go into a shell, after their very first heartbreak! Damn, that's when the game just gets started.

Another guy said, "Somewhere, somehow, somebody must a kicked you around some."

My rhetorical response would be, "Yeah but, how else would I know I was alive?"
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Old 09-21-2011, 03:51 PM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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Well, life is easy if you can't feel anything. Or as someone once said, "Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see."

Think the point, is to live, to have your eyes open and your senses keen as you do, and to somehow not let it sour you. Some go into a shell, after their very first heartbreak! Damn, that's when the game just gets started.

Another guy said, "Somewhere, somehow, somebody must a kicked you around some."

My rhetorical response would be, "Yeah but, how else would I know I was alive?"
Excellent point! I wouldn't trade all of my scars - mental AND physical - for all the tea in Tetley.

My pain made me what I am now - good or bad. I NEED my pain.

Of course, that doesn't necessarily mean I want to add any more ...
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