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Old 09-21-2011, 03:54 PM
 
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Excellent point! I wouldn't trade all of my scars - mental AND physical - for all the tea in Tetley.

My pain made me what I am now - good or bad. I NEED my pain.

Of course, that doesn't necessarily mean I want to add any more ...
Sounds like you have a good set up as it is. You know this one? "... we're not like the rest, we once were the best. Passion without pain, sunshine without rainy days..."

Wow, I'm full of song lyrics today (amongst other things.)
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Old 09-21-2011, 05:13 PM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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Sounds like you have a good set up as it is. You know this one? "... we're not like the rest, we once were the best. Passion without pain, sunshine without rainy days..."

Wow, I'm full of song lyrics today (amongst other things.)
Back when we were dumb
When did we become so smart
And learn to break each other's hearts ...

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Old 09-21-2011, 06:09 PM
 
Location: tampa bay
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Back when we were dumb
When did we become so smart
And learn to break each other's hearts ...

Let's hope with experience ..."we learn not to break each other's hearts"...
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Old 09-21-2011, 06:40 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Clinically speaking, true. But from personal experience I can say that I've long suspected it of myself.
O. M. G. !!!!

Those brats must've slipped truth serum into his drink!
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Old 09-21-2011, 06:48 PM
 
Location: N of citrus, S of decent corn
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I expect the best from people and I usually get it.
For example, my DH always assumes that any auto mechanic, furnace repairman, etc. is out to screw him. Sometimes, they do.
I, on the other hand, set out with the attitude that people try to do the best they can. I never get screwed over by repairmen.
Therefore, I think it is about attitude. If you put your trust in people they often rise to it.
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Old 09-21-2011, 06:52 PM
 
Location: WI
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'Give every man thy ear, but few thy voice. Take each man's censure, but reserve thy judgment.' (from Hamlet, Polonius if I remember correctly)

The more I experience in life, the more true this seems.
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Old 09-21-2011, 06:57 PM
 
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more or less credit than they deserve?

Do you find yourself more often disappointed or pleasantly surprised?

Do you adjust well?

Have you always been this way?
Sorry, but living in America, I tend to give people less credit until they prove otherwise. The sad part is that I'm more correct than wrong.
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Old 09-21-2011, 07:43 PM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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O. M. G. !!!!

Those brats must've slipped truth serum into his drink!
Yo mami!

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Let's hope with experience ..."we learn not to break each other's hearts"
I only return what is given to me.
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Old 09-21-2011, 07:49 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Yo mami!
Yo, Gramps!
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Old 09-21-2011, 08:35 PM
 
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more or less credit than they deserve?

Do you find yourself more often disappointed or pleasantly surprised?

Do you adjust well?

Have you always been this way?
I believe I give them the credit they deserve and I try to be specific about it. If I can't be specific then I don't comment.

I find myself disappointed usually when a person only sees the worst in what I do or say. Feelings of disappointment or satisfaction mostly come from my ability to get what I want, which is mostly independent of another person's behavior.

I adjust well now after this new "outlook" in life.

I have not always been this way. I wanted a different life for my daughter but I didn't realize I had to live it, too.

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Man, you know, I am no kid. And I have not led a sheltered life. But I am still a person that presumes the best in people. I am often disappointed, but I will say that there have been times when it has brought me closer to people.

Don't you think that you have ever paid a price, maybe lost a potentially rewarding friendship because you were too skeptical at the onset?
I too like to see the best in what people have to say or do but I always keep my interest in mind. I feel like there are people I should be close to but can't because they see the worst in what I do. They don't realize that I keep my distance because I simply don't like being around people who don't like me.

ETA: By seeing the best in others, I feel like I am setting myself up for success with that person.
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