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Old 05-16-2012, 04:47 PM
 
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i swear, it seems every person who's got an abrasive personality has more success with people than folks like me. not just success with women but people in general. for instance one of my housemates is a bit of a total prick to everybody (though I'd say we're friends with each other), yet girls are all over him and people confide in him when they want to talk about personal problems. what the ****?!?!?!? why the hell is it that it's always people like that who seem to attract folks?

i should just start being a douche to every single person I meet. maybe that'll work. god damn it.

yes this is a somewhat alcohol-fueled post.

People respect power and fear. It's not necessarily the doucheness itself per say, but the fact that they probably can get away with it indicating they have some sort of power. Everyone "likes" (fears) the Linebacker, Drug Dealer, Brawler, Mean Girl, etc. It goes from the 2nd grade playground all the way up to warfare/foriegn relations.



Don't sweat it, it's not "real" fondness. Genuine human to human affinity IMHO is extrodinarily rare anyway. I'd guess 95-99% of human friendships/relationships are common partnerships, not based on affinity.
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Old 05-18-2012, 12:59 AM
 
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Meh there are plenty of smokers around this school so I don't think that's a giant issue. And the advice I get is either vague or conflicting.

e: And the point of this thread is not just with regards to romantic interests but platonic interests as well.
Ewww. Smoking in this day and age? Nasty...and doubly true if we're talking about a college educated crowd. A definite dealbreaker for me, and I'm no "10". I'd rather be alone than with someone who smoked. Yuck.
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Old 05-19-2012, 11:10 AM
 
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Looking back at HS, college, and the work world, anybody that was considered "nice" was NEVER considered "hot."

That's why they're not fussed over. Sad, but true.
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Old 05-19-2012, 06:23 PM
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Location: Coastal New Jersey
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Looking back at HS, college, and the work world, anybody that was considered "nice" was NEVER considered "hot."

That's why they're not fussed over. Sad, but true.
Back when I was in school, if someone was said to have a "good personality" that usually meant it's all they had.
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Old 05-22-2012, 11:42 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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Looking back at HS, college, and the work world, anybody that was considered "nice" was NEVER considered "hot."

That's why they're not fussed over. Sad, but true.
Nice is better than hot, though. Hot fades; nice is forever.
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Old 05-22-2012, 08:16 PM
 
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Nice is better than hot, though. Hot fades; nice is forever.
I'm not disagreeing with that. However, "hot" is who people place a premium on knowing.
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Old 05-28-2012, 06:51 PM
 
Location: Montreal, Quebec
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I know one nice ,short guy who is loved by everyone; he has a small "you know what", but all the women like him...he's just too much of a sucker for status though!! He was my lover for 8 years and I still love him, but couldn't cope with all the female attention he gets being a really nice, charming, and delicate man! Love you Squirrel!
So, please don't think that you have to become an "anus" to be well liked...work on your smile; my ex has a beautiul genuine smile and that's his best ally!
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Old 05-28-2012, 06:53 PM
 
Location: Montreal, Quebec
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PS: I'm a female, by the way...now I'm interested in Clayton because my ex wants nothing to do with me anymore...he never loved me!
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Old 05-29-2012, 12:10 AM
 
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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Disagree, there were people who were thought of as attractive and had personalities to match.

I find the whole ugly people having hearts of gold (being beautiful inside) and beautiful people tending to be bad inside generally false. Looks and goodness have no correlation.
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Old 05-29-2012, 07:11 AM
 
Location: Austin
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i swear, it seems every person who's got an abrasive personality has more success with people than folks like me. not just success with women but people in general. for instance one of my housemates is a bit of a total prick to everybody (though I'd say we're friends with each other), yet girls are all over him and people confide in him when they want to talk about personal problems. what the ****?!?!?!? why the hell is it that it's always people like that who seem to attract folks?

i should just start being a douche to every single person I meet. maybe that'll work. god damn it.

yes this is a somewhat alcohol-fueled post.
What kinds of people are you wanting attention from, exactly? That may be your answer. Who wants attention from people who only respond to a-holes?
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