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Old 11-15-2011, 10:05 AM
 
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this went on for me at home and every where i went for years. i now have complex PTSD because of it.

I'm at the point in my therapy where i'm starting to feel again after being emotionally numb and what i want is revenge.

I've worked out and gotten strong. I have been looking up these people on facebook and i have this urge to go and do something to them, like slash tires or challenge to a fight.

I know this is WRONG but i just have this strong URGE. i feel very angry
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Old 11-15-2011, 10:07 AM
 
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Well, do unto others as others undo to you.
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Old 11-15-2011, 10:10 AM
 
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this went on for me at home and every where i went for years. i now have complex PTSD because of it.

I'm at the point in my therapy where i'm starting to feel again after being emotionally numb and what i want is revenge.

I've worked out and gotten strong. I have been looking up these people on facebook and i have this urge to go and do something to them, like slash tires or challenge to a fight.

I know this is WRONG but i just have this strong URGE. i feel very angry
Seek psychiatric assistance immediately.
Any attempts at "revenge" will be unfulfilling and will subject you to legal repercussions that will make your high school bullying seem like a "fond"memory.If you find that you are unable to leave the past in the past, then you need to talk with a counseling professional before you make a series of mistakes that cost you, and anybody that cares for you, the future.

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Old 11-15-2011, 10:12 AM
 
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I was pushed around alot in high school. The best advice I can give you is -- don't dwell on the past, understand it and use instances that happen in your future to make your challenges. Chances are, these people won't even remember you.

It's no use, those types of people will never understand what you went through, and going back, stalking them through facebook, your only going to end up in jail. I would advise against this...
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Old 11-15-2011, 10:14 AM
 
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How about you try to spin that negative energy into accomplishing something positive? Set some goals for yourself and channel that anger and energy into something constructive and rewarding. When you have a sense of accomplishment you can look back with pride and that in itself will be more rewarding than damaging someone's property or punching them in the face. Be bigger than that.
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Old 11-15-2011, 10:16 AM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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this went on for me at home and every where i went for years. i now have complex PTSD because of it.

I'm at the point in my therapy where i'm starting to feel again after being emotionally numb and what i want is revenge.

I've worked out and gotten strong. I have been looking up these people on facebook and i have this urge to go and do something to them, like slash tires or challenge to a fight.

I know this is WRONG but i just have this strong URGE. i feel very angry
“He that studieth revenge keepeth his own wounds green, which otherwise would heal and do well.”
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Old 11-15-2011, 10:17 AM
 
Location: Northern VA (for now)
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this went on for me at home and every where i went for years. i now have complex PTSD because of it.

I'm at the point in my therapy where i'm starting to feel again after being emotionally numb and what i want is revenge.

I've worked out and gotten strong. I have been looking up these people on facebook and i have this urge to go and do something to them, like slash tires or challenge to a fight.

I know this is WRONG but i just have this strong URGE. i feel very angry
As a victim of bullies myself in HS, the best advice I can offer is let it go. No good can come out of confronting your bullies. You're at a point where meeting one of your bullies in person will get you into trouble. Let it go and move on.
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Old 11-15-2011, 10:23 AM
 
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Seek psychiatric assistance immediately.
Any attempts at "revenge" will be unfulfilling and will subject you to legal repercussions that will make your high school bullying seem like a "fond"memory.If you find that you are unable to leave the past in the past, then you need to talk with a counseling professional before you make a series of mistakes thatcost you and anybody that cares for you, the future.
of course you're right. I think it's just a part of the healing process to start feeling more emotion again. I just have to get through this phase of it. I did go onto the facebook page of this guy who was the worst to me for a couple of years. He used to gather a group of guys to wait for me outside my last period class every day for weeks to assault me and he would spit on the back of my jacket in class.

On his facebook he said he believes in 'karma'.

I sent him a message asking if he remembered me. He said yes, all from Kindergarden through high school.

then i asked him 'how have you been?'

he never answered. I think he realized from the tone of my message who i was and why i was asking him this.

I know that he now has a family and has recently been laid off, and i don't take joy in the suffering of a family. I kind of think just doing that was enough for me.
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Old 11-15-2011, 10:28 AM
 
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Use your new buffness to do something productive that requires it: Become a volunteer firefighter. When the turds who bullied you see you in the calendars hanging on their girlfriends' kitchen walls, you'll have your revenge.
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Old 11-15-2011, 10:35 AM
 
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You have now grown to adulthood,show yourself you've learned something in life,hold yourself to a higher standard and move on with your life.
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