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Old 10-13-2015, 09:24 PM
 
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Women always control the sex and they do all the choosing. Men have no say or control in this matter.
This is definitely not true in Moslem and some other non-western societies, where child brides are forced to marry older men, who then force themselves on them.
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Old 02-29-2016, 08:55 PM
 
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That is because his desires are satisfied. Imagine being at the height of your libido, and never having any woman say so much as hello! I am certain he would be singing a diffrent tune, were he in my shoes!
How often do you try saying hello, yourself? Where are you trying to meet women? You won't make any friends if you're depressed. Getting help for your depression should be your first concern.
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Old 03-01-2016, 06:37 PM
 
Location: Born in L.A. - NYC is Second Home - Rustbelt is Home Base
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OP..sure, sometimes it gets to be problem. If you got it bad, check out some of the anon programs for sex addiction. But if you can put up with it, enjoy the ladies day and night!
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Old 03-04-2016, 02:55 PM
 
Location: Phoenix Arizona
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I have to agree with OP on this.

I wish there really was a magic pill out there that can make us as sexually aloof as women sometimes. Would save myself a lot of drama at home when I'm in the mood and the wife isn't, which is most times.
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Old 03-05-2016, 01:32 PM
 
Location: Pac. NW
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Male sex drive is a curse.

It's not a coincidence that most men excel in their careers/life in general as they age.

The testosterone level, or "intensity of the curse" drops, relationships/sex becomes old-hat and they find more productive/fulfilling things to do like build businesses and careers. The distraction of sex is out of the way and it's easier to focus on other things.

Testosterone has a way of making men do really stupid things.

If I'd taken all the misguided and wasted energy spent chasing/obsessing over sex in my younger days and poured that into more worthy things I'd be the King Of The World.
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Old 03-06-2016, 11:48 AM
 
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I don't know. If you think of the many men who pay women for sex, intimacy, or whatever else, you start to think of what other actives those men could spend their time on. By the same token, it took some form of work to acquire those earnings. And it may very well be the motivation to have "sex" was the driving force behind those earnings. In this respect, I'd wager the "obsession" not just for sex but for a long-term partner is one of the fundamental drives of our society.


Actually, I am leaning towards yes. Because while I have had extremely low points where I was completely apathetic about sex and or even relationships, I have also had other times where I need the warm touch of women to cleanse my mind and body...
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Old 03-06-2016, 08:05 PM
 
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as a man I think our sex drive is our own curse. the things we do for sex are things women would never do, like buy lots of porn or pay for it. Women can make tons of money off of mens horniness but no man can make the same claim. men waste tons of money on sex and have even ruined their careers and marriages over it. Elliot Spitzer being an example. I know of no woman that would risk her neck like that.

Its also a curse if your like me and women just don't find you attractive. All it is a burden to bear because it doesn't do me any good whatsoever. I wish there were drugs on the market that could get rid of my sex drive but I know they will never exist because the male sex drive is a lucrative market.

Women always control the sex and they do all the choosing. Men have no say or control in this matter. Most women are sexually apathetic and they use our own desperation against us. I admit, I envy their ability to control themselves.
I've often considered the same thing. I don't think it's a curse per say.

Personally, I don't have issues attracting women. I have issues dealing with them after we are established.

I once had this girlfriend that was perfect. I never should have dumped her. She was really easy going and agreeable. She loved to cook. She was always happy and down for whatever. Whenever I wanted sex should would just smile and say okay. I dated her for a year. I literally don't ever recall her putting up a fuss and giving me the, I'm not in the mood for that right now. We were having sex multiple times everyday. There are women out there like that. They are just few and far between.

Most women I've dated are hot one minute and cold the next. Some women think that sex twice a week is a lot! I can only imagine how that would play out after years. Women are like sexual camels. It can be annoying at times. Especially when you are having really good sex with someone. I swear female hormones are the equivalent of bipolar disorder.

It's not that I resent women for their ability to control sex. That's the natural order of the world. It can be annoying but it is the way it is. I reset society for inventing this lie that men and women are "equal". You see, it used to be that men controlled finances and women controlled sex. That's when the world was equal. Now society has to prop up women to be politically correct. However, they still have control over sex! Feminism isn't about equality, it's about feeding the emotions of the insecure.
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Old 03-08-2016, 06:49 AM
 
Location: Whereever we have our RV parked
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Frontier man and the OP and others who agree get my vote. Most men are driven at times to mate, so that it takes over your rational thinking. Because of this men will date a woman that is actually not attractive to them, they'll jump through all kinds of hoops for their woman, just to stay on the good side etc. It really makes the male-female relationship unbalanced and puts much of the power in the hands of women.
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Old 03-08-2016, 07:30 AM
 
Location: Toronto
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No, I think the female oxytocin drive is a curse!

Imagine emotionally bonding to a guy who really just wants to nut and does not give a crap how you feel! That's most of them!
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Old 03-08-2016, 12:24 PM
 
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Frontier man and the OP and others who agree get my vote. Most men are driven at times to mate, so that it takes over your rational thinking. Because of this men will date a woman that is actually not attractive to them, they'll jump through all kinds of hoops for their woman, just to stay on the good side etc. It really makes the male-female relationship unbalanced and puts much of the power in the hands of women.
What puts the power in the hands of women is social-liberalism which is really just a disguise for a mental disorder. It's essentially a mass delusion; a rationalization. The belief that society should compensate and revolved around those who can be deemed as "victims". Some people really are victims but that doesn't mean the world should revolve around them.... In reality, much of the liberal machine revolves around imagined inequality. The movement is really just about spite. This has created an unnatural and irrational society.

You are correct in your claim, that as a male, I am constantly driven to mate. What man isn't? It is how we are programmed. I take pride in that. However, you are incorrect in your assumption that I would ever jump through hoops or waste time with someone who I don't find to be attractive. I essentially have a zero tolerance policy for jumping through hoops. I do not conform to demands just to get laid. There are plenty of women out there.

What I find attractive in a female is an easy going attitude, a good body, and a pretty face.... It's really not too complicated. My biggest issue is that I need to have sex all the time. Bare minimum, once a day to feel content. Normally twice a day. I've only dated two women that could really keep up with it long term. For me sex is like hunger.... You go in-between meals but by mid-day you need to eat again.

I've honestly been contemplating this for years. I think that I should try to find multiple women to have a long term relationship with. Maybe three women. Two might be more realistic. They would be monogamous to me but I would be with all three of them. I actually had two girlfriends once. I disclosed to both of them that there was another girl in the picture. I would never lie about something like that. In a lot of ways it worked out great. The biggest issue was that one of them end up having jealousy issues....
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