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Old 09-16-2013, 02:02 AM
 
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I care what my wife and kids think. I care what my parents think, my siblings and their kids. My dad is struggling with Alzheimer's so I care what his caregivers think. I care what my closest friends think. There are many professors I've had in school, who I am close to. I care what they think. There are certain colleagues who I have come to respect, who respect me. I care what they think. There are certain musicians who I have played with, who I am close to and respect. I care what they think. There are good people in this world, people who are open and inclusive. They are not bigoted and strive for all that is high and noble. Integrity, character, substance, honor, respect, self-respect, the embrace of high academic achievement, all come to mind when I think of them. I care what they think. I care what kids think, what the elderly think, and what veterans think. I respect women and care what they think. I listen to those who have been historically disadvantaged. I care what they think. I listen to anyone who is mentally ill or emotionally-damaged in some way. I care what they think. I care what our current President thinks, since I have the utmost respect for his abilities and the difficult road he has traveled to get accomplish as much as he has. Above all, I care most about what I think.

Other than this, I don't care what other people think.
But do you really care what most of these people think about YOU? That's how I interpreted the OP's question.
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Old 09-16-2013, 02:27 AM
 
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Not always, no. I listen to what other people say. It might be beneficial. Or it might not so I filter it out. At work, my preceptor might give me feedback as to the things I say or do and that helps me carry out my job more effectively. I'm learning, after all. So to walk around with the attitude you mentioned can prevent me from learning valuable lessons. So I weigh the benefit of the words. The advice I usually take tends to come from people like my boyfriend, my cousins, sometimes my mom if I feel stuck in a certain area of my life. The people who have earned that level of respect/trust and who've demonstrated to me that their comments aren't meant to hurt me nor to make me what they want me to be.
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Old 09-16-2013, 05:47 AM
 
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I'm the same but only to a point where it's healthy. Some things that help us to develop good judgment and positive behaviors are dependent on our regard for the way others regard us. Shame, for example. Guilt. Ethics. Etiquette. Like some people mentioned, good ol' self-preservation.

Imagine sitting in a theater full of people who don't care if anyone thinks they're rude for talking loudly on their phones and throwing popcorn. Someone who'd knock over an elderly person without apologizing because he couldn't care less what kind of person it made him look like in society's eyes not to.

Not being governed by what other people think is an important aspect of personal fulfillment and empowerment. Beyond a certain point, though, you start bordering on the sociopathatic or downright idiotic. Do I like to act silly and weird? Yep! Will I do so in a setting where people might sincerely think I'm not playing with a full deck? Nooooope lol
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Old 09-16-2013, 07:49 AM
 
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It's probably been selected for over time.
Understanding, wondering and worrying about what other people think more than like lead to higher rates of survival.

Same reason why so many people like salty snacks.

It's just about managing these urges to overthink and overeat etc etc in the modern world.
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Old 09-16-2013, 09:22 AM
 
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Mmm. Salty snacks.
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Old 09-17-2013, 04:08 PM
 
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The problem with our society these days is that not enough people care about what others think. Nowadays everyone "doesn't give a f-". As a result, standards are almost completely non-existent. This is what happens when you do not disicipline children and instill good moral values. A generation of self-entitled disrespectful attention seeking morons arises that have no standards and no respect for themselves and others. That's we have so many young people walking around with hideous cartoons permanently etched into their skin. Because they precisely "don't give a f-" and do not care what others think regardless of the fact that it's offensive to many people.
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Old 09-20-2013, 08:10 PM
 
Location: Washington D.C. Area
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The problem with our society these days is that not enough people care about what others think. Nowadays everyone "doesn't give a f-". As a result, standards are almost completely non-existent. This is what happens when you do not disicipline children and instill good moral values. A generation of self-entitled disrespectful attention seeking morons arises that have no standards and no respect for themselves and others. That's we have so many young people walking around with hideous cartoons permanently etched into their skin. Because they precisely "don't give a f-" and do not care what others think regardless of the fact that it's offensive to many people.
If people "don't give a f--" these days.. its mostly because they don't have a reason to.
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Old 09-20-2013, 08:33 PM
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I really dont understand this...

I COULD GIVE A RATS TAIL ABOUT WHAT OTHER PPL THINK,i am my own person,i have MY OWN MIND and i do what I feel is right for me! (If someone doesnt like it they can kiss off)


Anyone feel like me??
Yep, sure do. The older I get the more I see my hour glass is working against me so I don't particularly care what others may think of me, I'm past that, people either take me as I am, or not at all, I will continue on until my use by date is reached regardless, and I haven't a clue when that may be? And for those who believe in reincarnation, I have no desire to come back, once is enough.
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Old 10-26-2013, 10:09 AM
 
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That's the way we were created. We were created to be "social". Therefore, we care about what other's point of view is because it's part of socializing.

The way we're socializing now, we're sharing our point of view. As much as you tell yourself you don't care, you do care. Just training yourself not to care proves my point how it's hard, it goes against your "natural" instincts.

You may be able to block out what someone cares (like a coworker) and entertain what another person cares (like you parents). Because of the little window of "caring" left open for your parents, the coworkers input will creep into your mind through that window and **** you off. Then you'll spend time trying to push it back into it's box then throw it out the window it crept into.
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Old 10-26-2013, 09:01 PM
 
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I have read psychology books and self help books in addition to taking a few psychology classes and what is mentioned is this caring what others think is part of human survival. When I was younger I used to worry and care what everyone thought of me. I want to word this careful but I have found for the most part I really don't care what the majority of people in life. I think there are a few I care about like my boss and wanting to do a good job and get a good review. If people do not like me that is there problem not mine. It is emotionally exhausting to care what every single person in life cares about. I like to focus on myself and limit it a few individuals whom I really care to a certain extent what they think.
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