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It seems like a less stressful and more assertive way to live (assuming I can unlearn many years of a "habit" in a flash.) What are the downsides of never taking anything personally, esp. in a work/career situation?
As someone who used to be at the opposite end of the totem pole, always taking things personally, I can see the benefits, of course [lower stress levels, higher self esteem], but the downside would be no growth, career-wise and psychologically, if you never listened to others' constructive criticism & advice.
What are the downsides of taking NOTHING personally? What are the downsides of never taking anything personally, esp. in a work/career situation?
If you first accept that fewer than 5% probably less than 1% of what comes your way
is meant to be taken personally... it would be rather pointless to stress over that.
As for the other 1%? (or even 5% if you're a real jerk)... do something about what's underneath.
But still don't stress over the superficial.
In some degree taking things personally can make you a better person/worker/whatever. It just depends on how you deal with it.
Some people just get under your skin; it takes a level mind to recognize if they're truthful or just being a jerk.
It takes constant examination of one's self to learn how to behave with others in situations like these if you want a sense of normalcy and camaraderie. It isn't an on or off switch.
I dont know if its humanly possible to take nothing personally. We can be less sensitive to some extent though. Words hurt, especially when they hit a nerve. The person saying them may or may not be aware of your hurt feelings & their words could be unintentional. In that case, let it go & deal with your feelings. If someone is hurting you on purpose then you have to stand up for yourself. The hurt feelings will be lurking in some corner & might come back with full force at slightest provocation. Ignoring a 'bully' makes them only stronger. So speak up. Even constructive criticism could be offered in a civil, respectable manner
As someone who used to be at the opposite end of the totem pole, always taking things personally, I can see the benefits, of course [lower stress levels, higher self esteem], but the downside would be no growth, career-wise and psychologically, if you never listened to others' constructive criticism & advice.
save your immediete family , criticism is rarely made out of any concern for the person being criticised , its about making the critic feel important and powerfull
In some degree taking things personally can make you a better person/worker/whatever. It just depends on how you deal with it.
Some people just get under your skin; it takes a level mind to recognize if they're truthful or just being a jerk.
It takes constant examination of one's self to learn how to behave with others in situations like these if you want a sense of normalcy and camaraderie. It isn't an on or off switch.
constant self analysis is a sure fire recipe for depression , trust me
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