How do people deal with the little frustrations in life? (parent, issues)
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You may need to talk to a school counselor or someone at another public facility. If you recognize that you feel much more frustration than you would normally you may need to talk to someone and get some advice on issues and perhaps some new coping skills. Anger management is helpful, there should be something on campus free to you as a student.
Is there a time frame that you and your roommate could compromise on, You study in quiet from 7-10...He has company from 5-7. Have you sat down w/ him, or even w/ your Dorm advisor to try to work this out? Are there other rooms in your dorm that are strictly for study that are consistently quiet??
I personally wouldn't be able to handle dorm life, thankfully I didn't have too. I studied a lot in the bathroom w/ the exhaust fan on because I had school aged children playing etc.
You may need something w/out roommates, you're not getting your down time, or your quiet study time.
Let your Mom know that you really need some help with this, she may not be aware how truly frustrated you've become.
One of the hardest lessons in life is learning that you can't control others, just how you react to them. Look for healthy options, support groups, other students dealing w/ the same things and find a support network. It might even be this forum.
It is smart of you to at least vent on this forum and seek some insights from others. First thing in helping yourself overcome any issue is recognizing that there is an issue. I hope some of the posts help, hang in there.
When you place things in a larger context and realize how lucky you are to wake up in the morning, receive a college education, and have three meals each and every day, the little things cease from being annoying.
I have to commute to college every day, and therefore study at home. My mom is constantly complaining so it's sometimes hard to focus but I just listen to music and try to tune it out. Maybe that's the reason I find complaining to be so detestable.
I am amazed someone is stressed from a dorm member stealing body lotion.
Wait til you get in the real world.
Do not presume all people are ethical and decent.
The real world? You mean as opposed to imaginary world? Am I living in the Land of Oz?
I consider it a good thing that I'm surprised when thievery occurs, I guess I haven't been fully corrupted to the point of accepting it as ok, and expecting it to happen. My being surprised just goes to show I'd never stoop to stealing myself, and anyone who accepts it as a part of life in 'the real world' I'm betting is willing to partake in it him or herself.
1. Uh no ****? Like I intentionally did it? This was an extension of my frustration with humanity and it's self-serving nature. If I found a wallet with money in it, I'd turn it in to the police no questions asked. I'd like to know how the thief would feel about someone stealing his ****?
2. I do. I find it a bit unfair that I have to go out of my way to do what people go to college do.
3. Don't speak for my parents like you know them, they have never expressed any distaste for texting aside from at the table, and they initiate texting with me all the time. If you think texting is rude inherently, then you need a reality check as to the different forms of communication. Regardless, don't project values on to people you don't know.
It seems to me that you're already trying to deal with it. You need to understand that you having all of these frustrations is a mindset that you have developed over time. You said it yourself that other members of the family have similar mindsets. They handle frustrations a certain way and now so do you. I have a similar situation. My mother has huge out bursts for the most menial occurrences to this day. I was very angry before and I vented my frustrations in different ways ie. punching walls, breaking things, walking out of the house. Nothing seemed to work for long. Then I joined the Army. I turned my frustration into strength. Over time I saw the big picture in life and my "daily problems" didn't seem that big anymore. I learned to never stress over things I cannot control. I can be disappointed in humanity and how easily others can cause problems for others when it would have been just as easy not to but getting angry at the world accomplishes nothing and only takes my mind away from more important things such as bettering myself as a person. I'm not saying you should join the Army. That was MY choice and it ended up for the better. You need to find your own way of seeing the "big picture" and understanding that this mindset can be changed.
1. Your lotion was stolen? It's unfortunate but some people are a holes and misfortune caused by others will happen in this world. Buy a new one and drive on. You can't "prepare" anymore for next time and catching the person won't accomplish anything except escalating the situation. Do what you've always been doing and move on.
2. Your roommate is rude and needs a life. You can't make him get one and you can't make him respect you. Put on ear plugs that work well or get a pair of headphones that tune out outside noise and play music while he's being an a hole. Also work on changing roommates for the future.
3. Finally your parents are your parents. They've been who they are since as long as you can remember. You can tell them how you feel and hope they respond. That's about it. They'll probably continue to **** you off for life but you can control how MUCH they **** you off.
I have a hard time dealing with frustration. Sometimes it helps to remind myself of what I'm thankful for or something good that's happened every time something bad happens.
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