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Old 04-21-2013, 06:52 PM
 
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Why do I believe that when a man that stares at me or comes in contact with me, I think they like me or want me or find me really beautiful. It can be a stanger or a customer service guy that I come into contact with. I wonder why in my mind I feel this way. What is this, am I just narcissistic/have a huge ego or something? I'm a really shy girl, and I actually don't believe anyone will ever go out with me because I lack self confidence...could that be the reason? It just bugs me because I do hear my thoughts and I think they're so wack...like seriously, why would I think a random stranger likes me? I can't help but feel this way. What's wrong with me?
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Old 04-21-2013, 06:58 PM
 
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I'm the same way, and I'm a guy.

What's wrong with it?
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Old 04-21-2013, 07:10 PM
 
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the mind works in mysterious way now don't it!
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Old 04-21-2013, 08:17 PM
 
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Wishful thinking. It happens to shy people, because they're too shy to approach on their own.
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Old 04-21-2013, 09:43 PM
 
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I used to have a friend that did the same thing, it was totally irritating.
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Old 04-22-2013, 08:56 AM
 
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Why do I believe that when a man that stares at me or comes in contact with me, I think they like me or want me or find me really beautiful. It can be a stanger or a customer service guy that I come into contact with. I wonder why in my mind I feel this way. What is this, am I just narcissistic/have a huge ego or something? I'm a really shy girl, and I actually don't believe anyone will ever go out with me because I lack self confidence...could that be the reason? It just bugs me because I do hear my thoughts and I think they're so wack...like seriously, why would I think a random stranger likes me? I can't help but feel this way. What's wrong with me?

There's nothing wrong with you, in fact it's very healthy. Imagine the opposite, that you felt complitely ignored by men, that would be worse, right?


Maybe you feel (consciously or unconsciously) a turn on when a total stranger stares at you, and you give body language signs that welcome them to keep staring.


Men like to look at welcoming women, it's just natural. It's not necessarily about sex, it can be an appreciative look, like "she's got dreamy eyes", or "how soft her skin looks", or " I wonder how she likes ( insert word/action/attribute)"

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Old 04-22-2013, 09:16 AM
 
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Pics or this thread never happened
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Old 04-22-2013, 12:09 PM
 
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There's nothing wrong with you, in fact it's very healthy. Imagine the opposite, that you felt complitely ignored by men, that would be worse, right?


Maybe you feel (consciously or unconsciously) a turn on when a total stranger stares at you, and you give body language signs that welcome them to keep staring.


Men like to look at welcoming women, it's just natural. It's not necessarily about sex, it can be an appreciative look, like "she's got dreamy eyes", or "how soft her skin looks", or " I wonder how she likes ( insert word/action/attribute)"
Really I don't think it's healthy at all. By the way even if they stare at me I tend to look away like I don't even notice them.
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Old 04-22-2013, 12:12 PM
 
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It just bugs me because I do hear my thoughts and I think they're so wack...like seriously, why would I think a random stranger likes me? I can't help but feel this way. What's wrong with me?
I think that this condition doesn't hurt anything and will probably pass.

So, what are you do'in Friday night?
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Old 04-22-2013, 12:27 PM
 
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I think that this condition doesn't hurt anything and will probably pass.

So, what are you do'in Friday night?
Pass? I hope it does I've been feeling this way for such a long time.

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