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Old 04-25-2013, 01:59 PM
 
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What I think makes people interesting:


1. Interest in ideas/places/people/activities that transcend themselves.
Nothing makes someone boring and uninteresting when they are totally wrapped up in themselves and their lives and have no interest in anything beyond them. That being said, it can be difficult to always transcend yourself. I can somewhat do so when I do yoga. Sometimes listening to music or reading or watching a really good movie. All too often, wherever you go, there you are!


2. Retaining their integrity and being true to themselves.
It’s boring and uninteresting when people vacillate all over the place and try to be something they are not. I firmly believe in being yourself because no one can tell you that you are doing it wrong!


3. Changing/growing.
This may seem to contradict #2, but it really doesn’t. Someone’s truth/likes/dislikes can change over time. Being stagnant is boring.


4. Some paradoxes in thinking, behaving, etc.
I used to dislike and be embarrassed by my paradoxes. For example, how could I be a healthy eater but still drool over chocolate? How could I like the tranquility of yoga but also like doing Zumba? How could I enjoy being with people but then crave solitude? But it’s these paradoxes that make me interesting, I believe, and not one- or two-dimensional.


5. Having a variety of eclectic/eccentric interests.
To some extent, someone who is focused on just one thing can be interesting—but it can get old to just hear about someone playing golf or chess or running or whatever. I help organize some Meetup groups and was criticized by my co-organizer because he felt I wasn’t devoting enough time and energy to the classical music Meetup. He actually said maybe I could give up a vegan dinner Meetup and attend more classical music performances. I was mortified and wanted to disappear under a rock…until I decided to accept some of the truth of what he was saying…and to embrace my being eclectic/eccentric. I owned up to these traits and actually started a Meetup group called Eccentric/Eclectic Excellent Events that touch upon all my interests: hiking, ethnic/vegan foods, lectures, jazz, classical music, rock, foreign and independent films, and so on.
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Old 04-25-2013, 03:27 PM
 
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A person who sees humor in life...listens with interest to others....thinks outside "the box"....enjoys hobbies...helps others, and relishes their lives.
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