SIck of people who I am "right there" for who do not return the favor (parent, emotion)
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I'd imagine other people have this problem. What is the solution, I know stop being there for them. Find someone else to be friends and family with. Has anyone tried this? Why is it so hard to count on people when you are always there for them? I don't think anyone should be taken for granted in any sort of relationship and I will not tolerate it from anyone. You get as good as you give. This is why so many people are loners and like animals better than people. Strangers on the internet are often kinder than the people you do things for in real life. Ok, done with rant. Comments please . . .
I have no advice. There are givers and takers in the world. Responsible and irresponsible people. It is hard when you are a giver and responsible and love an irresponsible taker type. If it is a friend or mate, you can cut your losses. If it is close family, it is much more difficult.
I'd imagine other people have this problem. What is the solution, I know stop being there for them. Find someone else to be friends and family with. Has anyone tried this? Why is it so hard to count on people when you are always there for them? I don't think anyone should be taken for granted in any sort of relationship and I will not tolerate it from anyone. You get as good as you give. This is why so many people are loners and like animals better than people. Strangers on the internet are often kinder than the people you do things for in real life. Ok, done with rant. Comments please . . .
Did something happen that inspired this post? It sounds like someone said that they'd be there for you, and then wasn't.
No, someone didn't say they would be there for me. I expected it. I expect too much apparently and I am mad about it. But when they need something from me, oh well, they'll see how it feels. Yes, something happened and when bad things happen to me, no one gives 2 sh*ts. Ok, one person does so I should be grateful for that. Yes, I am grateful for 1 friend. All others suck , including family. Ironic, my issue arose and in the midst of it I was there for my relative who had a concern about his own situation. I took my break time to be there for him and sh*t hits the fan for me the very next day and I get crickets. What comes around goes around and sh*t happens to everyone. Don't call me and expect me to be supportive (and drop everything to do so.) Ok, good lesson for me.
Ok. Forgive but not forget. A simple, I'm sorry that happened, just some acknowledgement would have been nice. I can do crickets too when your turn comes. Yeah, I'm mad.
I have lent time, myself, and money to so many over the years and never really expected to receive anything back. Not that I am a chump, that gets used by people, but more that I am one of those that likes to help people in need. Especially if I see someone going through something I have already endured, I feel a need to give advice, or at least point out an easier path to take. Of course not everyone appreciates the effort, or even understands the sacrifice that's made on the giver's part, but that is the way of the world. lastwomanstanding, you must not let anger be your guiding emotion in your decisions about how to handle this situation. Anger clouds judgment, and sometimes people have a knee-jerk reaction to a situation that sometimes could quiet possibly be resolved in a civil manner. As far as counting on people that I have helped, I have given up. Like someone else said, there are givers, and there are takers in this life, and we must discern who is who. I tend to do things by myself rather than have to ask someone, so in that, I am partly to blame. But even if I was the needful type when it comes to assistance, and asked for help, only a select few might come to my aid, and that fact I have come to terms with. I simply told myself awhile back that I will be more selective as far as who I offer assistance to, and at what level do I want to give it? I am not bitter, I have just found a resolution. Good luck with yours.
I have lent time, myself, and money to so many over the years and never really expected to receive anything back. Not that I am a chump, that gets used by people, but more that I am one of those that likes to help people in need. Especially if I see someone going through something I have already endured, I feel a need to give advice, or at least point out an easier path to take. Of course not everyone appreciates the effort, or even understands the sacrifice that's made on the giver's part, but that is the way of the world. lastwomanstanding, you must not let anger be your guiding emotion in your decisions about how to handle this situation. Anger clouds judgment, and sometimes people have a knee-jerk reaction to a situation that sometimes could quiet possibly be resolved in a civil manner. As far as counting on people that I have helped, I have given up. Like someone else said, there are givers, and there are takers in this life, and we must discern who is who. I tend to do things by myself rather than have to ask someone, so in that, I am partly to blame. But even if I was the needful type when it comes to assistance, and asked for help, only a select few might come to my aid, and that fact I have come to terms with. I simply told myself awhile back that I will be more selective as far as who I offer assistance to, and at what level do I want to give it? I am not bitter, I have just found a resolution. Good luck with yours.
Thank you yes, my anger is really getting the best of me. I have been angry all day , I don't think I've even been consistently angry that long in my life. It's like everything went to crap at once. I really don't feel like I deserve this but you know I guess that's why they say life's not fair. I will protect myself as best as I can and make it fair but I am so beyond mad. I don't see the point to "trying to be a good person" anymore.
I'd imagine other people have this problem. What is the solution, I know stop being there for them. Find someone else to be friends and family with. Has anyone tried this? Why is it so hard to count on people when you are always there for them? I don't think anyone should be taken for granted in any sort of relationship and I will not tolerate it from anyone. You get as good as you give. This is why so many people are loners and like animals better than people. Strangers on the internet are often kinder than the people you do things for in real life. Ok, done with rant. Comments please . . .
So you do things for others and support them emotionally JUST to ensure that someone will be there for you when you feel you NEED it without asking?
Guess what..........YOU are taking for GRANTED that THEY will be there for YOU just because you feel you are always there for them. Doing something to help someone out just to get the accolades, thanks, praise, acknowledgement and returned favor is doing something for all the wrong reasons.
When I was young I would put up with people like that and try to suck it up. There are many selfish people out there that will not be there for you in the same fashion that you are there for them. As I have grown older I have realized that life is too short to waste my time on these people, so I don't.
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Ok, done with rant. Comments please . . .
I don't see the point to "trying to be a good person" anymore.
