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Old 07-22-2013, 11:43 PM
 
Location: Shreveport, LA
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Old 08-02-2013, 07:34 PM
 
Location: Cambridge, MA
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tl;dr : Personal anecdote. Moral of story: Why do people say introverts need to get out of their shells? If a turtle gets out of his shell, he dies. :P

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For a long, long time, I was convinced that my unwillingness to go out and do things with the family, go out to eat, travel with people, etc. was a shameful thing and that I needed to try to fix myself.

Actually going on a trip, for example, but doing it on 'my terms': keeping to myself, bringing my own foods along, etc., felt outright 'sinful' and heinously selfish to me for some reason. Time and time again, I tried doing things normally with family and friends but never 'snapped out' of my reserved nature; it didn't get easier.

Then, (sorry to be sappy here, by the way), I decided to stop trying. I packed up a huge supply of my favorite foods and books, rode to Pensacola beach with my extended family, settled an air mattress in a quiet corner, and gave myself permission to retreat from the group whenever I wanted.

So I played a game or two, went out and played in the water with my younger cousins, watched TV and laughed with people...but also slipped away for long walks on the beach or some time with a book. For the first time since I was a child, I had the time of my life.

Okay...finally: One moment particularly stuck with me: One evening in the beach house, one of my uncles said that he was glad I could join the trip and that he was enjoying my company. I disagreed and remarked that I was an annoyance to travel with, with all my weird routines and aloofness. He replied, "That's just surface stuff; it doesn't matter."

I'll never forget that, and I think I want to take another trip soon!
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Old 08-03-2013, 04:54 AM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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Introversion is about whether you are drained or energized by spending time with people or spending time alone, and it's different than social awkwardness or shyness.
Its as simple as this.

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Another thing I noticed is the introvert and extrovert issue has caused a sort of line in the sand, "us vs them" mentality that deters understanding from both sides.
Theres confusion about introversion, even among introverts. Its not anti-social disorder.


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Who cares what anyone else thinks about your introversion or introversion, in general? So what if there is a "bias?"
Not to be dismissive about the OP concern, he just hasn't reached this stage in life.

Plus introverts internalize.
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Old 08-03-2013, 05:16 AM
 
Location: California
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I got this unsigned rep from a poster for a comment I made in another thread.

Not only is this so wrong on so many levels it shows the bias that many introverts deal with and voices the lingering societal sentiment that they can sometimes feel.

There is a lot of negativity associated with introverts and many times introverts need to be assisted or helped and extroverts rarely have to deal with this. I mean how many threads are there of people having problems due to their extroversion? Its the attitude that introverts need to be fixed and people misconstruing the definition of the word. I think the need to help the "less sociable" has mutated to something that does nothing but ridicule and micro analyzing traits and turning them into crippling mental disorders. I feel there are many social expectations and stigma's that make introverts feel "less" and they are put in boxes with those who do suffer from serious mental disorders.

I have said my piece but I open the door to discussion because I feel many times this topic only scratches the surface and don't get deep enough.

I open the door to discussion and debate within the spirit of the forum.

Please, there, their, and they're are NOT interchangeable. Check it out here:

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teaching people one tee-shirt at a time.......................
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Old 08-03-2013, 07:25 AM
 
Location: Cambridge, MA
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Please, there, their, and they're are NOT interchangeable. Check it out here:

Women's They're There Their Teacher School Funny T Shirt S M L Xl Xxl 5 Colors

teaching people one tee-shirt at a time.......................
Sorry, coldPlay, but JaybirdX is, in fact, using those words correctly.
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Old 08-04-2013, 03:33 AM
 
Location: California
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Default what was I thinking?

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Sorry, coldPlay, but JaybirdX is, in fact, using those words correctly.
yes, I'm reviewing it and wonder what I meant. Sorry about that. Maybe I was overly anxious to show that funny t-shirt link. Sorry Jaybird - my bad. lol
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Old 08-04-2013, 12:18 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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Please, there, their, and they're are NOT interchangeable. Check it out here:

Women's They're There Their Teacher School Funny T Shirt S M L Xl Xxl 5 Colors

teaching people one tee-shirt at a time.......................
There's a thread in Writing Forum devoted to proper grammer.
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