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Old 06-10-2013, 12:30 AM
 
Location: Howard County, MD
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Would any of you say that you experienced great gains in your overall social life after you stopped attending school/college/university? Not necessarily in how much you go out/"party" etc, but in overall quality of relationships, more gratifying experiences, faring better with people in general? Perhaps that as an adult you're given a bit more room to be an individual, and step outside the typical jock/nerd/etc clique mentality?
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Old 06-10-2013, 12:37 AM
 
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no i think it starts from school life where you meet people and still in the process now.
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Old 06-10-2013, 12:42 AM
 
Location: West Los Angeles
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No.
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Old 06-10-2013, 06:15 AM
 
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Yes. I came out of my shell and actively began seeking out friends and building a social network. I went from having a handful of friends at 22 to having more than I can keep track of at 37. I also made some major changes in how I interacted with the world though.
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Old 06-10-2013, 10:48 AM
 
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No, when you leave your educational arena, reality sets in, you get on the hamster wheel, usually have a family to support either from home or from work, things get much more complicated and you have much less time to make friends or have a social life. After you hit 40, statistically speaking, your success rate at making friends that stick go down with increasing age. A recent study that was published was very troubling, it involved young adults who agreed to forego the use of their media devices for a week, almost across the board, it was a very negative experience, some of the descriptors includes "isolation, depression, out of touch, going crazy", and some even got suicidal. Using media devices to "socialize" and "stay in touch" will promote social isolation more than anything I believe. It's a sad commentary on our society, we're losing the art of communicating in person and all the benefits that go with that.
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Old 06-10-2013, 11:05 AM
 
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My social life improved a ton after high school. Not right away mind you because I started working when I first got out of school but I started college and transferred to the university and I started having a far better social life than I did in high school.
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Old 06-10-2013, 11:32 AM
 
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My social skills improved. But my social life didn't. But that has to do with my choice of direction in life and not for lack of opportunity.
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Old 06-11-2013, 08:04 PM
 
Location: Corona the I.E.
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No I became more introverted, but I did select better friends and got a better looking GF does that count?
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Old 06-11-2013, 08:06 PM
 
Location: Corona the I.E.
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No, when you leave your educational arena, reality sets in, you get on the hamster wheel, usually have a family to support either from home or from work, things get much more complicated and you have much less time to make friends or have a social life. After you hit 40, statistically speaking, your success rate at making friends that stick go down with increasing age. A recent study that was published was very troubling, it involved young adults who agreed to forego the use of their media devices for a week, almost across the board, it was a very negative experience, some of the descriptors includes "isolation, depression, out of touch, going crazy", and some even got suicidal. Using media devices to "socialize" and "stay in touch" will promote social isolation more than anything I believe. It's a sad commentary on our society, we're losing the art of communicating in person and all the benefits that go with that.
I agree and respond that the social media is nice because I can choose or not to respond when I want to my post, but yeah it's a problem as a whole.
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Old 06-11-2013, 10:44 PM
 
Location: Windham County, VT
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Would any of you say that you experienced great gains in your overall social life after you stopped attending school/college/university? Not necessarily in how much you go out/"party" etc, but in overall quality of relationships, more gratifying experiences, faring better with people in general? Perhaps that as an adult you're given a bit more room to be an individual, and step outside the typical jock/nerd/etc clique mentality?
My answer is paradoxical.

On the one hand, my social life once I left college dwindled & shrank.
On the other hand, several years later I got a dx for my mental problem
(which helped me understand myself so much better).
It's too bad I didn't have that knowledge while still in school-
yet I'm kinda' relieved, bc. I was spared the stigma of a label.

Could go on, but I'd keep making points & then counterpoints to those-haven't a definitive answer.

Am glad that people weren't using social media back when I was in school (esp. the teen years)-
so at least my faux pas weren't broadcast online for all to make mockery of.
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