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Old 08-26-2013, 04:09 PM
 
Location: Orlando
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Default No neighbors

I would like to understand what happened to community, neighbors, being friendly, openess, I think some towns maybe better than others, but when it comes to the conversation, all I ask -agree people do NOT invite you over much anymore, or even care to know you, not even in churches. Now I believe if people look just like them it is easier,, but if you don't.. I don't know,, I am at a loss..
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Old 08-26-2013, 04:17 PM
 
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Too many variables: Your age, your community, your life situation (single vs kids, old vs young), type of neighborhood, house vs condo, different weather in two different places, more toys and activities to keep people and kids busy.
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Old 08-26-2013, 08:47 PM
 
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I believe it comes down to spying. The "police state" that has been created in America has gotten people more and more "private" and when you're forced to be private, you kind of withdraw from society, at least a little bit as you never know who's discussing or blamming your private conversations on social media.
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Old 08-26-2013, 09:27 PM
 
Location: Cleve-mistakeonthelake-land, Arm-Pittsburgh, De-thirdworld-troit, Upstate-Y'all
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People are working too many hours these days. When spare time is limited, they prioritize.
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Old 08-26-2013, 10:10 PM
 
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It starts with you. How many of your neighbors have you invited over for dinner?
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Old 08-27-2013, 08:44 AM
 
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I would like to understand what happened to community, neighbors, being friendly, openess, I think some towns maybe better than others, but when it comes to the conversation, all I ask -agree people do NOT invite you over much anymore, or even care to know you, not even in churches. Now I believe if people look just like them it is easier,, but if you don't.. I don't know,, I am at a loss..
It may be a matter of perceived similarity. Population density may also have something to do with it. I've found that when I lived in areas where people live closely packed together (large cities), people tend to stay isolated and not get to know their neighbors. (Like NYers who never seem to meet let alone talk to their neighbors.) When I've lived in less-densely populated areas like suburbs and exurbs, it has seemed like neighbors were more likely to interact with each other.

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I believe it comes down to spying. The "police state" that has been created in America has gotten people more and more "private" and when you're forced to be private, you kind of withdraw from society, at least a little bit as you never know who's discussing or blamming your private conversations on social media.
Seriously? "Police state"? Really?

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It starts with you. How many of your neighbors have you invited over for dinner?
That's a very good point, actually.
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Old 08-27-2013, 06:42 PM
 
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Both parents working; kids with constant activity demands; being on call for work even at home; availability of any sort of entertainment in one's home any time; long commutes. These are some of the things I think that have changed our lives.

I don't look at this as a total negative, though. I sort of value my privacy regarding my neighbors.
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Old 08-27-2013, 06:54 PM
 
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Transient neighborhood and/or rentals?
Large metro area?
Most of the adults working full time jobs and raising kids?

I would say areas like this, it is probably lack of free time to make friends with neighbors generally speaking.
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Old 08-28-2013, 08:35 AM
 
Location: East of Seattle, originally from SF Bay Area
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We have conversations with our neighbors all the time when we see them outside, borrow tools, lend a hand at times. With limited time after working and various hobbies, real socializing such as dinners are limited to good friends and family. This is despite being in the "friendliest town in the nation."

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