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1. Anyone here who feels that they don't want to be their gender of birth, but don't want to be the other gender either?
I am one of those people. Are there any options for people like me? Do gender neutral communities exist?
1. I suppose that I might somewhat fall into this description, but in a different way than you describe it. Frankly, the idea of me rotating between functioning as a male and functioning as a female (while I would have a female body and a more-or-less androgynous face) sounds pretty appealing to me.
2. As for options, try doing some research on this. There might be some forums and/or blogs which discuss this issue, as well as the websites for certain such communities which meet up in real life (if you know what I mean here).
I am 6'5. Trust me, it plays on my mind daily, towering over everyone and feeling like some sort of freak on stilts (because my legs are disproportionately long compared to my torso).
My issue is very much my gender though. Being tall has basically prevented me from trying to fix that. I have mulled over it many times and there's no fixing this. No amount of talking about it, therapy or pills will make any difference. I loathe my body, my appearance in general. There is absolutely no chance of me being content this way, never mind happy. My confidence is shot anyway from years of bullying and personal failure. I'm only here because I am too much of a coward to commit suicide, so I do my best to exist in my own world, in my own hole and away from people.
Disclaimer: I did not read the entire conversation. Thus, please don't get offended by what I say here.
In regards to your height, there are some females who are the same height or a greater height than you are. Thus, I don't think that one's height should prevent one from functioning as the gender which one considers himself or herself to be. Honestly, I myself would certainly not mind going out with and/or marrying a (very) tall woman--in fact, all other things being equal, taller women might actually be more attractive to me than shorter women. I myself am pretty tall (I am about 6 feet and 0 inches), and I am currently a biological male (though this can change in the future); that said, I have no problem with having a date/girlfriend/wife who is much taller than I am.
In regards to bullying, I honestly think that individuals who bully others (especially for something such as one's gender identity) are vile scum. For the record, I myself have been bullied (but for different reasons), so I do have some sort of taste as to what it is like.
In regards to suicide, honestly, I think that this is a horrible decision if one is not mentally ill. Of course, I am not in your position (I am gender-fluid, not transgender), but I do want to point out that suicide is permanent and that things might very well get better for you in the future. After all, we are gradually becoming a (much) more tolerant country and society, and honestly, this appears to be something that we should be proud of.
Your problem is not about your tallness, it's about shame and hypersensitivity. You are ashamed of yourself maybe because you were bulled in school for other kids, and u had inadequate parents that didn't fulfill ur needs. So you chose to be "in the middle" just to avoid the pain of having to be treated different. It works like a protection. So your choosing is not about sex, it's an emotional dilemma in deep. Even though being in the middle will cause you emotional problems because human beings are made to share love each other.
I strongly recommend to stay away from ppl that are eager to label you as "gay" in cases like urs, becase you are not gay.
i'd strong recommend you read about major basketball guys lifestyle in their early years. U'll be amazed how similar their stories are like yours, and how they overcome their fears of being "different".
Last edited by angelscorpio; 03-01-2014 at 07:26 AM..
I want to be a billionaire. Wake up on a yacht, not work, and have beautiful naked women constantly around me. This will probably not happen, though my fingers are still crossed.
That doesn't mean I can't wake up and be happy for the things I am blessed with.
I'm no expert in this subject you are discussing. But reading all these crazy theories, names they have come up for different issues, etc may be doing you more harm then good.
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