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Riding my bicycle as a primary means of transport, I'll either be dealing with the typical flat inner-tube, or some inclement weather I just get caught in.
Either way, I know how to repair the flats and if it's cold and windy, I know my trip-time will be increased incrementally and I will just deal with it and press on.
However, I'll get these random strangers who drive up and stop even when I'm not making any eye contact with them and ask if I'm alright or if I need a lift, or some other expression of "concern well-being".
Very few times will a simple wave of the hand, or "I'm good" will get them to leave hastily.
Sometimes they'll go after a five-minute explanation of what I'm doing, or they'll insist that I'll get sick if I don't accept their offer.
For fears of back-lash, I myself tend to just roll on by and assume they've got things under control.
I don't know about everyone else, but especially with Fall/Winter coming up, I'm not wanting to put up with these annoyances.
Is this just being overly self-reliant? Or am I just being mean some times?
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Originally Posted by bentstrider
Riding my bicycle as a primary means of transport, I'll either be dealing with the typical flat inner-tube, or some inclement weather I just get caught in. Either way, I know how to repair the flats and if it's cold and windy, I know my trip-time will be increased incrementally and I will just deal with it and press on.
However, I'll get these random strangers who drive up and stop even when I'm not making any eye contact with them and ask if I'm alright or if I need a lift, or some other expression of "concern well-being". Very few times will a simple wave of the hand, or "I'm good" will get them to leave hastily. Sometimes they'll go after a five-minute explanation of what I'm doing, or they'll insist that I'll get sick if I don't accept their offer. For fears of back-lash, I myself tend to just roll on by and assume they've got things under control.
I don't know about everyone else, but especially with Fall/Winter coming up, I'm not wanting to put up with these annoyances. Is this just being overly self-reliant? Or am I just being mean some times?
I re-arranged your paragraphs to make your post better...
Good for you.
I spent too much time arguing with the teacher in English class and was ultimately kicked out of too many of them at the grade school and college levels.
This is a discussion forum, not an English course.
But if you're insinuating I should go retake and get kicked out of one again on my own dime, then it's not going to happen.
I think you have to remember that people are just trying to be kind and considerate when they offer to help. You probably look like you're in great need of it and I think people who stop to help should be commended for trying to go out of their way to help a stranger they think is in need. That doesn't mean you have to accept their help but when you get annoyed, try to remember they're only doing it because they are good people.
Get irritated internally, that is your choice...but I suggest
choosing kindness, with tact that you are 'doing great, and
don't have time to talk, have a great day and thanks', and turn away to fix the bike.
Tried that once. And left before I decided to scream at the guy.
I'm cheap and not willing to lose any of my money to some over-educated snob who thinks he/she can make everyone permanently happy.
Some of you see it as kindness, I see it as people who just can't leave well enough alone.
If I'm being flagged down and they're genuinely in need of it, then I'll gladly stop and render any assistance.
If it looks like they're handling their situation, I'll only leave them alone out of fear they'll act just like I will.
Also, it seems the amount of people that suggest therapy and meds are growing at an ever-increasing rate.
Ingrate and proud of it.
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