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Massachusetts state promotes unpunished bullying because the school choice does not work, the Department of Elementary and Secondary Education is corrupt, non appeal and works together with districts covering them completely.
I was bullied for a long time back in elementary/middle school. I still hold anger and resentment about it even today. Those experiences were unforgettable and they destroyed my self-esteem at an early age and stunted my social growth. I was actually pretty talkative and popular before the bullying started and then I became withdrawn. One of the worst things was that the bullies would rarely, if ever, get in trouble. One group of kids told me they’d jump me and I reported it to the principal, and they were in school again the very next day. One time, a school worker mocked me in front of the whole cafeteria and I was laughed at by pretty much everyone in there. Some people say that you should forgive the bullies and that time heals wounds and other nonsense like that. Well I still hate them and I always will. If I found out tomorrow that one got hit by a car or had the worst form of cancer ripping through their body, I wouldn’t feel any pity or sympathy.
one of the worst kinds of bullying is gaslighting...denying yr experience so that you started doubting the validity of that, to turn you against yourself. then it is easy for them to just move in and take over.
Being big for your age can be a detriment for a guy. At 9, I was as tall and heavy as most 12-year-olds, but not as developed or experienced in rough-and-tumble. They would never hear the words "Pick on someone your own size," because I was their size, but softer, and they knew it. In addition, I wore glasses which were an uncool accessory, considered sissified, in the early 1950s: "Hey four eyes." Mom said, "If someone hits you, you hit 'em back." I tried, at least I tried, but boy did I get whupped on for the most part. I guess beating up someone their own size added to their rep.
I wanted to thank the OP for their efforts to support victims of bullying, to prevent suicides and bolster the damaged self-esteem of victims. You can say we were weak or wherever you want to say, but the bullying I endured damaged my sense of myself as a woman, probably more than I am even aware of. I simply do not trust people and have longed for an approval which has never come. During those years, everyone had to have noticed it and no one helped or supported me, not one single person. It's a miracle I'm not a violent criminal, but have always turned the anger towards myself.
This should never have happened to me. Children should be protected from this, but the adults are too cowardly to do their jobs.
One of the things someone may do by way of compensation for a damaged self-esteem is to over-achieve in their adult life. Then you get: "You think you're better than everyone else." Horrible irony.
Im in college and Im being bullied. Its a small college and Im the only outsider and the girls have boycotted me, anyone else boycotted by the entire class for doing nothing wrong- just refusing to flatter the inflated egos of the dominant girls in class ?!!!! Sad part & the part that shattered me was my own roommate who was also my only friend completely underwent a personality change once she was approached by those girls and she has boycotted me too.
She knew me best out here and if she wont stand by me then I have nothing more to say !!!My heart bleeds- I considered her my true friend.
The widespread slander against me is oppressive and the stares I receive from my batchmates- perpetual harassment. The massive propoganda- I don't know where to start to tackle it ???? and such mass rejection is humiliating.I'm so depressed, I wanna leave this college and run faster than the speed of light & never look back at this fiasco but its a good program and I have invested 3.5 years already and a lot of my dad's money has gone into it so I can't quit at this point. I have another year in hell left- I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.
My academic record is ruined. I have made it very clear to my parents that my only goal is to 'pass' out from this place which is in itself a big thing considering the pressure Im under & not to expect any honours or stuff.
Im shocked to the very core to see such unscrupulous and indecorous people in science college!!!!!And these are not 13 year old girls,we are all 23 more or less. This college is a joke. I want my respect back ! I feel miserable and Im always burning in anger.
Anyone in a similar situation????Please contact me, I need friends.
Other people only have as much power over your state of being as you allow them.
Approval seeking is a massive black hearts blood LIE.
I dont need approval from other people to know im ok.
I dont look for it or pay attention.
I dont compare my insides to other peoples outsides.
But i used to.
Those are my affirmations.
I grew up in a time where bullies where common, nobody really cared (especially the school), it was normal etc.....
Here is my message to people who are bullied.
Fight back!!!!
Bullies go after the weak, don't be that person.
And yes, violence is the only thing a bully understands. Eventually you either get violent back or it will never stop.
Ask, tell, make.........
1)Ask them nicely
2)Tell them firmly
3)Make them
I heard a psychiatrist say the same thing.
He told his son , if anyone hits you hit back twice as hard.
They will not hit you again because they know you hit back regardless of win or lose...you hit back .
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