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Old 12-09-2013, 03:24 AM
 
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No they're not. You can have kids outside a marriage or you could father a kid with a friend or a lesbian couple.

I asked you if you wanted kids because you said you wouldn't get a vasectomy, which would solve your financial fears. Not all women want to be mothers.

So my guess is that you still want to have kids and that is why vasectomy now is out of the question. Then under what circumstances do you want kids?

Do you want to have kids and a wife?

Or do you just want to to have kids even if it is outside a family?be

In both cases if you bring a kid to this world society makes you and the woman responsible for that child for 18 years. Some gay men know that and are willing to pay child support to achieve that dream. Some ask a friend(maybe an umarried woman who also wants to be a mother) others just fool a woman or have a sham marriage for a couple of years. It's more common than what you think.

It seems to me that a vasectomy after you have the amount of children you wish to have will solve your women's issues. Whether you are in a happy marriage or not you are still financially responsible for those kids you bring to this world. It has nothing to do with the mother but with parenthood.
I have no inherent desire to have kids. Period.
And that is why I never talked about vascetomy because there is no biological urge and never will be. And I find puppies far cuter than human kids.
I just wanted to know a way by which I would never get the urge to love and attraction. But seems like its impossible
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Old 12-09-2013, 03:28 AM
 
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@It seems to me that a vasectomy after you have the amount of children you wish to have will solve your women's issues

It seems like you are suggesting me to use a woman to have kids and then stay with her only to raise kids ?
Sorry. But by doing so I would lose respect for myself and wouldn't even be able to see my face in the mirror again.
I have no desire to destory a woman's life by pretending to love her.
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Old 12-09-2013, 03:31 AM
 
Location: Somewhere
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I have no inherent desire to have kids. Period.
And that is why I never talked about vascetomy because there is no biological urge and never will be. And I find puppies far cuter than human kids.
I just wanted to know a way by which I would never get the urge to love and attraction. But seems like its impossible
Then get a vasectomy (just in case a woman lies or a condom breaks) and find a woman who states she doesn't want to have kids. There are plenty of those women in this country.

It's that simple. You will avoid the whole motherhood tragedies you stated on your initial post.
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Old 12-09-2013, 03:43 AM
 
Location: Between West Chester and Chester, PA
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A flesh light is your friend.
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Old 12-09-2013, 04:12 AM
 
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Then get a vasectomy (just in case a woman lies or a condom breaks) and find a woman who states she doesn't want to have kids. There are plenty of those women in this country.

It's that simple. You will avoid the whole motherhood tragedies you stated on your initial post.
I have no desire to be with a woman. Kids or no kids . Can a vacetomy reduce feelings towards opposite gender ?
And briffualts law says the same thing for women who don't want kids.So it doens't matter.
Any other advices?
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Old 12-09-2013, 04:29 AM
 
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This is why. Read your post. You're profoundly conflicted, and it causes you tto get depressed. This isn't normal. With help, you can resolve this.
Yes my thoughts are conflicted. Its obvious for a teen i guess. I know it would settle down after some years. So its ok.
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Old 12-09-2013, 04:32 AM
 
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Yes, I got my "romeo" after I was badly wounded by a player whos only goal was to kill my dreams. Asking and cherish them so crashing them would be the worlds most hurt. As soulwound my name is. But my romeo woke me up of my bleeding death by a kiss of love. I was looking for more like prince charming and that is what I got

Don't let your dreams die what ever they are. If you face adversity be creative and try new ways to find what you want. Without losing those good and lovable things in you. There is some which can be seen in this thread but sadly negative is taken over you.

After all there is only you and her. To find her you have to fight against witches My husband promised to lend a sword of the truth to you
http://images1.fanpop.com/images/ima...54_600_707.jpg
now you know how to look: Truth is in the heart

Means get know what is inside her heart and you will see if she is a juliet or a witch. If juliet, keep her, if a witch, keep looking
Its so Fairy tale like. You do know that marriage and love is not fairy tale, right ?
Why we are so influenced by romantic stories even though they are not real ?
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Old 12-09-2013, 04:36 AM
 
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So far i have found this
Corn Flakes. John Harvey Kellogg was a proponent of abstinence and invented Corn Flakes in the belief that a bland, meatless breakfast would calm bodily urges.


I think i should eat it daily in breakfast. Seems like a great thing
I used to eat it when i was a kid. Never knew it could actually help to kill sex drive. Amazing
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Old 12-09-2013, 08:17 AM
 
Location: Sto'Vo'Kor
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Oh Princewilla, gosh dude...have a hug. ((Princewilla))

It's gonna be alright. Once, when I was down and out, a person that I look to in a Yoda sense gave me some sage advice:

"Snap the hell out of it."
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Old 12-09-2013, 08:25 AM
 
Location: Utica, NY
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You're also at a difficult age. Why do something now that you may potentially regret at 30 or older?
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