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Old 12-09-2013, 09:03 PM
 
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Seriously, you need to expand your thought process outside of the confined self defeating parameters you have established in your personal outlook toward women, relationships, marriage, family et al. If you haven't learned yet at your young age: Life is Difficult. For some more so than others, that doesn't mean one should forego the growth of experience of interacting with others at a multitude of levels, but if that 'confined comfort' of fear of interaction is putting you into a shell by all means, retract into it with your 'real doll' and find some relief in your mind.

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As an early poster mentioned, your attitude - as conveyed by your original post - will likely be picked up by most women, and drive any that you may have an interest in away for good.

 
Old 12-09-2013, 09:04 PM
 
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Look kid if this is a valid post you just need to chill a bit. Date about 100 women and then decide to be a hermit. Women are a great creation and sometimes a bad relationship can give you fond memories. Just don't make any unwanted babies.
 
Old 12-09-2013, 09:36 PM
 
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The entire thread, and your OP, is based on the fact that things are very far from under control. You're begging for help to "kill" your feelings and attraction towards women forever. Clearly, your feelings and attraction towards women are out of control.
Not out of control. Its just that, i am tired of being labeled as gay by my mates. So i thought, there should be a way when these things would never bother me again.
 
Old 12-09-2013, 09:38 PM
 
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You sound like one very sick, immature puppy. You are sexually attracted to women, but don't see them as individual human beings - just as grasping schemers. Women are people, not just sex objects. If what you want is a sex object, pay a prostitute to have sex with you. Try getting to know women through activities in which you have a mutual interest - a sport, hiking club, an organization for people of your ethnic group or religious persuasion. Just try to make some women friends, without dating. Sounds like you're socially isolated and forming your opinion of women through the internet, not through human interaction. If you really got to know some women, you would find that what most of them want from a man is a best friend, a lover, someone with whom to build a life and a family, a lifelong companion.
See my earlier post. I have never viewed women as sex objects and may never would. I am just confused
 
Old 12-09-2013, 09:41 PM
 
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Your original post included a lot of negative emotions towards women. It seems now you want us to believe you only want an answer for the sake of it but not bacause you have any negative feelings towards women. Remember when you said that women only used men for the first 5 years of the child's life and that was the reason why you "hated" marriage and parenthood?

You didn't just come here and requested help "to fix your problem" you felt an emotional need to accuse women of your misfortune. "Hate" is a very strong emotion and you did use in the original post
I saw it in a documentry in discovery channel and mentioned as such and i have found it true so far because briffualts law says the same thing.
I have nothing against women though.
 
Old 12-09-2013, 10:15 PM
 
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"It seems men only care about women until they have kids, and then they complain that they're not getting as much sex as they did before, and they start having affairs. Eventually they get sick of their now-heavier wife who is tired from doing most of the child care and housework even though she might be working full-time, too, so they leave for one of their younger, thinner girlfriends and don't bother to pay alimony or child support, or even have contact with their kids."

Now do you see how utterly ridiculous you are to paint women with such a broad brush? I have multiple female friends who have gone through the above scenario but that doesn't mean MY relationships have to turn out the same way. And one of those friends went on to marry a wonderful man who she's been with for 18 years now, and they're still blissfully happy and in love.

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Old 12-10-2013, 01:30 AM
 
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"It seems men only care about women until they have kids, and then they complain that they're not getting as much sex as they did before, and they start having affairs. Eventually they get sick of their now-heavier wife who is tired from doing most of the child care and housework even though she might be working full-time, too, so they leave for one of their younger, thinner girlfriends and don't bother to pay alimony or child support, or even have contact with their kids."

Now do you see how utterly ridiculous you are to paint women with such a broad brush? I have multiple female friends who have gone through the above scenario but that doesn't mean MY relationships have to turn out the same way. And one of those friends went on to marry a wonderful man who she's been with for 18 years now, and they're still blissfully happy and in love.
I told you what i have seen and witnesseed. Maybe what you said is true as well. Just maybe because that would be your experience and the environment in which you grew up.

As for the cheating part. Majority of the people don't cheat.
 
Old 12-10-2013, 01:33 AM
 
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Well the odds are you'll live another 60 years. I'm saying why are you going to take such drastic action when the problem isn't women, it's you!
The problem is the society which is too ignorant to see people with different perspectives i guess.
I don't believe in odds. I Iive in present not future.
 
Old 12-10-2013, 02:42 AM
 
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You sound like a thoughtful introvert but you are still emotionally young. I do sense a tone of anxiety though, which makes me wonder if you are just clever enough to make yourself think you don't want relationships that you actually yearn for deep down.

Perhaps you have intellectualized that you cannot have what you want, therefor it is beneficial (and less painful) to deny yourself these feelings. And the last bit of self-denial is that pesky physiological stuff that isn't quite as easy to deal with. But I think there is more going on here then just the physical piece. I think I could relate to some extent in my younger days.

Why decidedly do "anything" regarding women, sex, or relationships? I mean...why not focus on what it is you find passion in (engineering it seems) but not close the door on something you (admittedly) have no first hand knowledge of? You may be a particularly unique personality that can't just find "off the shelf" people to bond with (whether platonically or romantically or sexually) but that does not mean it is not possible. It is only possible or impossible if you make it so...so why make anything impossible that might be a really great experience?

The human experience, and ultimately what makes us unique from most creatures, is that we have the capability of having such rich emotional experiences. But emotion need not mean pain...it can mean incredible feelings that you never knew you could have for another person. It can mean you find somebody that truly appreciates "you". It can change your life perspective, purpose, and reasons for existing. It does require a level of emotional vulnerability to gain those benefits, but they need not be haphazardly rushed into. Slow & steady is perfectly fine and anybody that you would share such a bond with would also understand this about you.

My 2 cents (which may or may not be worth that much)....is that you are a very sensitive person that has not seen evidence of other such compatibilities in women that you have encountered. Perhaps you grew up in a very high society place where women (and perhaps people in general) put up affronts to conceal who they really are. And this is not obvious to you & your willingness to invest in other people has been eroded based on this. What you should know is that this world (and even the states, countries, etc.) are not all rinse/repeat mini-cultures and many of these breed many different people. You may need to travel a bit...really spend time away from what you know...in order to learn more about yourself. I think you would start to see that you can be who you always thought or wanted to be. It just takes the perspective of yourself that you just don't have at 18 yrs old.
I am amazed by your posts because you are maybe one of the few person who actually understood me.
You said there is more going on here. I was reluctant to admit it first but i don't want to hide it anymore. I was diagonsed with Ocd when i was 16. Actually i could remember it having when i was 8 years old.
I used to repeat things or try to do the already done things Better because my mind was never satisfied.. It affected my high school year in worst possible way.
And i don't know but it increases 10 folds when i exposed myself to things like love and relationship. And then i came to understand so many truths about relationship and women by lots and lots of people in the internet.
I still remember when i was 15 i went to my uncle to live with them for 2 weeks in my summer vacation. And for Straight 14 days i saw my uncle and aunt fighting with each other and the mAin cause of their fighting was their daughter. My aunt was obesessed with her and overly possesive. I have seen her not allowing my uncle to spend some alone time with his daughter too.
They always got in bitter fights because of this reason plus she virtually had no time for my uncle or for me ( for that matter). It was not cool. My holiday was pure hell and it kind of did something to my brain. And then when i found that there were so many marriages like that in internet, infact there is whole briffualts law regarding this behaviour and then the documentary along with various other which touched this topic.
Like this Women in Love |
You would find almost every men in that site to agree with him. All these things created a wall in my brain which was fuled by my OCD. Whenever i try to move on or to think differently about women my OCD force me to think all these things again and repeat the pattern. So my brain never get the chance to think differently. Its frustating man. Ocd is now a part of my life and i have learned to live happily with it.
I remain the happiest when i don't think about women or relationship because that time there is no ocd which could force me to think about the negatives again and again and again. Its very complicated and i don't know how can i explain it to you without sounding crazy.
I sometimes think its not me who think about women like that. Its my Ocd. Its like, a wind kind of blow all these negatives thoughts in my mind which make me depressed.
That is why i try to avoid girls. I try to remain distant from them. Not because i hate them but because of my problems regarding this whole thing and i don't want to ruin a girl's life.
My mates often think i am Gay and say so and some even question me being a human or alien. I try to laugh it out but deep down it hurt me because they just don't understand me.
I don't watch porn because i feel bad for women who are in it. I don't take pleasure in someone's pain. Circumstances can make people do many things which may probably considered wrong in society
Yes you are right, i am a quite sensitive person and i don't like it one bit.
I learn and practice new programmes almost 5 hours a day because all i want is to see my parents proud faces because nothing matters to me more. I don't want to waste my college life in chasing girl. You said many important things and i understand that but sadly i cannot implement them in my life.
I wish there would be something like a solution which would stop me from thinking about women and feelings, My whole life has changed and i have no idea for better or worse ?
My views about life is not what they were when i was 15. Now i see things differently,
I know its hard to understand me. But i wanted to be honest with you
I think my reasons for killing attractiion and feelings are legit,
 
Old 12-10-2013, 02:48 AM
 
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Seriously, you need to expand your thought process outside of the confined self defeating parameters you have established in your personal outlook toward women, relationships, marriage, family et al. If you haven't learned yet at your young age: Life is Difficult. For some more so than others, that doesn't mean one should forego the growth of experience of interacting with others at a multitude of levels, but if that 'confined comfort' of fear of interaction is putting you into a shell by all means, retract into it with your 'real doll' and find some relief in your mind.

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As an early poster mentioned, your attitude - as conveyed by your original post - will likely be picked up by most women, and drive any that you may have an interest in away for good.
Thank you for your response mate. Many girls on my college had shown interest in me but i always ignored them. Perhaps, i know what i am doing and not following my biological drive and nature.
Who cares about masturbation anyway ?
I don't.
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