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Old 12-10-2013, 02:51 AM
 
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Look kid if this is a valid post you just need to chill a bit. Date about 100 women and then decide to be a hermit. Women are a great creation and sometimes a bad relationship can give you fond memories. Just don't make any unwanted babies.
Perhaps we should teach these morals to young generation.
Unwanted babies ?
So far i have seen 4 abortions already. Most of my mates just want to get laid and have unwanted babies.
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Old 12-10-2013, 02:53 AM
 
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Oh, I think that's easy. If you dislike women on an intellectual and emotional level, then the only thing left drawing you in is instinct.

All you need to do is take a testosterone blocker/anti-androgen, and that should eliminate your sexual drive. It might make you a little physically weaker and fatter, but if you're suffering from it that much... it might be worth it.
But i love my muscles. I wouldn't trade my body for that. I have already start to take corn flakes though.
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Old 12-10-2013, 02:55 AM
 
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I hear castration has the effect you're looking for. Might want to give that a try.
perhaps i love my body and don't want to ruin it ?
any more advice ?
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Old 12-10-2013, 03:06 AM
 
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Sorry, but you're NOT "perfectly OK." It's not mentally healthy to outright reject all the wonders of interacting with the opposite sex (or a same-sex relationship if you are gay) just because of the negative things you PROJECT will happen. They certainly don't happen to everyone. Even those of us who are divorced often don't regret our marriages, we just believed it was not best for whatever reason to continue with them. It's human nature to remember the good more than the bad; when I think of the men I've had relationships with I remember the good things about the experience even if there was pain along the way.

But you certainly are guaranteeing a bad experience if you approach all women with the idea they are out to use you only as a sperm donor and financial support for their children. I know a lot of men who adore their children and consider their relationships with them to be the happiest and most fulfilling part of their lives — whether or not they remained life partners with the children's mother. But even if you decide children aren't for you, there's no reason for you to be a lone wolf with a wall surrounding your emotions. It's not a way to live happily.

If you are still in college, you are young enough that perhaps you still haven't fallen deeply in love yet. I had casual boyfriends (and unrequited crushes) through high school and college, but I didn't experience deep love until I was 27. That's pretty old for a woman, but I don't think it makes me bizarre. But you have to be open-hearted toward others if you're going to have fulfilling sexual relationships or even mere friendships.

Your current attitude, as you describe it, is one of suspicion and negativity. That has to come from fear that a person who hasn't even had relationships yet shouldn't experience. Growing up, you must have interacted with adults who drilled some really ugly ideas into your head. Please discuss your attitudes with a therapist so you can get some ideas of how to project more open-mindedness in your relationships. It's also possible you might be suffering from depression or anxiety disorder. Getting that sorted our might change ALL your attitudes.

Start with warm friendships. If you can't even feel secure in those, you absolutely aren't ready for sex yet. As someone previously mentioned, your school can provide a counselor for you to talk to if you can't afford to see a therapist on your own. Please do it; don't waste your life on such a negative focus.
For me the most fulfiling relationship i ever have is with my parents and no woman or child can top that, nor i want to.
Plus i would consider myself a failure if i couldn't even showed my supposed kids a healthy and loving marriage because i myself have never seen such thing so far and i know its not possible, so no way i would have kids in this lifetime.
No, i have never been in love EVER. I don't even know how it feels like. I grew some strong feelings for a girl when i was in highschool. So i decided to left that school fortunately.
I have a dear friend and i can do anything for him ( even die for him). Unfortunately he is not with me anymore and i miss him a lot. So no. Its not,like i don't have friends,
At the end of the day, i love being alone. Negative emotions?
Who cares,
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Old 12-10-2013, 03:08 AM
 
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Let me introduce you to my mother-in-law.
Awwww..... I would gladly.
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Old 12-10-2013, 03:37 AM
 
Location: Rheinland-Pfalz, Germany
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Why are you thinking about this, its not healthy, your 18!!!

As for your question, I cant answer it for 2 reasons. Its moronic coupled with the fact that I am coming up on 20 years of marriage and 3 children, couldnt imagine my life without them.
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Old 12-10-2013, 07:30 AM
 
Location: Loudon, TN
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If your primary source of knowledge about women is the internet, that may be a big part of the problem. Do you have any female friends? Or do you just see women as some uniformly unnecessary evil? Women are all different buddy. I know because I am one. I can tell you that most women do not want to marry, breed, and then discard their man. I don't know where in the world you see that. As a woman I see it from the opposite perspective. I see men who will do anything to get some booty from a woman, and then once they've conquered, they move on to the next conquest. You see how I generalized there? That's what you are doing, assuming all women want children, assuming all women want to stay at home for the first 5 years, assuming that we want men to go away after that.

From your posts on this thread, I see several possibilities. One, that you are simply asexual, nothing wrong with that I guess but it could get lonely. Two, maybe you are simply behind in your development of sexuality. You didn't state your age in your original post and I haven't read all 4 pages of this thread, but your emotional maturity level sounds to be about in your early teens. Three, maybe there is a physical, hormonal issue, such as low testosterone.

It's all cool, no one has to pair off with someone of either gender. If you are okay with being unpartnered, then stay that way.
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Old 12-10-2013, 07:37 AM
 
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If your primary source of knowledge about women is the internet, that may be a big part of the problem. Do you have any female friends? Or do you just see women as some uniformly unnecessary evil? Women are all different buddy. I know because I am one. I can tell you that most women do not want to marry, breed, and then discard their man. I don't know where in the world you see that. As a woman I see it from the opposite perspective. I see men who will do anything to get some booty from a woman, and then once they've conquered, they move on to the next conquest. You see how I generalized there? That's what you are doing, assuming all women want children, assuming all women want to stay at home for the first 5 years, assuming that we want men to go away after that.

From your posts on this thread, I see several possibilities. One, that you are simply asexual, nothing wrong with that I guess but it could get lonely. Two, maybe you are simply behind in your development of sexuality. You didn't state your age in your original post and I haven't read all 4 pages of this thread, but your emotional maturity level sounds to be about in your early teens. Three, maybe there is a physical, hormonal issue, such as low testosterone.

It's all cool, no one has to pair off with someone of either gender. If you are okay with being unpartnered, then stay that way.
If you guys have no advice to give then there is no point of discussion at all. I know who i am, what i am and why i am like that. I don't want to mention it in all of my posts.
I wish was asexual though because if i was i wouldn't be here to ask this question in the first place.
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Old 12-10-2013, 07:44 AM
 
Location: Loudon, TN
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Okay, I just read your response to MartinEden. I think I understand now. I am sorry you had bad experiences with your Aunt and Uncle, but that is not the norm. MOST marriages are healthier and happier. Maybe because of your OCD you are fixating on these negative thoughts. I know you say you have made peace with your OCD, but there is treatment, medications to help lessen it. Are you seeing a doctor for your OCD? Please consider taking medication to help you with it. The obsessive thoughts you describe are limiting your life and future. Having a partner in life is a wonderful thing. I have been with my hubby for 16 years and we have no children. We love each other and we let each other be our true selves with each other. We are there to support each other emotionally in hard times. This is the sort of thing that you will miss out on by shutting yourself off from romantic relationships. I know this is a tough time for you, but finding an understanding counselor to talk through all these things with could help you to understand that these feelings are confusing, but to be patient and open to people that you meet, and someday, maybe, you will meet someone who you can have a caring relationship with.

eta: I'm sorry I didn't mean asexual, I meant celibate.
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Old 12-10-2013, 07:55 AM
 
Location: Utica, NY
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The problem is the society which is too ignorant to see people with different perspectives i guess.
I don't believe in odds. I Iive in present not future.
I'm not ignorant and I am as much against societal norms as anyone else. I was just trying to let you know that you might feel differently in the not too distant future. You might see your worth as a man differently and that not all women don't value men in the way you describe. That's my point.

On the flip side, should women do the same when we reach a certain age and no longer feel physically attractive to men? Isn't it kind of the same thing?
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