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Old 12-12-2013, 12:16 PM
 
Location: FROM Dixie, but IN SoCal
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creative energy ? Hmm. Does creative energy has anything to do with helping poor etc.? I I really like this
It may help to think of said creative energy as "passion", as in "I have a passion for sculpting". Generally, you have to find your own.

For my personal peace of mind I need to emphasize something: you're considering 'interfering' with a powerful, deep-seated and extremely primitive human drive that draws most of its energy from neuro-chemicals and enzymes. They don't think or reason, and they are largely immune to the influence of higher-order (read as "rational") thought processes. The course of action you're considering is fraught with extreme problems and personal danger.

I won't try to talk you out of it because it would probably do no good. Therefore, should you decide to pursue this life-path, please DON'T try to do it all by yourself.

Best wishes always,

-- Nighteyes (who is just slightly younger than dirt...)

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Old 12-12-2013, 12:29 PM
 
Location: in a pond with the other human scum
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Lots of men avoid serious relationships with women (or men, for that matter), yet take care of their sexual urges, by buying sex. Unless you deal with street w***es or the like, the women are typically safe (or are unlikely to do anything unsafe with you, for their own protection). While it's dishonest for men in relationships to do it, I see nothing wrong with a single man doing it. I would become familiar with the, ahem, market, as it were, to minimize the risks of STDs and arrest, both of which can be avoided with knowledge and caution.

I didn't read all 21 pages of the thread so someone else may have suggested it already and you may have dismissed it out of hand as you seem to have dismissed others' suggestions.
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Old 12-12-2013, 01:40 PM
 
Location: Armsanta Sorad
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You know, i do all of the things you have mentioned and even more. But still..... There is something which makes me thing about things which i should totally ignore.
Yes, i know i am far better being single .
A lot of females have ulterior motives and false accusations are on the rise. I don't know what else to say.
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Old 12-12-2013, 02:32 PM
 
Location: Vermont
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you could get a vasectomy...
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Old 12-12-2013, 09:12 PM
 
Location: FROM Dixie, but IN SoCal
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you could get a vasectomy...
Nope. This doesn't disarm anything. It only transforms the bullets into blanks. And, since shooting no longer carries a meaningful consequence...

-- Nighteyes (the Voice of Experience)
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Old 12-12-2013, 11:25 PM
 
Location: 60015
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Your post just touched my heart. Thanks for some great views.
I am like an explorer. In free time, I turn on my GPS and go for tracking or just explore new areas. It my way of living.
Things which bothers me the most is my friends constant accusation of me being Gay or weird because I choose not to watch porn with them or tend to ignore girls.
And I am kind of fed up of explaning this to everyone EVERYDAY.
I'm glad I was able to help. I see some of myself in you--not necessarily for wanting to not be attracted to women--but for everything else that makes you unique. I kind of know where you're coming from in a sense.

Don't worry about what the others do. Believe me, I've been there. For most of my life I've had very few close friends. But those friends are like brothers (or sister) I never had.

You have to ask yourself what a friend is. Is a friend someone that hurts you? brings you down? Or is it someone who builds you up and help you become who you are? I cut out a lot of people in my life when I started to ask these questions of myself years ago. Even today, many people know who I am, but very few 'know' me. It's important to do this to be able to spend time with yourself and interact with other people who genuinely want to spend time with you as well. I have no problems walking away from someone who even has the slightest negative influences on me. I don't need them, and neither do you. No one does. Each of us can find a hundred negative things in life; we definitely don't need friends piling onto that negativity.
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Who gurantee that I would live that long ?
Who knows how much hours I even have to live ?
I don't think about future because it may or may not exist.
I think I saw this in a movie, but the line was 'the future will happen, if you're ready or not'.

Some people have the dumb luck of everything in their life just working out. I'm definitely in the other camp where if I don't plan every minute detail that it will come back to bite me hard. Most people are somewhere in between.

Understandably, none of us know if our days are over tomorrow. But if we want something out of life, we have to plan for it. Unless we're already where we want to be.

"The only difference between a dream and a goal is a plan." Figure out what this saying means in your life. Hopefully it will give you some insight into what tomorrow holds for you.
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All these frustation would. go away once i find a way to kill my feelings.
And no, i have no interest in going to a counselor or anyone. I am not mad.
I completely get where you're coming from now that you mentioned the ocd. I completely get it--attractive women get you stuck into a 'loop' of thought. The funny thing is, I never been diagnosed for ocd, but I do that sometimes as well. Sometimes my mind isn't happy with the solution or the answer. But I've understood that sometimes my mind needs to be put on hold so I can do daily things to the best of my ability.

Therapy with a good counselor is like taking a crossword puzzle to someone who you know has the answer, but instead of giving you the answer, they help you figure out the answer on your own--and not only for this crossword puzzle, but for every puzzle you'll ever work on. This is the best analogy for therapy I can think of.

If you go to a doctor, dentist, or eye doctor, you've got your body, your teeth, and your eyes checked out. But physical health isn't the only part of health care. Mental health is a big part of being healthy, and unfortunately it's ignored for the most part by the entire world because we've gotten so 'smart' that we think that we don't need to worry anymore.

Mental health is just as important as physical health. I'm willing to bet your ocd didn't start at 8 (I think it was 8 you posted--sorry if I got this wrong). It was probably well before eight, I would hazard a guess even before 5. The problem is that people in general don't go in for mental health checkups like they do for everything else. Because if we did, you might have gotten diagnosed easier and been given techniques you can use to manage your ocd and better understand it.

I'll tell you a bit of my own background with mental health. I was depressed for over 10 years of my life, and I didn't even know it. I supressed emotions because I didn't understand how to deal with them, and they would build up and come out at other times. Anger was my worst one. My anger would be ragingly violent, but then I also had feelings of deep hopelessness and sadness. I thought all this would 'work itself out', or I'd 'get over it'. Well, I couldn't. I started logging how I felt and noticed I had two week cycles of happiness and depression. I was in school and went to their free services. After a week of general questions and what I thought was conversations, I was given some real insight into myself. After I was sitting for a while silent with shock at my new insights, my counselor told me that the road to getting better won't be easy, but that the steps are this easy.

Therapy helped me because it gave me ideas on how to approach my problem differently, with more understanding of myself. Since I didn't have any physiological problems (no chemical imbalances), I was able to deal with all my issues through cognitive therapy. Years later, I've resolved all but one issue that I think my wife shares--and that has caused issues for us. You can never run away from these things. They are a part of you. (Hence why I suggested that you don't try to change your instinct towards women.)

You've got some issues you need to deal with in a way that works for your greater mental health. I hope you don't take that as an offence as I think some of the people in this thread have even more issues. None of us are perfectly healthy physically, and it's the same mentally. If you have to be mad to seek therapy, then we're all mad.

I hope this post has given you some more help. I really feel for you when I read some of the more ruthless and insensitive posts. Unfortunately, it's what the Internet has made of discussion forums--a place that can be quite vile.
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Old 12-12-2013, 11:55 PM
 
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Lots of men avoid serious relationships with women (or men, for that matter), yet take care of their sexual urges, by buying sex. Unless you deal with street w***es or the like, the women are typically safe (or are unlikely to do anything unsafe with you, for their own protection). While it's dishonest for men in relationships to do it, I see nothing wrong with a single man doing it. I would become familiar with the, ahem, market, as it were, to minimize the risks of STDs and arrest, both of which can be avoided with knowledge and caution.

I didn't read all 21 pages of the thread so someone else may have suggested it already and you may have dismissed it out of hand as you seem to have dismissed others' suggestions.
Buying sex ?
I have some self respect for god sake. I am not so desprate to hire a prostitute. I cannot believe someone would suggest this
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Old 12-12-2013, 11:59 PM
 
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A lot of females have ulterior motives and false accusations are on the rise. I don't know what else to say.
This whole false accudation thing is also a reason which makes me avoid girls at all cost because I have myself seen a girl falsely accusing a guy for inapropriate touching ( which happened to be her date ). I think I have mentioned this story somewhere
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Old 12-13-2013, 12:01 AM
 
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you could get a vasectomy...
Really?
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Old 12-13-2013, 12:05 AM
 
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It may help to think of said creative energy as "passion", as in "I have a passion for sculpting". Generally, you have to find your own.

For my personal peace of mind I need to emphasize something: you're considering 'interfering' with a powerful, deep-seated and extremely primitive human drive that draws most of its energy from neuro-chemicals and enzymes. They don't think or reason, and they are largely immune to the influence of higher-order (read as "rational") thought processes. The course of action you're considering is fraught with extreme problems and personal danger.

I won't try to talk you out of it because it would probably do no good. Therefore, should you decide to pursue this life-path, please DON'T try to do it all by yourself.

Best wishes always,

-- Nighteyes (who is just slightly younger than dirt...)
I have a passion of being a explorer and find things and places of my own and I love it. I understand what you are saying though.
But What do you mean by " don't try to do it all by yourself ".
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