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Old 04-23-2014, 02:45 PM
 
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Er, I like many of Cher's songs, but I wouldn't call myself a big fan.

Anyway, to the question, yes, but I think men have regained some freedom in the past 5 years, thanks to the general peacock tread in men's style. Looking boyishly handsome and casually well-dressed 10 years ago probably hurt me more than I want to think about.
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Old 04-23-2014, 02:50 PM
 
Location: Howard County, MD
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If anything, I think it's the complete opposite: The pre-digital age "macho man" ideal seems to be dying out, and guys seem like they care less and less about seeming "soft".
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Old 04-23-2014, 04:16 PM
 
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Quite the opposite,I think. I have a bunch of straight male friends and a gay male friend in one of the groups that I hang out with. No topic is out of bounds, and we all know where each other stands on the Kinsey spectrum. Heck, we all went out to a gay bar together (out of solidarity with the gay member of the group) and nobody worried if other people would think they were "gay" when they weren't.

And my straight male co-workers feel perfectly comfortable discussing the attractiveness of other men. There's a guy in our industry whom we all (straight men and women) refer to as "Dreamy." Objectively speaking, he's just tremendously attractive. He's also one of the kindest people you'd ever want to meet, so there have been debates about whether it's his looks or personality that makes him more attractive. Nobody's going around shrieking "OMG, you're gay" to the straight men who acknowledge the fact that this guy is exceptional.
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Old 04-23-2014, 04:21 PM
 
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If anything, I think it's the complete opposite: The pre-digital age "macho man" ideal seems to be dying out, and guys seem like they care less and less about seeming "soft".
I've also actually found that the more "genuinely" macho a guy is, the more comfortable he is with discussing such things. (You know, as opposed to guys who posture about their masculinity rather than BEING masculine.) Secure straight men do not really care about how their sexuality is perceived or about the sexuality of others. I've dated an ex-biker, a former military sniper, a construction worker, etc. They were all very gay friendly. As one dude put it "If gay guys want the hairy ass, that just means more women for me to choose from."

I did not have the heart to tell him that a large swathe of gay men wax their hairy asses.
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Old 04-23-2014, 11:49 PM
 
Location: Sydney, Australia
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I'd almost be willing to bet that those men who asked you the "gay question" were essentially straight. Gay men, and many women, have excellent 'gaydar' -- they always seem to intuitively know when a male is gay.
Straight and gay men are actually better at detecting gays. Straight men have always called 'good-looking' men gay and turned out to be right. I mean, many straight women, thanks to their wishful thinking, abstain from calling an attractive man gay and would attack you for doing so. They can only tell when an effeminate guy is gay, but God forbid if you call a hot guy gay in front of them. Back then, men have always thought that Wentworth Miller or Ricky Martin were gay (who were so obvious), but fangirls attacked them with "jealous trolls" and whatnot.
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Old 05-02-2014, 04:49 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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Honestly??? To me I would say the gay males just don't care who they hit up on, Just like the straight men trying to get some action from any type of female. I have seen it all with folks, they just don't have respect for themselves or others. I don't think it has anything to do with your masculinity. Folks these days in time are just desperate, not considering anything but what they want. That is just the way I have seen it.
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Old 05-03-2014, 09:25 AM
 
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Men are different... Some are not picky at all whereas others are quite picky. Like eating, some will eat anything whereas others will only eat certain things.

And sex drive / drug* use may have something to do with that. Some men have a stronger sex drive and *must* frequently have sex. Other men can take it or leave it.

*Using marijuana for example will diminish a man's sex drive. I know a heavy smoker of marijuana who frequently tells his wife no to sex! And other men who smoke marijuana and do not seem to be very interested in sex with anyone - rarely mention it!
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