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The popular way to be cool is to be very insecure and have no idea of yourself, just follow the herd and mimic everything others do.
The unpopular way to be cool is to do your own thing and seek attention....still shows insecurity though.
The true way is to not give a hoot what anyone else thinks and just go about your life in your own way...not caring is you are starting a trend or not.
Why would you want a bunch or losers trying to emulate you?
So, I guess what I'm really asking is how can I go about becoming a good public speaker and presenter? It's not just teaching theory; most of what I've learned in school doesn't apply to substitute teaching, and the ones who have the most success seem to be the ones who can rely on a good personality to help them maintain rapport in the face of chaos. The ones who can connect build a positive reputation with the students.
Please keep in mind that the students are not normally a quiet and attentive audience, and something has to catch their attention right away for them to show interest; otherwise, they find their own way to entertain themselves and ignore the speaker. That's the group dynamic. Subs also need to know how to deal with problem students one-on-one. It seems like common sense, but, in practice it requires sophisticated communication skills and the ability to build rapport rapidly. Unfortunately, I usually flounder like Bush; I know exactly what I want to communicate, but I don't know how to put it into words.
Best thing I can say, join Toastmasters if you want to become a better presenter and speaker. I went through the whole program, and it has changed my life. You'll never regret the opportunity to invest in yourself.
Best thing I can say, join Toastmasters if you want to become a better presenter and speaker. I went through the whole program, and it has changed my life. You'll never regret the opportunity to invest in yourself.
Awesome, but I don't think we have a Toastmasters group here.
So, I guess what I'm really asking is how can I go about becoming a good public speaker and presenter? It's not just teaching theory; most of what I've learned in school doesn't apply to substitute teaching, and the ones who have the most success seem to be the ones who can rely on a good personality to help them maintain rapport in the face of chaos. The ones who can connect build a positive reputation with the students.
Please keep in mind that the students are not normally a quiet and attentive audience, and something has to catch their attention right away for them to show interest; otherwise, they find their own way to entertain themselves and ignore the speaker. That's the group dynamic. Subs also need to know how to deal with problem students one-on-one. It seems like common sense, but, in practice it requires sophisticated communication skills and the ability to build rapport rapidly. Unfortunately, I usually flounder like Bush; I know the gist of what I want to communicate, but I don't know how to put it into relatable words.
I feel that this inability to communicate effectively also affects my everyday interactions with other people. If I stumble over my words, display too much discomfort, or inadvertently communicate the wrong things, the chances I'm going to connect with that person are slim. This is what I want to work on. I've thought about writing scripts for myself, but I'm not sure that would work well all the time.
That is precisely what Toastmasters does, but it seems you only want someone to tell you some magic thing that will transform you. Whatever you do is going to take effort and work, and a lot of it.
That's all you need. If you have self-confidence, people will want to listen and emulate. Literally "hold your head high." Especially when walking into a room (bar, public place, workplace). And fake it til you make it.
IF you want to have charisma, Google "Bill Clinton, charisma". Like him or hate him, Clinton had the prefect charisma. His most notable characteristic was when he was talking to someone, he made that person feel like they were the only person in the world to him.
Look at this clip from the 1992 presidential debates. George Bush doesn't have a clue what the lady is talking about. Bill Clinton moves up closer to her and looks her directly in the eye. That's charisma. Look at Bush's reaction at 3:47, he's like "Ok, that guy nailed it."
Sure, he was charismatic and a great speaker but he was also wolf in sheep's clothing that started the great swing to the socialism we are sinking in today - he is Bill Clinton and his witch of a wife is going to most likely run for POTUS in 2016.
The last guy you want to emulate is Clinton and that enough should speak volumes.
I want charisma, and I can't stop thinking about it. I wish I had the kind of personality that made people want to listen to me and follow my ideas. I wish I could establish myself as a competent leader who can apply positive social pressure where needed to help turn people to my cause. Most of all, I wish I could do something that would make those kids stop, pay attention, and honor me for my knowledge and understanding. How do people who have a powerful presence and good rapport with people do it?
Most of my memories of receiving attention are in the form of something shameful or negative, usually not true. I was an easy target when I was in school, and to this day I wonder how people actually see me. I wish I knew how to control the impression I give as well as teach others to make a good impression.
Genuinely cool people don't give a damn about other people's opinions of thems. They just be who they are, just do their own thing. The least cool thing in the world is someone trying to be 'cool'.
First of all doing cool things is the first step to being cool. So go out and do some things, like sky diving, race car driving, south beach in winter, hamptons in summer, Aspen Sking so you have something cool to talk about
There are actually schools you can go to. I don't know what they're called now, but there used to be Dale Carnegie courses for men and "charm schools" for girls, and the people I've known who availed themselves of them often turned out to have a great deal more confidence in themselves.
I wonder if these still exist. Even just reading Dale Carnegie's books can help.
But there is a difference between confidence and charisma. You can gain confidence. You have to be born with charisma.
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