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Originally Posted by ramkobe
I forgot to mention that I have an aunt who is very judgmental when it comes to looks. She will often whisper to me if someone is really ugly. For example, we were at a wedding when she whispers to me that the bride's family were really really ugly. Also, I remember spending a lot of time at her house when I was little..
So could I have gotten the shallowness from her?
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It's possible, if you can't find any other reason.
My dad is very shallow and sometimes rude about it. He's usually misogynistic making rude remarks about women's looks saying stupid stuff like "her face can stop a clock" and has even made rude remarks to women about their weight.
I used to be shallow, too, but not deliberately rude like my dad. In my teens, I rejected some girls as girlfriends based on their weight and looks but without telling them why... except a friend of mine stupidly told 2 why I rejected them, so I ended up really hurting their feelings and regret it.
Not that I always acted shallow back then, I still was a (platonic) bf to some girls I didn't think were physically attractive, but it was because some of my friends didn't say anything about their looks. Back then, concerns about fitting in drove me to be shallow, but I changed when I reached my 20s. I regret having been shallow, but I wasn't a bright kid/teen and went along with the crowd to be accepted.