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one thing about ugliness, I can see it only when the person's innermost soul or their personality or their character is really ugly and then their face shows it. like if they are mean or twisted and it shows on their face, in their eyes, their facial expressions. I count ugliness as from within something about them.
I see people on an off who are just plain ugly. It must be a burden beyond belief. They may be nice people and want to have close friends and a nice job and all the things that the average person has but their appearance makes this impossible.
What is the inner psychology of someone who is just plain ugly?
what???
what a narrow-minded thing to say?!! also I bet you think you do not fall into that group? I will let you know I would not want to hang out with you not for one minute
I have met people that on the outside not "look" very attractive until I get to know them and they take on a real beauty
at the same time I have met some attractive folks who once I also got to know ended up carrying their own ugliness~~ Beauty is in the eye of the beholder
While sitting in a doctor's waiting room I've seen couples and wondered what they looked like years earlier when they met, thinking they must have seemed reasonably nice looking, but the years have not been kind. At the same time, I'm well aware someone could be thinking the same about me. LOL
I think people meet and fall in love early in life when they look their best; however, there are late bloomers.
I see people on an off who are just plain ugly. It must be a burden beyond belief. They may be nice people and want to have close friends and a nice job and all the things that the average person has but their appearance makes this impossible.
What is the inner psychology of someone who is just plain ugly?
I think the inner psychology is that a lot of people tend to not voluntarily spend time with others who are so shallow, narrow minded and prejudiced.
I see people on an off who are just plain ugly. It must be a burden beyond belief. They may be nice people and want to have close friends and a nice job and all the things that the average person has but their appearance makes this impossible.
What is the inner psychology of someone who is just plain ugly?
I think they're probably self-conscious, nervous about going out in public, and concerned about being stared at, pointed at, or gossiped about. I imagine they're sad and depressed a lot. I recently read two fact-based accounts of women who were facially disfigured in accidents or by illness. In both cases, multiple surgeries failed to improve their appearance much, because the tissue destruction was so extensive that the grafted tissue died off or absorbed into the structural gaps. Ultimately one of the women killed herself and the other one drank and drugged herself to death at a young age. It's a very sad thing.
I think the better question is: what can/should the rest of us do to ease the discomfort of people who may be painfully self-conscious about their appearance? When I encounter a person with an obvious deformity, I try to meet their eyes, smile, make a friendly comment, and otherwise treat them like a normal person. In other words, I make a little extra effort to approach them in an accepting, reassuring way. Try to remember that it could happen to any of us, an accident or disease, just as easily as them. And try to see the person inside no matter what the person on the outside looks like.
Being severely handicapped fro Polio i learned a lot about life one day. I noticed this guy that drove around in a new orange corvette. The guy was extremely tall, had a severe overbite, unkempt bright red hair and poor hygiene. Numerous times i saw this guy with the most gorgeous blonde. All it takes is money or the impression of money and looks don't matter.
I see people on an off who are just plain ugly. It must be a burden beyond belief. They may be nice people and want to have close friends and a nice job and all the things that the average person has but their appearance makes this impossible.
What is the inner psychology of someone who is just plain ugly?
I'm not much to look at but I have always been able to find a job when I wanted one. I have friends and a husband. What makes you think that ugly people are all alone and jobless? We manage to find people who love us.
I've noticed throughout life that everybody has something. One person may have good looks, another brains, and someone else may be good at physical things.
Also I've noticed that most people do not have everything. The person with good looks may not be very bright, the person with brains may not be good looking, etc.
But if someone comes along who has everything, then everyone HATES them! (Good looks, brains, muscles, filthy rich)
This is quite true.
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Originally Posted by wannagonorth
I think they're probably self-conscious, nervous about going out in public, and concerned about being stared at, pointed at, or gossiped about. I imagine they're sad and depressed a lot. I recently read two fact-based accounts of women who were facially disfigured in accidents or by illness. In both cases, multiple surgeries failed to improve their appearance much, because the tissue destruction was so extensive that the grafted tissue died off or absorbed into the structural gaps. Ultimately one of the women killed herself and the other one drank and drugged herself to death at a young age. It's a very sad thing.
I think the better question is: what can/should the rest of us do to ease the discomfort of people who may be painfully self-conscious about their appearance? When I encounter a person with an obvious deformity, I try to meet their eyes, smile, make a friendly comment, and otherwise treat them like a normal person. In other words, I make a little extra effort to approach them in an accepting, reassuring way. Try to remember that it could happen to any of us, an accident or disease, just as easily as them. And try to see the person inside no matter what the person on the outside looks like.
The bolded was true for me. I was born with strabismus (crossed eyes), and I had them fixed as a child, only for them to turn later. When I walked down the street, people would literally turn away in disgust or laugh in my face. I was extremely depressed and hated going anywhere. Another recent surgery made me look normal, so I don't mind going out in public now.
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Originally Posted by Momma_bear
I'm not much to look at but I have always been able to find a job when I wanted one. I have friends and a husband. What makes you think that ugly people are all alone and jobless? We manage to find people who love us.
I agree with this, also. I met my husband before my latest surgery. He said that he didn't notice my eyes; he loved my smile, my love of fitness, and my intelligence. It took me a while to believe him. LOL
And my eyes never stopped me from getting a job.
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