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Old 08-14-2014, 11:50 AM
 
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I'm not giving my age. But I am old enough to know what I'm talking about.

I agree about blanket statements, but also about (when it's under their control) people not leaving nothing (I'd say very little also is not okay). Parents should decide about inheritance between themselves, factoring into it the smarts and needs of their descendants. I don't automatically trust old folks to make good decisions, especially when fear, loneliness, and/or cognitive decline are involved, and some of them never had good judgment to begin with. By the way, I encourage any adult children here to step in fast if their aging parents show signs of unexpectedly bad decision-making. And, re cosmetic surgery, elderly people should almost never have it if they're in declining health.

 
Old 08-14-2014, 12:28 PM
 
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I'm not giving my age. But I am old enough to know what I'm talking about.

I agree about blanket statements, but also about (when it's under their control) people not leaving nothing (I'd say very little also is not okay). Parents should decide about inheritance between themselves, factoring into it the smarts and needs of their descendants. I don't automatically trust young folks to make good decisions, especially when fear, loneliness, and/or immaturity are involved, and some of them will never have good judgment. By the way, I encourage any adults here to step in fast if their adult children show signs of unexpectedly bad decision-making. And, re cosmetic surgery, young people should almost never have it because they are in the bloom of life.
There is not a single doubt in my mind that if we could fast-forward this discussion to 50 years in the future, you would be saying what I changed above. Give yourself 40-50 years in the workforce and let's see how you feel about handing off whatever you've accumulated to your adult kids or grandchildren.
 
Old 08-14-2014, 02:15 PM
 
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Cleverness fail in 1) the fact that I'm dead-set against having kids and 2) changing a post like that is technically infractable. Also, I think youth is the best time for many cosmetic procedures, but that's off-topic.

I never said young people are known to have good judgment. It's that the "age is wisdom" thing is mostly bunk - when old enough, worsening judgment is common.
 
Old 08-14-2014, 02:25 PM
 
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As someone that is in his 70s, I’m no different from my 20s. I don’t care how you think I should be or act. I like young and old people most are fun and interesting. However, stupid and whiners I avoid. I’ll spend my money how, where and when I want, not what someone else thinks. I have never asked or received help from anyone thus never felt obligated. No one knew if I was dead broke or a millionaire not even my son.
 
Old 08-14-2014, 03:42 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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I'm not giving my age. But I am old enough to know what I'm talking about.
Your second sentence is a non-sequitur. Many people never know what they are talking about no matter what their age.

Your idea that aging parents should have some sort of moral obligation to leave a more than negligible inheritance to their children is simply a dogma. I don't buy that dogma, but neither can I think of a way to refute it right at the moment. One either has that belief or one doesn't, but it sure as hell sounds self-serving if one has aging parents who are still alive.

That is why the other poster's request for you to give your age is on topic in this particular case.

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Old 08-14-2014, 11:06 PM
 
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Again, "I'm not giving my age." But my attitude toward inheritance has been around since at least my teens, when my parents' mortality was not something I pondered. I will backtrack slightly on the "dogma," as sometimes children have enough money and bad attitude that there's no reason for parents to leave them anything.

Coming at things from another angle, the older generations sometimes justify selfishness through an outdated philosophy of "pull yourself up by your bootstraps." The fact is, the modern work world being what it is, many young people are always going to struggle financially unless helped out by family.
 
Old 08-15-2014, 05:24 AM
 
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The one thing I can't understand about older people is the seemingly common preference for having things be quiet.

I love loud music now, in my fifties, and I can't imagine that will be any different when I'm in my eighties, if I make it that long.

So why are there over-55 communitys that don't allow anyone younger? What is it they are trying to escape? I would think it's noise. So, why is noise so bad? Is it automatic that as you get older you just want more peace and quiet?
 
Old 08-15-2014, 05:38 AM
 
Location: Upstate NY 🇺🇸
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The OP has my sympathy for having, and having to encounter, so many obnoxious "old people" in her life. That must really be the pits.
 
Old 08-15-2014, 06:24 AM
 
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I have heard that the frontal lobe of the brain starts to shrink as we get older. It is the part of the brain that filters what we say, so older people are more likely to say what they think without regard for the consequences.

If you blend this with a lifetime of putting up with BS, you get a perfect storm of less tolerance + frontal lobe shrinkage= bluntness which could rub others the wrong way.

I am in my 60s, and I know that I have a lower tolerance now for anything or anyone that tries to hassle or restrict me. I've never been a complainer, nor have I been demanding, but I want things the way I want things. In most situations, older people have "been there, done that", so we know how things should be.
 
Old 08-15-2014, 07:05 AM
 
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I have heard that the frontal lobe of the brain starts to shrink as we get older. It is the part of the brain that filters what we say, so older people are more likely to say what they think without regard for the consequences.

If you blend this with a lifetime of putting up with BS, you get a perfect storm of less tolerance + frontal lobe shrinkage= bluntness which could rub others the wrong way.

I am in my 60s, and I know that I have a lower tolerance now for anything or anyone that tries to hassle or restrict me. I've never been a complainer, nor have I been demanding, but I want things the way I want things. In most situations, older people have "been there, done that", so we know how things should be.
so that's what happens!
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