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Old 02-24-2008, 06:05 PM
 
Location: Fort Worth, Texas
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I enjoy To Catch a Predator, I think it shows people that pedophiles look just like everyone else.

It shows just how sick and deeply engrained this kind of behavior is in people, they have had cops, ministers, a rabbi, all kinds of people on there.
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Old 02-25-2008, 07:38 AM
 
Location: Ostend,Belgium....
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Thanks for the link to Dr.Phil, Lindsey_Mcfarren. I'll check it out.

Even castration doesn't stop those monsters, there probably is no cure. Rehabilitating them is a joke. It's an urge that festers in them for life. I'm not sure wanting to stop is enough but most don't want to stop. They may say so when they get caught but it's all talk IMO, they're just sorry they got caught and will say anything the public wants to hear.
The victims need the most attention, not the perps. For them it must be terrible to live, not being able to trust and to have their innocence stolen like that.
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Old 02-25-2008, 07:42 AM
 
Location: NJ
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Dr. Phil did a show recently, if you want to look inside the mind of a pedophile, watch it. The husband was abusing the step daughter and the Mother knew about it. She blamed the child as if she was the other woman. Dr. Phil got more upset then I have ever seen him and frankly I saw little resolution over the issue. Everyone blamed the victim except Dr. Phil and the audience.

He also did one a few months ago where the grandfather was abusing the granddaughter. The guys wife knew about it and did nothing.
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Old 02-25-2008, 09:36 AM
 
Location: Fort Worth, Texas
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He also did one a few months ago where the grandfather was abusing the granddaughter. The guys wife knew about it and did nothing.
I can ONLY imagine how Dr. Phil was with the sicko. I thought he was going to leap out of his chair on the episode I saw AND they had to bleep him a couple times which I have never seen.

My daughters Father was such an idiot, he had a friend who had been convicted and spent time in jail for molesting a child, like a three year old. He told me he didn't believe it happened, AND of course only told me about it LONG after I had met this person and I was already pregnant. I told him he would NEVER have my child around this person and that if I had to I personally would shot his friend if he was ever allowed to touch my child in that way.
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Old 02-25-2008, 09:53 AM
 
Location: NJ
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I can ONLY imagine how Dr. Phil was with the sicko. I thought he was going to leap out of his chair on the episode I saw AND they had to bleep him a couple times which I have never seen.

My daughters Father was such an idiot, he had a friend who had been convicted and spent time in jail for molesting a child, like a three year old. He told me he didn't believe it happened, AND of course only told me about it LONG after I had met this person and I was already pregnant. I told him he would NEVER have my child around this person and that if I had to I personally would shot his friend if he was ever allowed to touch my child in that way.
It was an interesting episode to say the least. The guy didn't think he did anything wrong, then had the b@lls to say it was satan taking over him or something to that effect. Not once did he take responsability for his actions.. and if you watch Dr Phil, you know how he treats people that don't. His wife also tried to minimize what happened. Her young granddaughter (think she was 6) went to her to tell her that pops touched her & she brushed it off. Disgusting

Thankfully the kid eventually told her parents. I don't remember the specifics, as I think my brain is blocking it due to how gross it is.

It should be on his site.
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Old 02-25-2008, 02:56 PM
 
Location: Fort Worth, Texas
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In my previous job, I spoke with mental health patients all day. I have had men tell me that a CHILD was flirting with them, had initiated the contact. One man told me he had sex with his daughter when she was a child and that she clearly wanted it because she had slipped into bed with him in the morning after her Mother had left for work.

I heard them saying that the little girl had flirted with them, that the original child he was abusing invited a friend over so that HE could have another victim.

It was all so disgusting I could barely sit there and listen when I really wanted to put my hands around their neck.
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Old 02-25-2008, 03:46 PM
 
Location: NJ
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I don't even know how to respond to that...
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Old 02-25-2008, 04:11 PM
 
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In my previous job, I spoke with mental health patients all day. I have had men tell me that a CHILD was flirting with them, had initiated the contact. One man told me he had sex with his daughter when she was a child and that she clearly wanted it because she had slipped into bed with him in the morning after her Mother had left for work.

I heard them saying that the little girl had flirted with them, that the original child he was abusing invited a friend over so that HE could have another victim.

It was all so disgusting I could barely sit there and listen when I really wanted to put my hands around their neck.
I don't think I could have composed myself...yanno, I can't understand, really what is wrong with not only our laws, but that more awareness doesn't wake up the people of this country...I've said it before and I'll say it again...the children of this world, are, OUR children...and we're all responsible for them, and to keep turning our heads, instead of demanding change, makes US no better then the child molesters...

no one knows, unless they have been molested the emptiness the child feels...no child should be made to feel like that, and until laws change, every single one of us is responsible, for not shouting out to the world, our world, that we demand our country do something about this and put these people away for good.

One child molested, is one perhaps damaged for life...I was terrified at 7 years old, to speak out. I felt everyone had abandoned me...I withdrew from life, and felt unsafe and trusting adults was hard. To this day, I fear men....I'm not kissy face, huggy bear. My first marriage was a big problem...but, I sought out counseling...which helped a great deal...but, not until a few years ago...I can honestly say, I not only never felt good about myself...actually didn't like me very much...I was broken and continued to gravitate towards people that broke me more....each was worse then the other. I still to this day, could cry, when I think about my real mother and her sister, my aunt, who didn't do a darn thing about it. My childhood years, at times, were feelings of forlorn and unloved. I no longer have to fight to stay happy....to feel good about who I am...I know, it wasn't my fault...but the henous crime could have been avoided if only responsible citizens would stop ignoring these assults against children.

I add, that I'm a very fortunate woman, as the woman across the street from me, took me into her home, and loved me, as if, I were a part of her own family. It took me years, years, not to hate my real mother, who is dysfunctional and was a victim of incest herself as a child. Now, even though I can't be around her, I feel very sad and sorry for her, and the life she lived...

Couldn't talk about this until approximately 5 years ago....I was ashamed beyond words...

I want to thank all those who came forward in this thread...and for people like Oprah and Dr. Phil....I just wish, more then anything...that the people of this country, the churches, the work force, everyone, would rally to stop these henious crimes against children...b/c until we do...we are no better then those who commit the assults.

I hope all who read this, understands what I'm trying to project....
I wish we could save all the children...from being sexually mistreated and assulted...and anyone who even thinks about looking at child porn is sick...sick, sick....we, as neighbors, as human beings, have to stop this....and if I accomplish one thing in my entire life, that, is my wish...

can you even begin to imagine, that there is a child, somewhere in this country, being sexually abused right now...it could be your neighbors child, it could be your child...it is our duty as adults to stop this...the best we can...because children are helpless and trusting...they need us....badly.
  • 250,000 to 500,000 child molesters reside in the U.S. today
  • The average number of victims per molester is about 117
  • Men who molested boys average about 150 victims each
  • More than half are under the age 35
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Old 02-26-2008, 07:02 AM
 
Location: Ostend,Belgium....
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Cremebrulee, I agree you were lucky to have the neighbor. The shame and blame are keeping many from talking about it and that keeps the perps safe. Even though you should not be ashamed at all and are certainly not to blame. It's beyond sad.
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Old 03-09-2009, 11:50 AM
 
Location: Austin, Tx
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I was molested by my father from age 6 to 13, my mom never believed me so I ran off and got married at 15 because it was my only way out. I was also molested by my brother and sister..My brother was caught by my mom and she blamed me and called me "dirty". I am 42 now and my family still hates me because they think I put my father in shame, there is no way my father would ever do that,,,yea right. I never told anyone in my family about my sister I figured they would just laugh at me. I am always the odd ball in parties or left out of family conversations, they will never believe or even try. My father was always drunk and when he was asked if he did it he would never, and untill the day he died never admitted to what he did. I got divorced after 2 years cause I wasnt in love and had 1 beautiful daughter, in my 2nd marriage my x sexually molested her and raped me in the middle of an epileptic seizure, amd beat our son. Now I am happily remarried and my husband has helped me through my therapy and attempted suicide and if it wasnt for him I dont know what I would do. He has been patient, understanding, has helped me through tough times and helped me understand it was never my fault. All I ever wanted was the Love of my Mother, and one day her and I argued so much we let it all out, she told me she never got a straight answer from my father and she had nothing but a 3rd grade education with 7 kids what was she to do. I let my mom know I knew about her education and not working so that is why I left home, I never hated her infact I just wanted her to love me and say at least once I was beautiful not that ugly person she said I was. Well all in all after 22 years we worked things out and are closer than ever, the problem is my brothers and sisters will never put there guard down, they say I made up a lie to shame my father and of course afraid of what they did so they went on my dads side, My mom when around them finds it hard to pick sides so she finds it easier to take 5 over 1. Well not that great but at least my 1 on 1 with her is fine..which is what care about most, the rest is between her and God.

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