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Old 01-26-2015, 07:00 AM
 
Location: North Dakota
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Forgive me if this has been mentioned before. Does anyone else not understand the idea of getting joint Facebook accounts? To me Facebook was always supposed to be a personal page. I've never understood why couples get just one for the two of them. It's not like it costs money. Thoughts?
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Old 01-26-2015, 07:57 AM
 
Location: Texas
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It's like having one e-mail address. Some couples (or, in many cases, one half of the couple really) want to not be individuals at all. To me, that's a bit sad but it's their business.
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Old 01-26-2015, 08:10 AM
 
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A few things:

1. Mistrust. They want to be able to see each other's messages.

2. Attention-seeking. Ever hear of a website called "S T F [u] Couples?" It's hilarious. It's all about people who inspire the phrase "get a room!"

3. Security/paranoia. One or both partners is being harassed, or fears being harassed. Often enough, the page is the woman's, but she puts her husband's or boyfriend's name on it, too, as a way of keeping men away because she doesn't want to get hit on or stalked.

All of them are kind of juvenile, in my opinion. But it's their page, they can do what they want.
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Old 01-27-2015, 11:22 AM
 
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Story time:

Knew a girl from high school and a couple of years later we texted every now and then. Always nice to me, so I had no issue with her. For whatever reason, she became a gold digger in the strongest sense. This guy bought her EVERYTHING. Vehicles, hunting rifles, plastic surgery, etc. Well she must not have been into him too much, because he claimed to have caught her cheating.

He exposed her by hacking her personal facebook and pretending to be her. Basically **** shaming and claiming "i'm a cheater". I knew it had to be him, so I texted her to alert her. Got a text back, and it was him. He took her phone. He was threatening to physically harm me and then sent me a nude picture of her. I stopped responding shortly after.

Two years later, I notice she ended up marrying him. They now have a joint facebook account. I randomly messaged her one day, and guess who responded? The psycho threatened me again and I blocked their account.

Talk about an incredibly dysfunctional relationship. The kind that end up with someone dead and on a future episode of 48 hours.
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Old 01-27-2015, 01:21 PM
 
Location: My House
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Forgive me if this has been mentioned before. Does anyone else not understand the idea of getting joint Facebook accounts? To me Facebook was always supposed to be a personal page. I've never understood why couples get just one for the two of them. It's not like it costs money. Thoughts?
People who have no trust for one another.

I firmly believe this to be the case. What logic is there to having a joint FB account? I mean, most couples didn't even attend the same high school and/or work at the same place and/or participate in all the same activities, so why would they do this??

I guess I get it for the rare few who only use it to keep family and close friends updated about their lives and really don't post anything on FB or respond to other people's posts.

But, let's face it... most of us are married to people who went to other schools, other colleges, and work in different industries.

Why would my husband, who grew up in another state, want to sift through every last thing anyone I knew from high school has to say?

My husband and I have one joint email account that we use for things like doctor's offices and household stuff, so we both get the important emails for that. We use our private accounts for all other correspondence.

We do NOT have any other joint accounts that we use to communicate and even with that joint email, we always use it and make very clear which one of us composed the emails.

If I had someone who wanted to be friends with me on FB who shared an account with his/her spouse and BOTH of them weren't very close friends of mine, I would decline the invite.
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Old 01-27-2015, 01:31 PM
 
Location: NYC
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Wow, I have never seen this before. I can't imagine how dysfunctional a couple must be to do this.
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Old 01-27-2015, 07:29 PM
 
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I know a few couples who do this. It isn't about trust, it's about accountability and respect. They have healthy, normal relationships.

I find the backlash judgemental and sad.
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Old 01-27-2015, 07:39 PM
 
Location: USA
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THEIR business, not mine. Can't say what I think as none of my closest family n friends do that although seen people do that on FB
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Old 01-27-2015, 07:53 PM
 
Location: I'm around here someplace :)
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If accountability is the issue, there's no trust or respect there in the first place.
Joint accounts are ridiculous- even if a person is married, he/she still has the right to be an individual, and he/she still has the right to have something of one's own that is private. And the same can be said about those who don't have joint accounts but insist on having the other person's passwords.
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Old 01-27-2015, 08:09 PM
 
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If accountability is the issue, there's no trust or respect there in the first place.
Joint accounts are ridiculous- even if a person is married, he/she still has the right to be an individual, and he/she still has the right to have something of one's own that is private. And the same can be said about those who don't have joint accounts but insist on having the other person's passwords.
Having your own Facebook page is what makes you an individual? What if they don't do anything on Facebook that they consider private?

You can't make that kind of harsh judgement about someone's relationship just because they share a Facebook.
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