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Old 05-10-2015, 01:38 AM
 
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If the voice in our head is from a parent that we don't respect (and for good reason) how hard would it be to replace that voice. Years of subliminal tapes and hypnosis?
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Old 05-10-2015, 09:28 AM
 
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Each time you need to make a personal decision, ask 6 different people (who have good judgment) what to do. Go to counseling if a complex problem. And read newspaper columns which give personal advice.

Over time, a few years, the new good advice will replace the bad advice given by that "voice in the back of your head".
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Old 05-10-2015, 09:34 AM
 
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Assuming you are speaking metaphorically...

Educate yourself better, the voices will also become better educated - or at least argue down the ones that are not.
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Old 05-10-2015, 10:08 AM
 
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Each time you need to make a personal decision, ask 6 different people (who have good judgment) what to do. Go to counseling if a complex problem. And read newspaper columns which give personal advice.

Over time, a few years, the new good advice will replace the bad advice given by that "voice in the back of your head".
I've done a lot of counseling, but it gets quite expensive.

I don't know 6 people with good judgement, at least not well enough to ask them advice. Not even sure how to get to know 6 people with good judgement. I might know 2, but I suppose that's a start.
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Old 05-10-2015, 10:10 AM
 
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Assuming you are speaking metaphorically...

Educate yourself better, the voices will also become better educated - or at least argue down the ones that are not.
Yes, and in calm rational times, this works. But when I'm feeling stressed, the voice I don't like seems to prevail.
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Old 05-10-2015, 11:15 AM
 
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I don't think you can permanently replace it; for instance, I have a lot of anxieties and go into "fight or flight" very easily. That is my default when presented with a high stress situation( which for me can be as something as innocuous as an unexpected schedule change), it's my reflexive reaction.

What I have gotten much better at is how fast I can catch it, and recognize it for what it is (fear that serves no purpose), then replace the unconscious thoughts with better, more conscious ones.
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Old 05-10-2015, 11:29 AM
 
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If the voice in our head is from a parent that
we don't respect (and for good reason) how hard would it be to replace that voice.
Years of subliminal tapes and hypnosis?
Can we replace it?
Oh my God, yes....I have practiced thought control for a decade...all the old tapes are gone...my unconscious or subconscious, whatever, has been re-programmed to basically...
'Nothing is impossible, I create all that is around me, I can be and do and have anything I want, I am adored and loved beyond my imagination by the One that created me and created LOVE!
I am a reflection of that kindness and love....and on and on...the best one is I am the daughter of
a King that makes me His little Princess...deserving of my heart's desire, ala PS 37:4...and
doggoneit people like me!'

Thought Control...practice makes perfect.

Also, forgiveness is key...let go of all the nutty, dysfunctional, pitiful people in your life
that did and still say ridiculous, untrue things in your direction...laugh at their ignorance
and desire to stay stagnated in 'that place'...while you grow and soar like Jonathon Livingston Seagull....
and if you are too young to have read that book, do....it might take you 45 minutes.

I am a success story of much bs programmed into my little brain.
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Old 05-10-2015, 11:37 AM
 
Location: Southwestern, USA, now.
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You know...there is no difference from who you are and who you
want to be...the person you are destined to become...who you will become.

It is not hard to quicken that process...it just takes desire...and with that desire...
flick distractions away and focus on that desire...let's say...it is to be the most consistently
contented, happy, confident, thus, powerful person you can be...in control of your life and
a conscious co-creator with the Creator, filled with love and wisdom and compassion and kindness and everything else you desire...I could recommend just a couple of books that could inspire you so much.
Message me if I don't come back here for awhile...anyone.
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Old 05-10-2015, 11:51 AM
 
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If the voice in our head is from a parent that we don't respect (and for good reason) how hard would it be to replace that voice. Years of subliminal tapes and hypnosis?
Not hard at all.

Take some quiet time, settle in, and ask to hear who is talking in your head. When you identify that person, mentally go to them, tell them respectfully but firmly that this is your space and they are no longer allowed to occupy it. Then envision yourself taking them by the arm and escorting them out of your head. As you escort them out, tell them, "By Universal Law, I am hereby claiming my space for myself and myself only. You are no longer allowed to occupy any part of my personal space, now or at any time in the future." Then see yourself going back into your head space and firmly closing the door, leaving the person outside.

Remain resolute, but objective--do not let anger, guilt, old memories, or any feelings about this person enter in. If there is more than one person in your head, do this individually for each person.
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Old 05-10-2015, 11:57 AM
 
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A meditation class would help quiet those voices.
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