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Why exactly can't you put your "self" on hold for awhile, get a normal grip on things, get a job, a place etc?
Ok, you're trapped in the wrong body, boo hoo. I'm trapped in the wrong socioeconomic strata (I'm a billionaire inside but can't express this due to lack of funds), but I deal. Get a job, and maybe even start volunteering in some capacity to give something back to those who are truly in need (sick kids, handicapped etc).
Stop the drama, stop the self centered, stop using your situation as an excuse and start being a producing member of society who can think of others first.
Hooking as "no other choice". Are you kidding me? Cripes.
Why exactly can't you put your "self" on hold for awhile, get a normal grip on things, get a job, a place etc?
Ok, you're trapped in the wrong body, boo hoo. I'm trapped in the wrong socioeconomic strata (I'm a billionaire inside but can't express this due to lack of funds), but I deal. Get a job, and maybe even start volunteering in some capacity to give something back to those who are truly in need (sick kids, handicapped etc).
Stop the drama, stop the self centered, stop using your situation as an excuse and start being a producing member of society who can think of others first.
Hooking as "no other choice". Are you kidding me? Cripes.
Actually I'm not trapped in the wrong body. I have fixed a lot of that. It's my mental health issues and need to do something where I can raise cash to pay for other things. No employer will hire me. I am too unstable
*hugs* Sorry to hear how rough things are going for you over there. It sounds like you're dealing with quite a bit of depression since you feel there isn't anything you're good at. When depression takes hold like that, it can often feel like everything is helpless. Despite your stated mental health issues, it sounds like the logical side of your brain is working just fine, so you're making an adult decision. You won't see me judging you for it.
What I would suggest is that you take pride in something you do, even if it is being the best darn sex worker in the city. That sounds weird to say, but putting in genuine effort to excel at something is the root of self-worth. Remember that sex workers can still have different professions. You mentioned using dating sites and that seems like a possibility. You might want to look for the real stories of some women that excelled as call girls. You'll find the intelligent ones thoroughly screened candidates and established repeat business. Be careful. Ensure you have at least one friend that will know where you are whom you are with.
Money IS a problem.
You're probably on Social Security and depending on where you live, subsidized housing?
Your post brings up more negatives than positives.
But if there's narcissism in your diagnosis, you'll probably FEEL better periodically... but that will be mixed with depression and perhaps lowering self-esteem.
See, what you'll be doing is basically traumatizing yourself even more and self-soothing with increased sexual addiction.
On the other hand, you may find community and it may give you a short term sense of purpose.
Short term because it's there's no long term stability. Drugs and alcohol go along with prostitution which will only destabilize you more.
Here's the ... "trick"...
What do you REALLY want to do with your life?
If there were funds for you to study anything to eventually have any career or business, what would your Number ONE choice be? Honestly. (To brainstorm, you could think of three.)
You keep mentioning your mental instability .... almost like a crutch... but you've said nothing about your academic level, or aptitude. The ONLY way I'd recommend prostitution or porn is if you're Special Ed.
Everybody is crazy once you get to know them.
Being Trans doesn't mean anything as far as your ability to learn.
You're as capable as anyone else... and creatively, you're probably MORE sensitive than most.
Mental instability can be balanced with Yoga. (You could get a low-cost or free membership at the YMCA and the Yoga classes would be free with your membership. There's often a steam room or sauna that calms the nerves. What you need to do is rebuild your central nervous system. Being Trans and having an unsupportive family is traumatizing alone. Now you want to expose yourself to MORE trauma? Rape and violence is very common in prostitution.)
Trauma Writing. It's proven that the pills they shove at Veterans for Post-Traumatic Delayed Stress Syndrome don't work. Shock! (YouTube some Dr. Gabor Mate videos.) But writing out your trauma does. Trauma writing involves telling your story from many various perspectives. People get stuck in trauma because they tell themselves ONE story over and over. One example is Vietnam Veteran Tim O'Brien's, "The Things They Carried." He wrote a novel about a fake firefight told from the eyes of everyone in his platoon. This forced him to see it from various perspectives ... which brought wisdom where there once was only pain.
Meditation. Buddhist meditation can work wonders. There is no better teacher than going inside yourself. Find a ***** songha near you. "When the inner is in balance, the outer comes into balance."
CAREER. Why you need a job? Work for yourself! Technology frees us all from 9-to-5 slave wage jobs. I strongly suggest you begin researching eBooks on YouTube. Also Amazon's, "CreateSpace." There's never been an easier way to publish ... and you can create residual income that brings in nickles while you sleep. There's many other, "Work From Home" jobs too.
Use your struggles to set you free. This is a great time to be Trans. The future looks good. We're currently living in a mini-dark ages ... so a "Renaissance" of art and ideas is coming. Spiritually, we're seeing the dogma of the rigid, narrow-minded big three religions crumble because they're teaching it LITERALLY and not symbolically and explaining the metaphors as it is intended. "Pass the Plate" theology desperately needs to expand it's consciousness in ways that helps people make sense of their world in 2015 and not the 2nd Century. (i.e. the angels are two-sex and so is God. WHAT does THAT mean??)
You sound like you could benefit from a greater knowledge of self. (Well, almost everyone can.) Research the long history of Greek, Roman, Chinese, Japanese, archytypes on Hermaphrodites. It's mind blowing. It's a part of the human psyche. Plus, learn what deep Jungians like Erich Nenmann wrote about in his book, "Art and the Creative Unconscious." All food for the creative mill. Where would the West be without Leonardo da Vinchi and Michaelangelo?
You sound like you're in a tailspin right now.
What state do you live in? You may want to move to someplace like L.A. or San Francisco ... or do the research and find out what are the most supportive areas for Trans people.
If you go into something like Nursing, your genetic structure can be a benefit ... IF you do the work to balance yourself. The prize is in the journey --- not the destination.
How old are you? If you're young, all you need is knowledge ... and perhaps some good mentors.
Get off the couch. Get out of your comfort zone. The best key to depression (and Mood Disorders) is to move a muscle. EXERCISE.
There are tons of careers that don't require people contact... but they do require education. You won't know how smart you are until you seek to challenge yourself. Junior colleges even have special help if you need it. And since you're most likely on Social Security (... GET on it if you aren't...), then Vocational Rehab is available to you.
You could go into Social Work or Counseling and help others instead of destroying yourself. You're as "Divine" as any other human being on the planet. You just need to find out why... and that will contradict the ingorant brutality you've gone through. The BEST clinicians and therapist have been wounded. It's the "Path of the Wounded Healer." It may or may not surprise you to learn that there's quite a few therapist who decompensate and need to enter locked wards periodically.
Once you finish your education, the state and the Feds will help you find a job.
You may not have finished high school due to all the bullying and homophobia current these days. Go to a Jr. College and finish it. Have you noticed the media lately? Being Trans is becoming increasingly cool. Be on the cutting edge of making it so.
Or you could simply become an artist .. or take a 2 year degree in business and open your own coffee shop or something. It's always better to go towards the light than to choose to remain in the darkness.
Money IS a problem.
You're probably on Social Security and depending on where you live, subsidized housing?
Your post brings up more negatives than positives.
But if there's narcissism in your diagnosis, you'll probably FEEL better periodically... but that will be mixed with depression and perhaps lowering self-esteem.
See, what you'll be doing is basically traumatizing yourself even more and self-soothing with increased sexual addiction.
On the other hand, you may find community and it may give you a short term sense of purpose.
Short term because it's there's no long term stability. Drugs and alcohol go along with prostitution which will only destabilize you more.
Here's the ... "trick"...
What do you REALLY want to do with your life?
If there were funds for you to study anything to eventually have any career or business, what would your Number ONE choice be? Honestly. (To brainstorm, you could think of three.)
You keep mentioning your mental instability .... almost like a crutch... but you've said nothing about your academic level, or aptitude. The ONLY way I'd recommend prostitution or porn is if you're Special Ed.
Everybody is crazy once you get to know them.
Being Trans doesn't mean anything as far as your ability to learn.
You're as capable as anyone else... and creatively, you're probably MORE sensitive than most.
Mental instability can be balanced with Yoga. (You could get a low-cost or free membership at the YMCA and the Yoga classes would be free with your membership. There's often a steam room or sauna that calms the nerves. What you need to do is rebuild your central nervous system. Being Trans and having an unsupportive family is traumatizing alone. Now you want to expose yourself to MORE trauma? Rape and violence is very common in prostitution.)
Trauma Writing. It's proven that the pills they shove at Veterans for Post-Traumatic Delayed Stress Syndrome don't work. Shock! (YouTube some Dr. Gabor Mate videos.) But writing out your trauma does. Trauma writing involves telling your story from many various perspectives. People get stuck in trauma because they tell themselves ONE story over and over. One example is Vietnam Veteran Tim O'Brien's, "The Things They Carried." He wrote a novel about a fake firefight told from the eyes of everyone in his platoon. This forced him to see it from various perspectives ... which brought wisdom where there once was only pain.
Meditation. Buddhist meditation can work wonders. There is no better teacher than going inside yourself. Find a ***** songha near you. "When the inner is in balance, the outer comes into balance."
CAREER. Why you need a job? Work for yourself! Technology frees us all from 9-to-5 slave wage jobs. I strongly suggest you begin researching eBooks on YouTube. Also Amazon's, "CreateSpace." There's never been an easier way to publish ... and you can create residual income that brings in nickles while you sleep. There's many other, "Work From Home" jobs too.
Use your struggles to set you free. This is a great time to be Trans. The future looks good. We're currently living in a mini-dark ages ... so a "Renaissance" of art and ideas is coming. Spiritually, we're seeing the dogma of the rigid, narrow-minded big three religions crumble because they're teaching it LITERALLY and not symbolically and explaining the metaphors as it is intended. "Pass the Plate" theology desperately needs to expand it's consciousness in ways that helps people make sense of their world in 2015 and not the 2nd Century. (i.e. the angels are two-sex and so is God. WHAT does THAT mean??)
You sound like you could benefit from a greater knowledge of self. (Well, almost everyone can.) Research the long history of Greek, Roman, Chinese, Japanese, archytypes on Hermaphrodites. It's mind blowing. It's a part of the human psyche. Plus, learn what deep Jungians like Erich Nenmann wrote about in his book, "Art and the Creative Unconscious." All food for the creative mill. Where would the West be without Leonardo da Vinchi and Michaelangelo?
You sound like you're in a tailspin right now.
What state do you live in? You may want to move to someplace like L.A. or San Francisco ... or do the research and find out what are the most supportive areas for Trans people.
If you go into something like Nursing, your genetic structure can be a benefit ... IF you do the work to balance yourself. The prize is in the journey --- not the destination.
How old are you? If you're young, all you need is knowledge ... and perhaps some good mentors.
Get off the couch. Get out of your comfort zone. The best key to depression (and Mood Disorders) is to move a muscle. EXERCISE.
There are tons of careers that don't require people contact... but they do require education. You won't know how smart you are until you seek to challenge yourself. Junior colleges even have special help if you need it. And since you're most likely on Social Security (... GET on it if you aren't...), then Vocational Rehab is available to you.
You could go into Social Work or Counseling and help others instead of destroying yourself. You're as "Divine" as any other human being on the planet. You just need to find out why... and that will contradict the ingorant brutality you've gone through. The BEST clinicians and therapist have been wounded. It's the "Path of the Wounded Healer." It may or may not surprise you to learn that there's quite a few therapist who decompensate and need to enter locked wards periodically.
Once you finish your education, the state and the Feds will help you find a job.
You may not have finished high school due to all the bullying and homophobia current these days. Go to a Jr. College and finish it. Have you noticed the media lately? Being Trans is becoming increasingly cool. Be on the cutting edge of making it so.
Or you could simply become an artist .. or take a 2 year degree in business and open your own coffee shop or something. It's always better to go towards the light than to choose to remain in the darkness.
You might want to actually read before posting something of this length that doesn't really apply. The OP doesn't live in the U.S., and, per information given does not have the same mental health access under the UK's health care setup, things like Voc Rehab, Social Security, community college programs, etc. do not apply.
You might want to actually read before posting something of this length that doesn't really apply. The OP doesn't live in the U.S., and, per information given does not have the same mental health access under the UK's health care setup, things like Voc Rehab, Social Security, community college programs, etc. do not apply.
Yeah. I am almost 25 too and there's little help if you're over a certain age. Stonewall won't even help once you pass 24. I have tried many avenues. I am in temporary accommodation and unlikely to get housed for some time. MH services here are very bad. So it's not that I don't want to get help, I have been trying. I just want a bit of extra cash to try to improve my situation.
*hugs* Sorry to hear how rough things are going for you over there. It sounds like you're dealing with quite a bit of depression since you feel there isn't anything you're good at. When depression takes hold like that, it can often feel like everything is helpless. Despite your stated mental health issues, it sounds like the logical side of your brain is working just fine, so you're making an adult decision. You won't see me judging you for it.
What I would suggest is that you take pride in something you do, even if it is being the best darn sex worker in the city. That sounds weird to say, but putting in genuine effort to excel at something is the root of self-worth. Remember that sex workers can still have different professions. You mentioned using dating sites and that seems like a possibility. You might want to look for the real stories of some women that excelled as call girls. You'll find the intelligent ones thoroughly screened candidates and established repeat business. Be careful. Ensure you have at least one friend that will know where you are whom you are with.
*hugs* to you too. Yes I will try to do a good job. I like making people happy anyway. I'm glad you see nothing wrong with it. I have a friend who is an escort anyway and has given me some good advice. I'm meeting a guy on Saturday so that will be the first time. Wish me luck.
I used to work with ex prostitutes who were trying to rehabilitate their lives. It is not glamorous, easy, or safe according to them. If you do it, please go live and work in. A place where it is legal and somewhat safe.
Being a stripper would be safer.
Edit: I see now that you are trans gender. A bigger percentage of trans people turn to sex work than non trans people. They also are more vulnerable in some ways. Be careful.
Last edited by Meyerland; 09-02-2015 at 12:01 PM..
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What's really going on?
Work for yourself! Technology frees us all from 9-to-5 slave wage jobs. I strongly suggest you begin researching eBooks on YouTube. Also Amazon's, "CreateSpace." There's never been an easier way to publish ... and you can create residual income that brings in nickles while you sleep. There's many other, "Work From Home" jobs too.
