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Unlike birdwatching, manipulative jerk-watching is not a healthy hobby.
To strengthen yourself and recuperate from whatever trauma interrupted your life, work on getting some healthy hobbies like learning new skills and getting outdoors.
Don't peer too long into the abyss. It does peer back.
Just an update, he's still contacting me. But its slowed down a lot. While it used to be all day, first thing in the morning, throughout the day, last thing at night, he's still initiating contact with me almost every day.
I thought he'd have gotten bored by now. Its been since May that he's been doing this. We have no plans to meet. I think he just gets lonely or bored and likes having a kind of virtual relationship. Some people don't want/can't handle normal relationships.
Moongirl, I was not in your other threads, but I concur with the people who say that this guy is unstable and potentially dangerous, and you need to cut him off. Be polite, but completely disengage.
It really sounds like you've encouraged this behavior, not just by laughing at his jokes and flirting, but just because you have maintained contact with him.
Dangerous predatory people will fish for victims by casting a lot of fishing lines. You bit. Not only did you bite, you're hanging on. All these red flags came up, but you minimize them, and you consider the concerns that others have expressed to you, but only for a moment, then you discount them and decide to ignore the red flags again.
We are not exaggerating or dramatizing when we give you these warnings, even though I'm sure you're convinced of that. This guy may be charming and humorous, but he is seriously dangerous. No one, NO ONE drops statements about double suicide just to be funny. No one who is not dangerously unstable spends that much time every day searching for songs to send to a woman they've never met.
Maybe I don't know the whole story...
From my understanding, some guy is sending her songs every day. Is this enough to indicate unstable and potentially dangerous behavior? Am I missing something?
EDIT:
Nevermind. I see. Sorry for doubting you
Yeah, the dude is weird. Tell him to go away if it concerns you.
Maybe he is lonely... He says he has no friends. But he seems to do that on purpose from what he says. He says people bore him. Or maybe he is socially inept?
Maybe he just wants to talk to a female and I'm the only one who responds to him?
Do you guys think its possible he masturbates to our banter? maybe that's what keeps him contacting me.
Yes. Or clean his toenails, and pick his nose.
Your fascination with him is every bit as disturbing as him continuing to contact you.
If you want advice on what is healthy for you: Cease all contact with him.
If you are all into the mutual fascination, and just keep us posted to 'stir the pot', then just ask him. He'll get all 'spun up' again, and you'll have more 'fascinating' -- if unwholesome -- drama in your life.
Either get free of him. Or don't.
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