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Probably because she has a gift of gab and regular straight men are thinkers and not talkers.
Gay gays like to let it all hang out there for all to hear !
Gay men don't judge you, or try to hit on you. I had a very close gay male friend when I was younger, who was a very good listener when it came to relationship issues. A shoulder to cry on so to speak, and it worked both ways. We could talk to each other about just about anything. He complained about his boyfriend. I complained about my boyfriend. Sympathy for each other.
Could a woman do this with a straight man? No. She could with her girlfriends, but then you get into competition, cattiness, and "what did YOU do to cause the problem?". She would have to have a very special close girlfriend to talk that candidly to.
Hahahahahaha!
Maybe 'A' gay man didn't judge you, but gay men are still people, and 'gay friend' style gay men can be as catty as any girlfriend.
Is it true that woman feel more comfy with gay men rather than regular straight men?
there was a discussion like this with my friends and we saw and observe that a man had 4 woman with him that were decent good looking but it turns out he was gay?
Whats the psych between this?
First: If a gay man was out with 4 women, they were not "with him". They were 5 people out together. (Difference in mindset. One is a guy with a harem, the other is a group of friends LOL)
I will grant that there is an appeal about gay men when it comes to women. You don't have to worry about them ever hitting on you, if you have a boyfriend, said boyfriend doesn't get jealous or "think that something might be going on" between you two. And unlike other women, the gay man isn't competing for the same guys you want to date, and you never need to worry about him sleeping with your husband.
That said, I don't know any woman who actively seeks out gay men to be friends with. Sure, there are probably a few odd ducks out there who do, but in general people gravitate to other people they enjoy being with, who have common interests, and are fun. That situation tends to put women and gay men together more often, but it's not a conscious thing. Also, few women have aversions to gay men. And we don't tend to get as weirded out about being around gay women as some men seem to be around other gay men. Case in point, I've had a number of lesbian friends, coworkers, managers. Never once did I worry that they "want me" LOL But many men can't seem to get past that.
As a straight woman, here is my take. I think there may be some truth to this. I think that on a superficial level, a lot of(not all) gay men present themselves very well - they are well-groomed, well-dressed, etc. Women find that a lot more attractive than ratty t-shirts and fart jokes.
On a deeper level, I think gay men are easier to relate to for women. They know what it's like to be put down and thought of as "less than." So they generally don't think making off-color, sexist jokes is funny. Even little jokes that guys see as innocent are actually subtle put-downs. Gay men don't expect us to do things for them like clean up after them. And gay men are not a threat in any way. One thing men don't realize is that when women are out on a date, they are always sort of on guard - especially if they are drinking. Every women I know has at least been the victim of unwanted sexual advances. We don't have to worry about that with gay men. And sexual innuendos are not flattering, they are degrading. Gay men don't make those towards women.
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In my opinion, Western culture needs to relax the standards on what is considered "effeminate." Straight men should not be afraid of dressing flamboyantly, standing out, showing emotions, having platonic female friends, acting sophisticated, and following any passion they want. Popular culture has straight men filling the role of the loyal yet dumb and sloppy puppy dog; we all know that men are capable of more than that. Maybe if we as a society allowed them the freedom to explore and pursue their passions, even "girly" ones, without judging, maybe we would have a lot less degradation of the female body. Don't you think that one reason men turn to dirty jokes and other forms of "acceptable male behavior" is because they've learned that the alternative charming gentleman who knows about women's interests is unacceptable?
Not in my book. There is nothing more irritating than a girly man. No, not all gay men are girly, but the ones who want to be friends with women usually are.
Thats what I said to my friends.
I would think gay men are more successful with the platonic friendship with woman.
There is never any kind of pressure whatsoever, and most gay men like to really talk, not just chit-chat. I don't shop, have anything "done" like nails, hair, all that foolishness, but I really enjoy talking about deep issues, and I've known two gay men who quite readily and eagerly shared that kind of communication. It's a more intellectual "spark" than a physical one, though I do find many gay men MUCH better-looking (aesthetically) than straight men. And I adore beauty in all forms. Plus, they never bother me about sex, which is a huge relief. I don't like "dating" after two divorces, believe me!
I liked being around those two, in particular, because were unapologetic and completely open; that helped me shed my own silly inhibitions and let me just be myself. They were both very artistically inclined (two different areas), and I have had a lifelong appreciation for music and words, art, etc.
I just like to dive deeply into subjects and be very silly, as well. I get a little tired of the gray areas of life, and they're just divine that way (only speaking from my own experiences). I miss that kind of relationship very, very much.
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