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INTJ here (and female), which is even worse -- or better, depending on how you look at it!
Its funny because I didn't have this sense of self acceptance until later in life. Now I have real peace, self acceptance, and happiness. Those around me will always think Im strange... I'm ok with that!
I contradict in this area, although I consider myself an introvert because I like more time to myself than most people.
I do not like social gatherings with more than 4 people at once, I don't like hoards of family for holidays (at the same time), and I intensely dislike companies parties and activities (I spend 40 hours a week around these people - I don't want to see them after work or on the weekends, too).
However, I love certain events like festivals, concerts, nightclubbing, street parties, "fun". I would probably love Mardi Gras, and I do attend the local Mardi Gras Ball here.
I'm huge on Halloween, so I usually go in costume to work, but this year I didn't which surprised a lot of people. I've had a huge amount of discontent with the job, so I couldn't get into it.
I am a female and a ISFJ and I am a unique individual. I am an introvert and have Aspergers. I dislike a lot of social events ie parties, weddings and general social gatherings. I go to parties early and leave early and am not much of a drinker. I like to meet up with friends one on one and in very small groups.
Having Aspergers I dislike noise and certain smells around me. Also after working 40 hours a week at work I speak to customers and people at work all day and have had my social fill for the day. I do Meetups during the week and need a lot of time alone too much socialising can overwhelm us Aspies. Also socialising does not come naturally to me either. While some Aspies as we are known like to chat and want to be around people I have a need to be alone and spend it with my brother who I live with and my cat Jaz. I would probably call myself a loner but I don't get lonely am happy most of the time :-)
At work I don't like to socialise with co-workers and while I get along with them I don't class them as friends outside work. Went to work drinks the other Saturday night though and it was quite good. I socialise in small doses people do exhaust me :-)
I am not really fond of parties or social events...avoid them when possible. (I don't mind occasional social events or get togethers with just one or a couple of friends though)
I never realized how much of a
hardcore introvert I've been until
I took the Meyers Briggs test.....
It confirmed everything-
I do hate parties, big gatherings,
crowded places, etc.
I'm more of a one on one
kind of person.
Back in the day, when I did force
myself to go to parties, I was a master
of the Irish goodbye.
Still am
I never realized how much of a
hardcore introvert I've been until
I took the Meyers Briggs test.....
It confirmed everything-
I do hate parties, big gatherings,
crowded places, etc.
I'm more of a one on one
kind of person.
Back in the day, when I did force
myself to go to parties, I was a master
of the Irish goodbye.
Still am
I'm curious (and part Irish). What is the Irish goodbye?
Yes, making small talk, acting fake for a few hours with people I don't really know is not my idea of a good time.
I'm somewhere in the middle. I understand that people follow certain social and cultural conventions in order to have some relatively safe and approved contact with one another. It is not precisely "fake" nor is it precisely genuine. It is sort of like a shared fiction -- we agree to follow certain rules in exchange for which we won't judge or attack each other. For me the canonical example is how women will greet each other with this sing-song, exaggeratedly delighted "Oh HIIIIIIIII ... so nice to SEEEEEEE you!" with hugs all around when you know that they have their cat claws at the ready. It is just a social display to initiate and establish a (temporary) truce for purposes of polite conversation. It's kind of interesting to watch actually.
So ... I can do this for maybe an hour, or as preliminary and coda to, say, going to a concert with another couple. I can't handle an all night cocktail party but then I have never moved in those kinds of erudite circles anyway. I have worked my mind around to where I don't dread it, but frankly if I weren't married or my (also introverted, but less so) wife didn't desire this kind of thing, I wouldn't much bother.
I haven't been to a party in 14 years, so that should let you know something.
Maybe if I were on a date I'd consider it, but I really don't like going to gatherings a lot anymore. People putting on pretenses bug the hell out of me.
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