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Kinks are completely normal - I am sorry to burst your bubble, but it is quite common for men to like feet and to be into bdsm. If anything your sexual quirks and idiosyncrasies will be TURN ON to women - the right women that is. My best advice is to look for a mature woman. Don't make sex the focus in the beginning, make getting to know her and building that level of trust, understanding, respect and most importantly an emotional connection the top priorities and the rest will flow. DO NOT try to change or suppress who you are and what you are into, especially for the sake of others. What you are into makes you unique and the older you get the more you will be at peace with that.
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Kinks are completely normal - I am sorry to burst your bubble, but it is quite common for men to like feet and to be into bdsm. If anything your sexual quirks and idiosyncrasies will be TURN ON to women - the right women that is. My best advice is to look for a mature woman. Don't make sex the focus in the beginning, make getting to know her and building that level of trust, understanding, respect and most importantly an emotional connection the top priorities and the rest will flow. DO NOT try to change or suppress who you are and what you are into, especially for the sake of others. What you are into makes you unique and the older you get the more you will be at peace with that.
Check out my books and my website for more information.
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hey thanks for your reply, I know kinks are normal but I don't think what people on this thread are understanding is I'm worried I won't be able to hold an erection during sex. That seems like a big problem, this fetish is saturated in my head and I don't think people are understanding that really. I feel like it needs to be repressed (not destroyed) just taken down a notch, so I could enjoy other stuff.
God bless ya, a foot fetish is perhaps the most normal fetish there is.
I'm not sure I would agree with that. I would tend to think a corset or stocking fetish would be a lot more common than someone getting off on feet. Remember the ridicule when Rex Ryan came out as a "foot man" when he was coach of the Jets?
I'm not sure I would agree with that. I would tend to think a corset or stocking fetish would be a lot more common than someone getting off on feet. Remember the ridicule when Rex Ryan came out as a "foot man" when he was coach of the Jets?
men who have stocking and corset fetishes usually have feet along with it. I don't know if it is the most common but it is fairly common.
men who have stocking and corset fetishes usually have feet along with it. I don't know if it is the most common but it is fairly common.
Well, this is coming from a guy who loves the look of a woman in a corset and thigh-high stockings who finds absolutely nothing arousing about feet whatsoever.
I think the love of feet is the love of the IDEA of feet
Just like the love for boobs is just the love of the IDEA of boobs
Because like my gay brother said, "Why do you like boobs? Boobs just sit there."
And in reality they do "just sit there"
And if you can't access boobs (society doesn't allow it rofl because its rude to go touching people) then you're fascinated by what you can't have
So perhaps this love for feet you have is just a fascination and want for something you can't have?
All this thinking has me think just a basic girlfriend will be great for you
You could even find a religious girlfriend "who won't have sex until marriage" and just play around with her feet -- maybe a nerdy/religious girlfriend
I think the love of feet is the love of the IDEA of feet
Just like the love for boobs is just the love of the IDEA of boobs
Because like my gay brother said, "Why do you like boobs? Boobs just sit there."
And in reality they do "just sit there"
And if you can't access boobs (society doesn't allow it rofl because its rude to go touching people) then you're fascinated by what you can't have
So perhaps this love for feet you have is just a fascination and want for something you can't have?
All this thinking has me think just a basic girlfriend will be great for you
You could even find a religious girlfriend "who won't have sex until marriage" and just play around with her feet -- maybe a nerdy/religious girlfriend
i don't mind liking feet I just want to like boobs and butts more than I do now. feet is almost all my sexual thoughts so maybe not masturbating to it will help. i got it all out of my system yesterday lol
Well, this is coming from a guy who loves the look of a woman in a corset and thigh-high stockings who finds absolutely nothing arousing about feet whatsoever.
not corset i mean stockings, and i was on a fetish forum where most guys with a foot fetish also had stocking s and nylons fetishes.
You're too young to really know this but is it HIGHLY unlikely you can "tone down" your kinks be they feet/BDSM or what have you, and "replace" them with "normal" attractions.
ACCEPTING that you have them is gonna be the first step for sure as attempts to repress will backfire I can promise you.
My suggestion is to go to a forum whereon others are talking about this; NOT a forum for seeking partners but for talking among "like minded" peeps and sharing what it's like to have the kink and how they deal with finding partners.
You need support from other kinksters so you can gain insight and even advice from those who are in the same predicament not from those who cannot relate, whose advice shall be well meant but misguided.
Luckily for you the FF/BDSM/male sub things are reeeallly common not rare at all so you will find MANY supporters who share your proclivities. One of my kids hung around that scene in SanFran when younger and the majority of her pals were into BDSM and gender fluidity, if you live in a progressive city I'd suggest you find some real life pals into the same stuff. Pals, not partners as yet, for support until you get OK with it then can start seeking partners without the shame.
I do not think you can make it go away, make it less strong or make yourself hold an erection/be intensely aroused without your fetish in play, it is wired in there somehow and trying to avoid/repress it will be futile.
You're too young to really know this but is it HIGHLY unlikely you can "tone down" your kinks be they feet/BDSM or what have you, and "replace" them with "normal" attractions.
ACCEPTING that you have them is gonna be the first step for sure as attempts to repress will backfire I can promise you.
My suggestion is to go to a forum whereon others are talking about this; NOT a forum for seeking partners but for talking among "like minded" peeps and sharing what it's like to have the kink and how they deal with finding partners.
You need support from other kinksters so you can gain insight and even advice from those who are in the same predicament not from those who cannot relate, whose advice shall be well meant but misguided.
Luckily for you the FF/BDSM/male sub things are reeeallly common not rare at all so you will find MANY supporters who share your proclivities. One of my kids hung around that scene in SanFran when younger and the majority of her pals were into BDSM and gender fluidity, if you live in a progressive city I'd suggest you find some real life pals into the same stuff. Pals, not partners as yet, for support until you get OK with it then can start seeking partners without the shame.
I do not think you can make it go away, make it less strong or make yourself hold an erection/be intensely aroused without your fetish in play, it is wired in there somehow and trying to avoid/repress it will be futile.
Thanks for the reply, I have tried going down that route before. It has to be toned down, I know the fetish will never completely go away most likely and I'm ok with that. I don't want my fetish to ruin my sex life.
I understand it could backfire on me if I try to repress it, so be it I think. If I can't have normal sex does it really even matter if it backfires?
I have tried to go the route you tell me, and people just tell me to try to embrace my kinks. However I'm also part of a forum that's about overcoming pornographic addiction and fetishes. Many users have claimed that they quit masturbating to their fetish and it has repressed.
Still not sure what I should do, the people on those kink forums from my experience are usually blinded by their fetish and they don't see a problem.
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