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Old 01-20-2016, 02:01 PM
 
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the tone and context of the situation should tell you which..
This. Also, how have you been treated by most people in your life up until now? Do you generate respect? Usually? Or do even your friends treat you with contempt? There's your answer. If the answer is negative, it's possible to change that but it won't happen overnight.
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Old 01-20-2016, 02:12 PM
 
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Second verse of "Spiderman" cartoon theme:

Is he strong? Listen, bud,
He's got radioactive blood,
Can he swing from a thread?
Take a look overhead,
Hey there!
There goes a Spiderman,
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Old 01-20-2016, 11:29 PM
 
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Hello,


I have had a few instances where I've been called "bud"(never "buddy" though). Most common in the work place "thanks, bud!" Sometimes by coworkers or even customers will call me bud. My new workout trainer calls me"bud" (but also switches up to "man" sometimes too). I'vea lways felt it was a friendly, but slightly demeaning term. Something you'd call your 5 year old nephew that just helped you rake the lawn." Thanks for helping with the lawn, bud!" Did they really help you? No, not really.




I feel as if the people that call me bud don't take me serious? Am I going about this correctly, or is it just a friendly term that I shouldn't be spinning?





Thanks.


Has anyone ever called you "bro" who wasn't your brother?
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Old 01-27-2016, 09:24 PM
 
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Some people just use that word casually and can't help it, which is likely the case here.

Buddy, on the other hand sounds a little diminutive. When I was 13 or so adults were always calling me "buddy," probably because they thought I was 9-10 years old. Those were the same people who did not try to hide their disbelief when I told them my age.

I think you should be fine here, as it seems that "bud" is not being used in a "lil' bro" tone here.
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Old 01-28-2016, 03:13 PM
 
Location: Secure, Undisclosed
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Bud is short for Buddy - as pointed out above. 'Buddy' refers to someone you consider a friend.

Man is more generic. "Hey, man..." does not connote friendship, just another male you are calling to.

Lots of people (and I plead guilty) use Bud (or 'Dear') as friendly terms of address when our brains can't pull their names out of our memories at the same speed as it creates the idea we want to communicate. Happily, I live in a part of the country where 'Dear' is accepted as a term of endearment and not seen as some sort of slight or insult or anything else derogatory - and my wife understands.

My (work) partner and I worked and travelled all over the country together for years. She was friends with my family and I with hers. Yet her brain just took longer to put the face to the name - I was "You" (as in, 'Hey, you.') every time I walked into her office. I didn't feel bad - she did the same thing to her husband.

So if a guy is calling you 'Bud,' he's calling you 'friend,' particularly if he is former military.
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Old 01-28-2016, 03:29 PM
 
Location: PA
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More than anything I think it is just one of those annoying phrases people tend to overuse - kinda generic, and a "go to" for some people.
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Old 01-28-2016, 04:00 PM
 
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I can actually relate to the OP's point somewhat. I know 99% of the time, "bud" is a term of endearment, but when someone your own age or younger calls you bud (especially if they're not actually your "buddy") feels slightly patronizing. However, it's not nearly as patronizing as "big guy" or "boss".
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Old 02-01-2016, 06:57 PM
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Location: New York Area
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Hello,


I have had a few instances where I've been called "bud"(never "buddy" though). Most common in the work place "thanks, bud!" Sometimes by coworkers or even customers will call me bud. My new workout trainer calls me"bud" (but also switches up to "man" sometimes too). I'vea lways felt it was a friendly, but slightly demeaning term. Something you'd call your 5 year old nephew that just helped you rake the lawn." Thanks for helping with the lawn, bud!" Did they really help you? No, not really.

I feel as if the people that call me bud don't take me serious? Am I going about this correctly, or is it just a friendly term that I shouldn't be spinning?

Thanks.
I think the term can imply a degree of familiarity that doesn't exist.
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Old 11-22-2018, 04:52 PM
 
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I use "bud" to my pals,and refer to them as "the boys" or "the lads." (I'm 65,and they are in their late 50's to early 70's.)
"Bud" can be insulting,depending on the context
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Old 11-22-2018, 04:57 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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Plain and Simple:

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