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I agree. In fact, being CONSPICIOUSLY silent can actually be a way of garnering attention. But there's a difference, even in the workplace, between exchanging an expected morning greeting and sitting for hours gossiping with coworkers.
I agree. In fact, being CONSPICIOUSLY silent can actually be a way of garnering attention. But there's a difference, even in the workplace, between exchanging an expected morning greeting and sitting for hours gossiping with coworkers.
I think it might be a way of signaling arrogance or hostility. But it could just as easily be signaling insecurity. These are not messages you want to be sending.
I think it might be a way of signaling arrogance or hostility. But it could just as easily be signaling insecurity. These are not messages you want to be sending.
Whether you want to signal those things or not, that's pretty much the way most others take it unless and until you have already established yourself as the group "EF Hutton."
I think it might be a way of signaling arrogance or hostility. But it could just as easily be signaling insecurity. These are not messages you want to be sending.
Well, in my workplace, not joining in the daily gossip marathon -- as well as the endless potlucks and parties every five minutes -- is viewed at hostile and arrogant, but... Too bad, so sad! I do say "good morning" and "good night" and exchange a few other pleasantries about the weather and current events. That's about all I have to say to these particular people. I'm much more talkative with people I actually like and can relate to.
I think it might be a way of signaling arrogance or hostility. But it could just as easily be signaling insecurity. These are not messages you want to be sending.
Who says that the quiet person is sending that message? It is the person who is jumping to conclusions that interprets it that way.
I have always found it odd that people are free to make up ridiculous judgments and that is perfectly ok.
The quiet ones are the ones who have to change - not the people who jump to conclusions.
You are judging someone's personality based on the fact that they do not talk much. That's really shallow. But we have to jump through hoops to prove you wrong.
Who says that the quiet person is sending that message? It is the person who is jumping to conclusions that interprets it that way.
I have always found it odd that people are free to make up ridiculous judgments and that is perfectly ok.
The quiet ones are the ones who have to change - not the people who jump to conclusions.
You are judging someone's personality based on the fact that they do not talk much. That's really shallow. But we have to jump through hoops to prove you wrong.
If we were talking about people who happen to be sitting on the same bus, you're point would be valid.
If we're talking about people who have to cooperate to accomplish a continuous series of tasks, then it's necessary to establish effective means of communication and expectations of coordination.
I live in Europe, and many countries here being introverted and quiet is common. But I noticed in America is the land of type A personalities and extroversion so being quiet is seen as a negative quality. Unless you have social anxiety and look visibly uncomfortable around people.
I have a theory (although others have debunked it) that only the extroverts came to the New World. After all, does that sound like something an introvert would do? Hence, we're genetically predisposed to be extroverted in America, and the introverts are automatically the minority.
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