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Women would like to think that because it makes them feel better about themselves. The same way we tell ourselves other self serving lies like "it's what's on the inside that counts" because it allows us to not feel like the shallow, superficial creatures that we are. It's just human nature. They might even believe that they are attracted to sweet and sensitive. But the second they meet a guy like that they assign him the "boring" label, friend zone him and move on to a "macho man" who they think that they can turn into a sweet sensitive guy.
Obviously. this doesn't apply to all women. But I think it's a fair generalization. Especially for the women in the age range that the OP is in. I hear that all the time on forums like this. Some guy whining about how he can't get a girl because he's too "nice". Translation: he's boring.
OK, women who are not attracted to sensitive and sweet guys are a subset of all women. Just because a woman is beautiful or attractive, does not make her shallow.
If you can't tell which women have some depth, and which are shallow, then you do need more exposure to women.
Are all good looking men alike? No! Neither are all good looking women. Women are just as different from each other as men are from each other.
Stop with the hoodie already. If you started wearing it in middle school and you are now an adult, you have had it on your head years too long. Get your head out of it and start looking like an adult, instead of a scared little kid.
For friendzone only, unless the guy is a 10 looks wise. Most women want bad boys.
Oh, god. Not this again. What do you mean by bad boy? A guy whose been to jail, can't be faithful to one woman, and who has a terrible credit score? Yeah, sign me up for that. A good guy who remembers your birthday but who knows who he is and doesn't take crap from anyone? Yeah, that's what most women want. Sensitive and sweet doesn't mean a doormat.
For friendzone only, unless the guy is a 10 looks wise. Most women want bad boys.
lol! No, most women don't want bad boys! Women raised with healthy self-esteem avoid bad boys. Whenever possible, they'll check with their friends to find out in advance which guys are bad news, and which ones are the good guys.
I find this belief that women go for the bad boys interesting, especially online, because if that were true, then the accusations against some of the sympathetic male posters here wouldn't get those accusations about "white knighting" to get in favor with the female posters. If what you say were true, no one would be interested in "white knights", and accusing them of putting on an act to win over women would be empty and nonsensical. Clearly, even a lot of the guys who believe women prefer bad boys don't truly buy into their own hype.
Are you afraid of women in general or just attractive women?
If it’s the latter, then practice interacting with women you find unattractive. What I mean by practice is engage in small talk. If you see a not too hot chubby girl in the grocery line alone, get behind her. If she makes eye contact or looks at you awkwardly, smile and say hello. The key is just to interact with women in general. Be a gentlemen and open/hold doors for women.
Once you’re able to interact with women in general, then you’ll be able to interact with women you find attractive; even if its only small talk.
If all else fails and still fear attractive women, go to a strip club with some friends and get a private dance with an attractive stripper. Let the dancer know how you feel and she’ll take care of you (now you’re being used). The thing is you have to interact to conquer your fear. Hope this helps and good luck. Ohh make sure you get to the club early while the strippers are still fresh and clean.
Fight your fears and you’ll be in battle forever. Face your fears and you’ll be free forever.
Too many of these 'woe is me' threads lately from guys.
Do these guys really think that kind of attitude, or revealing so much of their 'vulnerability,' makes them remotely attractive to women?
If so, no wonder so many guys have problems with relationships or even striking up a conversation with a girl in a healthy manner.
What's gotten into guys these days? No role models growing up to show them? Too much internet that shapes their warped views of society, women, and how to interact with them?
No offense, but guys need to man up and start taking control of their lives and self confidence.
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A good guy who remembers your birthday but who knows who he is and doesn't take crap from anyone? Yeah, that's what most women want. Sensitive and sweet doesn't mean a doormat.
