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And while this is laudable, we have to acknowledge there are those who cannot figure things out or fix them. Or at least have no developed coping skills.
This is true and I do know some. Thing is I had to stop trying to 'fix' them. It usually didn't work out very well.
For the most part I believe we make our own heaven and hell. Poor decision making, not planning ahead, living beyond one's means, and a host of other traps we may fall into can cause a great deal of stress in our lives. The important thing is to learn from those mistakes and not beat yourself up over them. Be a better friend to yourself and don't allow every problem to be blown out of proportion. Not everything that goes wrong is a crisis.
Lastly, there is no such thing as fairness. I hear so many people go on about how their situation in life isn't fair. Well, life isn't fair and you shouldn't go through life thinking it will be just because you go to church on Sundays and bake cookies for the PTA. They made all the right choices in life and are essentially good people, yet can't understand why tragedy comes knocking at their door. No one gets through life undefeated, we all take our hits. I would suggest that folks use their challenges and shortfalls to draw from later on. Use that horrific life event to develop a perspective for later on when things go wrong. Remind yourself that you've been through worse and you can get through whatever is weighing you down today.
For the most part I believe we make our own heaven and hell. Poor decision making, not planning ahead, living beyond one's means, and a host of other traps we may fall into can cause a great deal of stress in our lives. The important thing is to learn from those mistakes and not beat yourself up over them. Be a better friend to yourself and don't allow every problem to be blown out of proportion. Not everything that goes wrong is a crisis.
Lastly, there is no such thing as fairness. I hear so many people go on about how their situation in life isn't fair. Well, life isn't fair and you shouldn't go through life thinking it will be just because you go to church on Sundays and bake cookies for the PTA. They made all the right choices in life and are essentially good people, yet can't understand why tragedy comes knocking at their door. No one gets through life undefeated, we all take our hits. I would suggest that folks use their challenges and shortfalls to draw from later on. Use that horrific life event to develop a perspective for later on when things go wrong. Remind yourself that you've been through worse and you can get through whatever is weighing you down today.
Of all the issues/problems of the human condition, I point to one generally not recognized by most people.
That is, 'unwittingly believing false thoughts', due to conditioning. {Summarized in the following;}
Is It True?
Why do we want/need to know?
Because our amygdalae automatically react to 'believed thoughts' whether true or false and we experience the consequences, even when the affects are dysfunctional.
OP, I think you may not be as issue-free as you thought. Obviously you needed to make this post for some affirmation for your supposedly drama-free life.
It's otherwise known as Wisdom. These forums are filled to the rafters with people who make dumb personal choices, never look ahead, and have the wrong priorities in life, despite a huge accumulated body of wisdom out there begging, pleading with them to not do whatever idiotic thing it is. I mean, it's not as if someone who struggles with addiction wasn't warned what drugs such as heroin or meth would do to them. Don't drink and drive. Don't cheat on your spouse. And the list goes on and on and on. And yet people do.
The road to making money is a pretty clear one: Get a job, work hard and make smart decisions, get a better job, lather, rinse, repeat. It's also pretty easy to improve one's interpersonal skills if one has the initiative -- and more importantly, courage -- to do it. And as far as meaning is concerned, meaning is what you make of things. Having constructed meaning in your life certainly doesn't make you a sheep following the herd. It doesn't make one shallow, if that's what your 'pseudo enlightenment' comment was supposed to imply.
I wasn't implying it makes you a sheep. It's rather presumptuous of you to conclude A-B effort always equals C result; It's like you're saying everyone is born on a level playing field or exact genetic copies of one another. lol. All in all, if I am not mistaken, the jest of your post was
Everyone with no issues= wise
Anyone with issues= dumb piece of crap.
I have all sorts of drama in my life right now with my extended family. But like the OP, I don't let it overwhelm me. I feel completely in control of my mental and emotional stability - which is a familiar feeling since that's pretty much how I've been most of my life.
Actually, in spite of some serious stress factors, I'm quite content and upbeat. I have ongoing problems as well as ongoing pleasantries, and my life has held sorrow, joy, love, hatred, triumph and tragedy and I'm sure there's a lot more of all that coming my way - if I'm lucky.
No one else is responsible for or holds the key to my personal happiness. It's all on me.
"Travel light." That's my motto.
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