Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
About the phone conversation thing: I'm a non- millenial (generation X here) I *hate* talking on the phone. I'm fine in person, can (and often do) chat all day, but if someone (whether I know them very well or not) calls me and expects to have some kind of long phone conversation... Yeah, not gonna happen. I would greatly prefer to send a few simple texts to arrange plans, meeting times, etc.
And you know who messes with their phone the most when we're at dinner and such? My parents and their ilk- NOT my millenial neices and nephews.
I'm a boomer/Gen X. Why are you calling me when we can text?
Imo I see it more as the radio generations, tv generations, and internet generations. Imo the TV generation was at it's wits end. They were the generation that told you to "go outside and play" when they themselves just sat (and most still do) in front of the TV all day.
yeah that is the problem. give them everything under the sun and then feign ignorance at the concept of them turning into lazy, entitled monsters. and then go on a message board and complain about the entire generation when your kid doesn't turn out right.
well i am very happy for you, but this behavior is specific to certain regions of the US, rather than generation/age cohort itself. making eye contact and initiating conversation is a no-no and leads to solicitation, so i avoid it out on the street. funny you bring up genuine. i have plenty of boomer customers and they are genuine alright, genuine jerks.
Well, quite. If Millennials are lazy, entitled and narcissistic, this doesn't reflect positively on Boomers and their ability to parent their children. Both me and my sister (I'm 29, she's 31) were spoiled as children - we got a lot of what we wanted. But this hasn't negatively impacted us in adulthood because neither of us expect everything at once, nor do we expect to receive something for nothing. Then again, our mother is an early Gen Xer, born in 1965, so maybe that's why. We both went to college, but we didn't receive a penny from our parents - we are paying off our student debt entirely on our own. Then again, most students in the UK have to pay off their student debt themselves, whereas American parents seem to be expected to foot the bill.
As for eye contact - well, as someone mentioned, this is dependent on region. In northern Europe, people don't like casual chit-chat, and protracted eye contact with strangers can be unsettling. That isn't in our culture, nor has it ever been. Many Americans find Europeans rude because we don't tip, because we don't strike up conversations with random people and we keep our head down on public transport. But that's just tough.
Smart phones - even my relatives in their 50s spend a lot of time on their phones. When my aunt - who is 55 - visits my grandmother, she spends much of the time with her eyes glued to the screen trawling through Facebook. My mother is nearly 51 and is similar. I often remark to both of them that they spent their entire teen years and most of their young adult years without cellphones of any kind and now they can't live without them. Even my 77 year old grandmother can't seem to stay off Candy Crush for long!
Last edited by dunno what to put here; 06-21-2016 at 09:29 AM..
Sad to say but it isn't just Millenials. I see plenty of older people doing the same thing. This country as a whole is incredibly self-centered and rude.
I have also raised a millennial and I agree with what you say. They are VERY tolerant as a group and despise the trappings of social status. Hence, the popularity of clothes, etc WITHOUT a monogrammed label.
My son works 30 hours a week; attends college full time; and somehow survives on his own in a big city.
He has no interest in working in my cubicle or working a 60 hour week.
I think they are smart myself.
He might have some problems competing in the real work world when he gets out of school. In this economy people are willing to work 60 hrs to keep up with rising costs of living. I don't get how kids expect to have all these options when jobs are so scarce and competition high, and future is so uncertain.
Lets not hate too much on the millennials. It is they who will be first generation to suffer the real effects of the digital user age. Already, we can see among some in their mid 20's a level of physical awkwardness and lack of coordination that is quite striking to see among the young. Then think of the mental and psychological ailments ready to befall this group in the coming years. Lack of humor or spontaneity without first conferring with the little screen.
As an aside, I recently took a consulting role in a startup with the majority of the staff there in their mid 20's. Now this is a young and dynamic workplace and workforce to match. In any given day, in the office environment, humor or fun was non existent. Not a sound in the place for most of the day. When people did laugh it was in line with everybody else. Dullness was everywhere along with a jaded sense of apathy and content to go along with it all and adopt a prickly attitude in the process. Everything was mentioned in terms of "what do i look like on social media". So empty and easy to see why there will be more and more seeking professional help for issues coming to light from lack of real social engagement or participation in the real and usual sense.
You have SO much anger and resentment. Every post you make just drips with it.
The armchair psychologist in me would sure tend to think your overbearing dad had a bit to do with that.
Quote:
Originally Posted by dunno what to put here
If I had a dime for every Millennial who thinks they're better/wiser/more mature than other Millennials or were born 20 years too late, I'd be a millionaire. It's getting really old.
Your post is more reflective of you and your own problems than it is other Millennials. You come across as very angry, and possibly lonely, and I think you need to address these issues, instead of lashing out and blaming other people for your own self-inflicted misery. I've seen countless people in their 20s who are lonely and miserable because they think they're 'too good' to be friends with other people - 'But I'm far too mature! I'm smarter than they are! I hate their consumerist greed!'. Blah blah blah. Give it a rest - the reason you find yourself in this situation is because you're purposefully isolating yourself out of some ridiculous idea that you deserve better or that you're above others. People can smell that kind of gross attitude from a mile away.
I know it's 'trendy' to bash Millennials, but most people of any generation are ordinary people who work ordinary jobs and life ordinary, unremarkable lives. Just like most Baby Boomers are not selfish, most Millennials are not narcissistic - this lazy stereotyping of millions of people (particularly the two largest generations in American history) really needs to stop - it's not helping anyone.
Oh, and by the way, I'm 29 so by most definitions I am firmly at the heart of the Millennial generation. We didn't have a computer at home until I was 13. In the UK, this is quite normal, as the tech/internet boom arrived here later than it did in the US. To make out like people my age grew up under the influence of modern technology is quite absurd - most of us spent our formative years before computers and the internet became ubiquitous.
You two hit the nail on the head. This is why this thread should be taken with a grain of salt. If everyone who is responding to this thread would look up the past threads the OP has made then you would all realize that the problem doesn't lie with millennials or anyone else, it lies with the OP.
OP if you sound as negative and shrill in real life as you do on here then it is no wonder that millennials are not willing to socialize with you. Hell I doubt any person no matter how old they are would be willing to put up with such negativity and pessimism for such a prolonged period of time if this is how you carry yourself.
Please take your "the world and everything in it sucks" act to the older folks and see how long they will tolerate it.
I think socialism is for lazy people , were people would expect a hand out from the leaders of the country , so the country goes broke because there is no money coming in to support socialism
I think socialism is for lazy people , were people would expect a hand out from the leaders of the country , so the country goes broke because there is no money coming in to support socialism
I'm not sure what this has to do with this thread. The P&OC forum is down the hall.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
We both went to college, but we didn't receive a penny from our parents - we are paying off our student debt entirely on our own. Then again, most students in the UK have to pay off their student debt themselves, whereas American parents seem to be expected to foot the bill.
