I love to SPEND TIME ALONE myself rather than be with friends. Is this normal? Psychology logic? (men, girlfriend)
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I think it's hard for people (specially young people) to accept themselves if they are "different" than most of the society. Our society is very social and outgoing, and there's not many of us.:-) My mother and sister can't understand my introvert nature, they think I'm missing on something:-)
Also, it looks like you can go thru slight anxiety, possibly?
I was very lucky to find my husband, who is introvert too. I, personally can't imagine to spend my life with extrovert. It would be very hard for me.
Try not to think about if it's "normal" to be introvert. Yes, it's normal:-) There are people like you, and me:-)
Good luck.
Bo
Thanks for your comments
Yes I feel axiety when Im in big social groups
I definately love 1 to 1 interaction at the best but other people who join tend to interrupt me of just be people I don't want there.
I tend to avoid it.
I guess the problem I have with extroverts is they to have a big load of friends I want absolute no attention from.
I still enjoy the big crowd but usually me socializing by nature I just feel comfy being with one person at a time.
When Im alone I can think freely and don't stress much when someone is next to me.
I never did like being the super big star but instead enjoy being my gf's superstar
I'm extremely gregarious and chatty, but I have absolutely no problem being alone, in fact I prefer it.
I feel the same way.
I just only question it because in our society it seems its more common to expect a load more extroverts than introverts
I do not know if im the only guy who feels like this but thats how I feel at least
I appreciate my zen and piece time
But I also only prefer socializing with only one person at a time for the most part.
I am an extreme introvert.
I have never grown up with many friends ( Only about a few friends, and a girlfriend right now)
I feel odd to say this but I actually love spending time by myself.
Lots of times I do a lot of things by myself ( Apart from spending time with my gf which I love her alot)
I just felt like in my childhood I had many people that took advantage of me and were fake friends and I don't let people approach me that easily in real life, and I carefully consider who is a true friend.
But I like doin things by myself. ( cooking, traveling, reading books, sleeping in, watching a movie, etc)
Am I an odd bug for wanting to spend time by myself?
I do not mind spending time with my gf but I don't mind being by myself either at times.
And also for the most part, I prefer to spend time but only with one person at a time( like its either my girlfriend, or like my best friend)
So if like my girlfriend was with me at a party I love to be with her but JUST HER not have multiple people by my side ( like i get this overwhelmin feeling)
Does anyone else feel just about the same way or similar.?
I feel like I grew up with this mentality because of my childhood.
I feel the same way and always thought it was unusual. I prefer to travel by myself actually, watch movies by myself too. The only thing I don't really like to do by myself is go out to dinner, haven't overcome that feeling of seeming strange sitting there by myself (though I heard of some people that don't feel that way about it).
It's been told to me it's not normal, but that's the way it is with me.
As far as spending time with more than one friend, it's always a huge problem for me when there's just one other person with me (outside of my husband) because I'm terrible at conversation. Whenever I go out with just one person, the entire time is a huge chore for me to come up with things to say (unless they're good conversation). I'd far rather have two or three friends to go out with. Part of why I don't call people that much is that the entire phone conversation is an ordeal for me to go through to come up with things to say (for most people).
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Originally Posted by bohunak
I think it's hard for people (specially young people) to accept themselves if they are "different" than most of the society. Our society is very social and outgoing, and there's not many of us.:-) My mother and sister can't understand my introvert nature, they think I'm missing on something:-)
Also, it looks like you can go thru slight anxiety, possibly?
I was very lucky to find my husband, who is introvert too. I, personally can't imagine to spend my life with extrovert. It would be very hard for me.
Try not to think about if it's "normal" to be introvert. Yes, it's normal:-) There are people like you, and me:-)
Good luck.
Bo
My husband's introverted that way too.
My mother's the one that can't understand how I prefer to travel alone. When I first started doing that she said something like, doesn't it bother you to be all by yourself on your trips? I was like, no I actually prefer it over having someone else with me. She thinks that's very abnormal. And actually, she isn't extroverted at all. She just thinks it's strange for me not to want to have someone with me when I'm on vacation traveling somewhere.
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I much prefer being alone. I have a neighbor who only comes down to my area in the winter and a few weeks in the summer. We became friendly last time she was here but she is one of those people who feel we should hang out every night that she is in town. I have found it exhausting and finally told her I can't deal with these "every night" deals. She seemed a bit insulted. People like that don't understand our need to be "alone" and assume we are anti social when we just value our solitude. Personally I think people who can't ever be alone have more of an issue than us introverts.
She is the exact reason I don't make friends in my complex. I don't want people calling me, texting me or dropping by unannounced expecting me to be thrilled for the company.
I am an extreme introvert.
I have never grown up with many friends ( Only about a few friends, and a girlfriend right now)
I feel odd to say this but I actually love spending time by myself.
Lots of times I do a lot of things by myself ( Apart from spending time with my gf which I love her alot)
I just felt like in my childhood I had many people that took advantage of me and were fake friends and I don't let people approach me that easily in real life, and I carefully consider who is a true friend.
But I like doin things by myself. ( cooking, traveling, reading books, sleeping in, watching a movie, etc)
Am I an odd bug for wanting to spend time by myself?
I do not mind spending time with my gf but I don't mind being by myself either at times.
And also for the most part, I prefer to spend time but only with one person at a time( like its either my girlfriend, or like my best friend)
So if like my girlfriend was with me at a party I love to be with her but JUST HER not have multiple people by my side ( like i get this overwhelmin feeling)
Does anyone else feel just about the same way or similar.?
I feel like I grew up with this mentality because of my childhood.
Not sure why this has to be labeled introversion. This is how you like to spend your time. Putting something w/ a negative connotation on it is just selling yourself short. You're just fine the way you are. This is the way you like to live your life.
I much prefer being alone. I have a neighbor who only comes down to my area in the winter and a few weeks in the summer. We became friendly last time she was here but she is one of those people who feel we should hang out every night that she is in town. I have found it exhausting and finally told her I can't deal with these "every night" deals. She seemed a bit insulted. People like that don't understand our need to be "alone" and assume we are anti social when we just value our solitude. Personally I think people who can't ever be alone have more of an issue than us introverts.
She is the exact reason I don't make friends in my complex. I don't want people calling me, texting me or dropping by unannounced expecting me to be thrilled for the company.
I have a general rule not to make friends w/ people within a mile radius or a walking distance.
I am an extreme introvert.
I have never grown up with many friends ( Only about a few friends, and a girlfriend right now)
I feel odd to say this but I actually love spending time by myself.
Lots of times I do a lot of things by myself ( Apart from spending time with my gf which I love her alot)
Please try not to feel odd. I'm an introvert. We live in a culture which, overall, doesn't accept people like us as we are. For me it's different than being shy. I'm not afraid of people and I don't have problems engaging folks in conversation. But I require time when I like pursuing things on my own. It's absolutely vital for me.
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