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Example if someone doesn't want to come and has nothing else to do but go about their daily lives but says they have other plans, isn't that dishonest, or at best a half truth, why would one not say instead of saying sorry I have other plans to say I just don't want to go or it does not interest me? why are people so evasive of providing these details when rsvping to others? and besides another thing that really annoying me if they do have other plans and its not just a cover up for not wanting to go, why don't they reveal to me what there other plans actually are, example going away, going to a family thing, etc. to me thats a half truth at best, why not reveal the full story then?
Please help me on this one, I would really like to know, I am one who reveals all.
Because they are trying to avoid a confrontation. Or they don't want to hurt your feelings, (just yet) or because they think they want to go - or can force themselves to do it - but at the last minute, can't muster up the strength to go through with it.
Some are well intentioned - but they may suffer from avoidance personality disorder, or social anxiety disorder. Some have difficulty saying "no".
Actually, the person who doesn't care about the 'why' is the one who makes me wonder.
Why?
You're having a party. You want to know how many people are coming.
It's a yes/no question.
What difference does it make WHY? They can't come.
It's snooty, snoopy, and intrusive to demand to know why.
Maybe I have another party.
Maybe I am on my period and have terrible cramps and diarrhea.
Maybe I think your parties are boring.
Maybe I think ALL parties are boring.
Maybe I'm having a colonoscopy that day.
Miss Manners says it is not proper etiquette to demand any sort of reason when someone responds with a No to an invitation. You, OP, are the one being rude.
Miss Manners says it is not proper etiquette to demand any sort of reason when someone responds with a No to an invitation. You, OP, are the one being rude.
Yup.
I never ask why.
But after the third declined invite, I never invite again.
Rare, but I've done it.
People are so rude these days they don't bother to respond. A friend's friend recently decided she won;t be having her annual christmas party this year. She's tired of having to chase people down to get answers.
People are so rude these days they don't bother to respond. A friend's friend recently decided she won;t be having her annual christmas party this year. She's tired of having to chase people down to get answers.
Preach! This is so true. Anymore people don't respond to anything.
Example if someone doesn't want to come and has nothing else to do but go about their daily lives but says they have other plans, isn't that dishonest, or at best a half truth, why would one not say instead of saying sorry I have other plans to say I just don't want to go or it does not interest me? why are people so evasive of providing these details when rsvping to others? and besides another thing that really annoying me if they do have other plans and its not just a cover up for not wanting to go, why don't they reveal to me what there other plans actually are, example going away, going to a family thing, etc. to me thats a half truth at best, why not reveal the full story then?
Please help me on this one, I would really like to know, I am one who reveals all.
Maybe they are just trying to be polite. If they do actually have plans it is really none of your business.
But after the third declined invite, I never invite again.
Rare, but I've done it.
Same, and if somebody who has RSVPd in the affirmative is then a no-show with no explanation, they also don't get future invites.
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