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Originally Posted by JC84
I just got out of a 3 year relationship. I was miserable for most of it. This summer I started looking at my own places and everything. After a big fight, my ex decided to go on a date with his friends sister.
This flipped a switch in me and I suddenly had to have him back. I tried for a month with no success, despite him waffling back and forth. Of course, I'm crushed.
This is so frustrating. I WANTED it to end! Why would his sudden unavailability cause me so much heartbreak?
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Because you find it hard to believe that he CAN be happy without you, and that he has moved on in his life.
Now you need to believe that YOU can be happy without him, and move on in yours....
It's not reverse psychology that's causing you to feel that way....it's more that you don't have faith in yourself, and maybe never recognized that about yourself until he was gone...
You say you were miserable during almost the whole relationship with him....why are you trying to hang onto that?
Would you be willing to be miserable with him again if it meant no one else would have him?